Gift Giving

JackBe Nimble JackBe Nimble
I enjoy giving gifts, I am recently widowed and met someone online. She hinted she wanted a new toy so I sent her some. Then she broke of all contact. The thing is, my wife wasn't into toys, I however enjoy giving. I would really like to give some away. Any volunteers ?
04/19/2009
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Perish Perish
Sorry to hear about your online friend who stopped talking to you, after you had sent her a some things. But yea, i don't think many people are going to be willing to give you their address's even though it would be a nice thing to do.
04/19/2009
JackBe Nimble JackBe Nimble
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Originally posted by Perish
Sorry to hear about your online friend who stopped talking to you, after you had sent her a some things. But yea, i don't think many people are going to be willing to give you their address's even though it would be a nice thing to do.
That I can understand I am the same way, if there could be a way for me to just select them and send them to a existing account, or maybe if the lady receiving had a PO Box. I didn't know giving stuff away is so hard...lol
04/19/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by JackBe Nimble
That I can understand I am the same way, if there could be a way for me to just select them and send them to a existing account, or maybe if the lady receiving had a PO Box. I didn't know giving stuff away is so hard...lol
Well, most of us around here have wishlists but just cause you -can- send us gifts doesn't mean you'll get anything out of it. The internet is full of wishlists you can shop for anonymously if you're just into the giving..

If you want to buy for someone specific, I would make sure you really know how they will react before sending.
04/19/2009
JackBe Nimble JackBe Nimble
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
Well, most of us around here have wishlists but just cause you -can- send us gifts doesn't mean you'll get anything out of it. The internet is full of wishlists you can shop for anonymously if you're just into the giving..

If you ... More
I know it seems odd but I don't want anything out of it, other than maybe a simple thank. I just like giving, I grow a veggie garden and most of what I grow I don't eat. I would gladly contribute to someones wishlist, however, i am new to this and don't know where to find such a wish list.
I thought I knew the person well enough, she seemed thankful, I don't know I never pressed the issue. Anyways, thanks for your reply Adriana. Have a good afternoon.
04/19/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by JackBe Nimble
I know it seems odd but I don't want anything out of it, other than maybe a simple thank. I just like giving, I grow a veggie garden and most of what I grow I don't eat. I would gladly contribute to someones wishlist, however, i am new to ... More
Well, there's a thread on the forum with wishlist links..
04/19/2009
JackBe Nimble JackBe Nimble
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
Well, there's a thread on the forum with wishlist links..
Thank you for the information.
04/19/2009
Sleeping Dreamer Sleeping Dreamer
Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible in every way. She REALLY wanted sex toys (he never thought to think it was odd that this sexually charged women never bought them for herself) so he sent her some. She didn't talk to him for well over 2 weeks so he called her home. She had requested specifically for him not to call past 11 and he thought maybe this was because she was secretly married. A woman answered his call and guess what? It was the womans mother! Come to find out this woman was actually a 15 year old girl. They ordered him to cease contact with her immediately or they would call the police department and slap him with pedophilia charges.

Working as a Web Domme, I know many women online that as soon as they get gifts they block their donors and never bother with them. They got what they wanted, acted like they really needed the guy and then as soon as he gave in to their requests they were done with them or grew tired of them. If the guy pursues and he's already married, they'll threaten to blackmail the husband by telling the wife (which some guys are into) and will request gifts over and over and over until they're sated.

Make sure the next time you gift someone it's a genuine connection, if they even give the hint of a flighty personality then don't bother to pursue any further because you want someone that is willing to get involved and is genuine.
04/19/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible ... More
Wow...! That's sad but... I don't find it unbelievable. With the internet, unless it's a site that requires some sort of ID check, anyone can pose as a younger, older, etc. individual.

But... wow. Those kinds of scammers make me sad.
04/19/2009
Jack Be Nimble Jack Be Nimble
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible ... More
Thanks, I've always been a bit naive when it comes to things like that,I tend to trust what people tell me. I think the lady got what she wanted and was polite after that but nothing more than a quick hello or goodbye.
04/19/2009
Jack Be Nimble Jack Be Nimble
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
Wow...! That's sad but... I don't find it unbelievable. With the internet, unless it's a site that requires some sort of ID check, anyone can pose as a younger, older, etc. individual.

But... wow. Those kinds of scammers make me sad.
It frustrates me , but you can't let the jerks of the world get you down. Chalk it up to experience and move on. I see on peoples wish list that there is a way to gift items but I haven't figured that out yet.
04/19/2009
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible ... More
Holy crap.

I can't even imagine how I'd feel to find out someone I'd been talking with was that young.

Hopefully the parents took the kid in hand and didn't just threaten the guy!
04/19/2009
Perish Perish
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible ... More
Wow that indeed is a very crazy story there... Kids these days omg..
04/20/2009
Mamastoys Mamastoys
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Originally posted by JackBe Nimble
I know it seems odd but I don't want anything out of it, other than maybe a simple thank. I just like giving, I grow a veggie garden and most of what I grow I don't eat. I would gladly contribute to someones wishlist, however, i am new to ... More
You sound like a really sweet person and it's a shame others do you like that.
My dad is the same way with his garden veggies and he loves to do for others so I understand how you feel.
Good luck with your wishes to give to others.. that is a very kind thing to do and I hope whoever you send something to really appreciates it and you...
04/20/2009
Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible ... More
Wow - 15? That sounds like fodder for that Dateline series.
04/20/2009
Oggins Oggins
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible ... More
This is so true and an excellent point! You really never know who you're talking to. Caution is a must to keep yourself protected! Definitely head these words of caution because you'd be surprised at some of the things that can happen. I'm sorry to hear that you may have been taken advantage of but just remember to keep yourself safe too!
04/20/2009
Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
Well, most of us around here have wishlists but just cause you -can- send us gifts doesn't mean you'll get anything out of it. The internet is full of wishlists you can shop for anonymously if you're just into the giving..

If you ... More
I agree completely. I had been writing to someone online who had some questions and the conversations were light and educational. The person I communicated with started to make the conversations more sexual and I was not into that at all. I love talking about sex and sex toys with the EF community but I felt really uncomfortable communicating with this person and I tried to make my responses as nonsexual and short as possible.

One day he said he wanted to buy me a specific toy (that I had mentioned in passing - not "hey, I would like you to buy this toy for me") and thats the day I cut him off. I was so freaked out honestly because my boyfriend would have been crazy furious that another man sent me a sex toy and I dont feel like reviewing a toy and describing all sorts of personal details just to get one person hot and hard. That just grosses me out.

I was so glad he told me of his intentions, that way he saved his money and didn't feel like he was taken advantage of. I seriously don't think that buying toys for someone online is a very good idea according to the issues it engenders. Doing this is more likely to create harm for the giver and the receiver regardless of whether a person is generous in nature or not.

If he would have sent me toys I would have sent them back and explained why I do not wish to communicate anymore, but thats just me. I am really sorry for this frustrating situation that you have lived. No one should be taken advantage of.
04/20/2009
aburnett aburnett
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Originally posted by JackBe Nimble
I enjoy giving gifts, I am recently widowed and met someone online. She hinted she wanted a new toy so I sent her some. Then she broke of all contact. The thing is, my wife wasn't into toys, I however enjoy giving. I would really like to give ... More
I have a wish list lol! I mean, most women on here won't just give out their mailing address, but I would seriously look into the wish list thing if you are seriously wanting to give gifts! Most people on here don't expect it, but I am sure by sending them a message after you send it, to inform them they won't mind. I know I wouldn't, I am bisexual and open about it. I am saving up for a double dong soon. Husband knows I am saving for one and finds it hot if I had one. Just kidding about me, but would be nice. LOL! Hope you have the best of luck!
04/21/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by JackBe Nimble
I enjoy giving gifts, I am recently widowed and met someone online. She hinted she wanted a new toy so I sent her some. Then she broke of all contact. The thing is, my wife wasn't into toys, I however enjoy giving. I would really like to give ... More
I, personally, wouldn't say no to a gift. I don't know many who would!

About this woman online: How strongly did she hint at wanting a new toy? It's possible that she was a scammer, like in Sleeping Dreamer's story, but is it also possible that she wasn't being serious when she said she wanted a toy? At any rate, maybe next time it would be safer to give the recipient of your amazing generosity a heads up before you send anything to them. That's just assuming that you didn't, since you didn't mention it in your story.
04/21/2009
Jack Be Nimble Jack Be Nimble
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
I agree completely. I had been writing to someone online who had some questions and the conversations were light and educational. The person I communicated with started to make the conversations more sexual and I was not into that at all. I love ... More
Yes I can understand what you are saying. I would never knowingly impose on anyones relationship by giving gifts to someone who is involved in a relationship.
I am used to people taking advantage of my kindness. I will not stop or change my attitude because someone took advantage of my kindness. If they are that type of person that is there burden to bare. Thanks for your responce.
04/25/2009
Jack Be Nimble Jack Be Nimble
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
I, personally, wouldn't say no to a gift. I don't know many who would!

About this woman online: How strongly did she hint at wanting a new toy? It's possible that she was a scammer, like in Sleeping Dreamer's story, but is it ... More
I didn't bring it up. SHe brought up the discussion by saying that she wanted something that was a popular toy at the time. I had never heard it before so i researched it. After talking a few more times she stated the fact that she would like to have have this certain item. I then got it for her. Anyway, water under the bridge. I would never give anyone anything like that unless they were specific in what they wanted. I used to be married, I tried buying clothes for my wife , I learned quickly that was a very bad idea. I learned that she much preffered just getting the money and getting her own clothes.
04/25/2009
Mamastoys Mamastoys
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Originally posted by Jack Be Nimble
I didn't bring it up. SHe brought up the discussion by saying that she wanted something that was a popular toy at the time. I had never heard it before so i researched it. After talking a few more times she stated the fact that she would like to ... More
I love my hubby buying my clothes! I hate going shopping...
It is so easy to get taken of advantage of but it's the other person's burden to bear, not yours..what goes around comes around...hers will come
04/25/2009
Jack Be Nimble Jack Be Nimble
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Originally posted by Mamastoys
I love my hubby buying my clothes! I hate going shopping...
It is so easy to get taken of advantage of but it's the other person's burden to bear, not yours..what goes around comes around...hers will come
Well I learned the hard way. I bought her clothes that fit. My father told me that is where I messed up. If you buy clothes, buy them a size smaller than what they actually wear. That way the wife would think that you think of her being a size smaller thasn she actually is..go figure.
Yes, the manipulater will eventually have the tables turned on them.
04/25/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by Jack Be Nimble
I didn't bring it up. SHe brought up the discussion by saying that she wanted something that was a popular toy at the time. I had never heard it before so i researched it. After talking a few more times she stated the fact that she would like to ... More
Thanks for the clarification. Again, I am really sorry that this happened to you...
04/25/2009
Jack Be Nimble Jack Be Nimble
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
Thanks for the clarification. Again, I am really sorry that this happened to you...
No problem, so much can get lost in typing so it's always good to ask for more facts rather than to judge based on strictly whats written.
And it's quite all right, Thanks again for everyones input, it's nice to actually be able to converse and get feedback from people who are understanding.
04/25/2009
Mamastoys Mamastoys
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Originally posted by Jack Be Nimble
Well I learned the hard way. I bought her clothes that fit. My father told me that is where I messed up. If you buy clothes, buy them a size smaller than what they actually wear. That way the wife would think that you think of her being a size ... More
Hubby fits me better than I do.. the heck with sizes..it's the thoughts of not having to go shopping myself! LOL We've been together long enough that he should know what size I am..I would get mad if he didn't! LOL
04/26/2009
Jack Be Nimble Jack Be Nimble
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Originally posted by Mamastoys
Hubby fits me better than I do.. the heck with sizes..it's the thoughts of not having to go shopping myself! LOL We've been together long enough that he should know what size I am..I would get mad if he didn't! LOL
I hear ya, twasa long time ago that happened.
04/30/2009
Phoenix713 Phoenix713
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible ... More
That's really sad! I guess a desperate child would do that, though, no offense intended. At first upon reading this story I thought the mother had FOUND the toys and that's why all contact was blocked. I wonder if anyone ever specifically asked the girl what she did that for?
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