Gift Giving

Well, most of us around here have wishlists but just cause you -can- send us gifts doesn't mean you'll get anything out of it. The internet is full of wishlists you can shop for anonymously if you're just into the giving..

If you want to buy for someone specific, I would make sure you really know how they will react before sending.

I know it seems odd but I don't want anything out of it, other than maybe a simple thank. I just like giving, I grow a veggie garden and most of what I grow I don't eat. I would gladly contribute to someones wishlist, however, i am new to this and don't know where to find such a wish list.
I thought I knew the person well enough, she seemed thankful, I don't know I never pressed the issue. Anyways, thanks for your reply Adriana. Have a good afternoon.

Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible in every way. She REALLY wanted sex toys (he never thought to think it was odd that this sexually charged women never bought them for herself) so he sent her some. She didn't talk to him for well over 2 weeks so he called her home. She had requested specifically for him not to call past 11 and he thought maybe this was because she was secretly married. A woman answered his call and guess what? It was the womans mother! Come to find out this woman was actually a 15 year old girl. They ordered him to cease contact with her immediately or they would call the police department and slap him with pedophilia charges.

Working as a Web Domme, I know many women online that as soon as they get gifts they block their donors and never bother with them. They got what they wanted, acted like they really needed the guy and then as soon as he gave in to their requests they were done with them or grew tired of them. If the guy pursues and he's already married, they'll threaten to blackmail the husband by telling the wife (which some guys are into) and will request gifts over and over and over until they're sated.

Make sure the next time you gift someone it's a genuine connection, if they even give the hint of a flighty personality then don't bother to pursue any further because you want someone that is willing to get involved and is genuine.

Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible in every way. She REALLY wanted sex toys (he never thought to think it was odd that this sexually charged women never bought them for herself) so he sent her some. She didn't talk to him for well over 2 weeks so he called her home. She had requested specifically for him not to call past 11 and he thought maybe this was because she was secretly married. A woman answered his call and guess what? It was the womans mother! Come to find out this woman was actually a 15 year old girl. They ordered him to cease contact with her immediately or they would call the police department and slap him with pedophilia charges.

Working as a Web Domme, I know many women online that as soon as they get gifts they block their donors and never bother with them. They got what they wanted, acted like they really needed the guy and then as soon as he gave in to their requests they were done with them or grew tired of them. If the guy pursues and he's already married, they'll threaten to blackmail the husband by telling the wife (which some guys are into) and will request gifts over and over and over until they're sated.

Make sure the next time you gift someone it's a genuine connection, if they even give the hint of a flighty personality then don't bother to pursue any further because you want someone that is willing to get involved and is genuine.

Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible in every way. She REALLY wanted sex toys (he never thought to think it was odd that this sexually charged women never bought them for herself) so he sent her some. She didn't talk to him for well over 2 weeks so he called her home. She had requested specifically for him not to call past 11 and he thought maybe this was because she was secretly married. A woman answered his call and guess what? It was the womans mother! Come to find out this woman was actually a 15 year old girl. They ordered him to cease contact with her immediately or they would call the police department and slap him with pedophilia charges.

Working as a Web Domme, I know many women online that as soon as they get gifts they block their donors and never bother with them. They got what they wanted, acted like they really needed the guy and then as soon as he gave in to their requests they were done with them or grew tired of them. If the guy pursues and he's already married, they'll threaten to blackmail the husband by telling the wife (which some guys are into) and will request gifts over and over and over until they're sated.

Make sure the next time you gift someone it's a genuine connection, if they even give the hint of a flighty personality then don't bother to pursue any further because you want someone that is willing to get involved and is genuine.

I know it seems odd but I don't want anything out of it, other than maybe a simple thank. I just like giving, I grow a veggie garden and most of what I grow I don't eat. I would gladly contribute to someones wishlist, however, i am new to this and don't know where to find such a wish list.
I thought I knew the person well enough, she seemed thankful, I don't know I never pressed the issue. Anyways, thanks for your reply Adriana. Have a good afternoon.

Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible in every way. She REALLY wanted sex toys (he never thought to think it was odd that this sexually charged women never bought them for herself) so he sent her some. She didn't talk to him for well over 2 weeks so he called her home. She had requested specifically for him not to call past 11 and he thought maybe this was because she was secretly married. A woman answered his call and guess what? It was the womans mother! Come to find out this woman was actually a 15 year old girl. They ordered him to cease contact with her immediately or they would call the police department and slap him with pedophilia charges.

Working as a Web Domme, I know many women online that as soon as they get gifts they block their donors and never bother with them. They got what they wanted, acted like they really needed the guy and then as soon as he gave in to their requests they were done with them or grew tired of them. If the guy pursues and he's already married, they'll threaten to blackmail the husband by telling the wife (which some guys are into) and will request gifts over and over and over until they're sated.

Make sure the next time you gift someone it's a genuine connection, if they even give the hint of a flighty personality then don't bother to pursue any further because you want someone that is willing to get involved and is genuine.

Well, most of us around here have wishlists but just cause you -can- send us gifts doesn't mean you'll get anything out of it. The internet is full of wishlists you can shop for anonymously if you're just into the giving..

If you want to buy for someone specific, I would make sure you really know how they will react before sending.

I enjoy giving gifts, I am recently widowed and met someone online. She hinted she wanted a new toy so I sent her some. Then she broke of all contact. The thing is, my wife wasn't into toys, I however enjoy giving. I would really like to give some away. Any volunteers ?

I enjoy giving gifts, I am recently widowed and met someone online. She hinted she wanted a new toy so I sent her some. Then she broke of all contact. The thing is, my wife wasn't into toys, I however enjoy giving. I would really like to give some away. Any volunteers ?

I agree completely. I had been writing to someone online who had some questions and the conversations were light and educational. The person I communicated with started to make the conversations more sexual and I was not into that at all. I love talking about sex and sex toys with the EF community but I felt really uncomfortable communicating with this person and I tried to make my responses as nonsexual and short as possible.

One day he said he wanted to buy me a specific toy (that I had mentioned in passing - not "hey, I would like you to buy this toy for me") and thats the day I cut him off. I was so freaked out honestly because my boyfriend would have been crazy furious that another man sent me a sex toy and I dont feel like reviewing a toy and describing all sorts of personal details just to get one person hot and hard. That just grosses me out.

I was so glad he told me of his intentions, that way he saved his money and didn't feel like he was taken advantage of. I seriously don't think that buying toys for someone online is a very good idea according to the issues it engenders. Doing this is more likely to create harm for the giver and the receiver regardless of whether a person is generous in nature or not.

If he would have sent me toys I would have sent them back and explained why I do not wish to communicate anymore, but thats just me. I am really sorry for this frustrating situation that you have lived. No one should be taken advantage of.

I, personally, wouldn't say no to a gift. I don't know many who would!

About this woman online: How strongly did she hint at wanting a new toy? It's possible that she was a scammer, like in Sleeping Dreamer's story, but is it also possible that she wasn't being serious when she said she wanted a toy? At any rate, maybe next time it would be safer to give the recipient of your amazing generosity a heads up before you send anything to them. That's just assuming that you didn't, since you didn't mention it in your story.

I didn't bring it up. SHe brought up the discussion by saying that she wanted something that was a popular toy at the time. I had never heard it before so i researched it. After talking a few more times she stated the fact that she would like to have have this certain item. I then got it for her. Anyway, water under the bridge. I would never give anyone anything like that unless they were specific in what they wanted. I used to be married, I tried buying clothes for my wife , I learned quickly that was a very bad idea. I learned that she much preffered just getting the money and getting her own clothes.

I didn't bring it up. SHe brought up the discussion by saying that she wanted something that was a popular toy at the time. I had never heard it before so i researched it. After talking a few more times she stated the fact that she would like to have have this certain item. I then got it for her. Anyway, water under the bridge. I would never give anyone anything like that unless they were specific in what they wanted. I used to be married, I tried buying clothes for my wife , I learned quickly that was a very bad idea. I learned that she much preffered just getting the money and getting her own clothes.

Well I learned the hard way. I bought her clothes that fit. My father told me that is where I messed up. If you buy clothes, buy them a size smaller than what they actually wear. That way the wife would think that you think of her being a size smaller thasn she actually is..go figure.
Yes, the manipulater will eventually have the tables turned on them.

Actually, this may sound unbelievable but a good male friend of mine did the same thing. He met a girl on an adult themed social networking site and completely hit it off. She was his perfect everything and supposedly, they were sexually compatible in every way. She REALLY wanted sex toys (he never thought to think it was odd that this sexually charged women never bought them for herself) so he sent her some. She didn't talk to him for well over 2 weeks so he called her home. She had requested specifically for him not to call past 11 and he thought maybe this was because she was secretly married. A woman answered his call and guess what? It was the womans mother! Come to find out this woman was actually a 15 year old girl. They ordered him to cease contact with her immediately or they would call the police department and slap him with pedophilia charges.

Working as a Web Domme, I know many women online that as soon as they get gifts they block their donors and never bother with them. They got what they wanted, acted like they really needed the guy and then as soon as he gave in to their requests they were done with them or grew tired of them. If the guy pursues and he's already married, they'll threaten to blackmail the husband by telling the wife (which some guys are into) and will request gifts over and over and over until they're sated.

Make sure the next time you gift someone it's a genuine connection, if they even give the hint of a flighty personality then don't bother to pursue any further because you want someone that is willing to get involved and is genuine.