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is there anything that numbs the anus a little bit? I'm having issues with intitial pain, even when we use lube.
Please don't use any numbing agents! Please! Pain is your body's way of telling you that something is wrong. If you're doing it correctly, it shouldn't hurt. There may be slight pain upon initial insertion, but it's never going to be completely painless. If it hurts, stop. Relax. Breathe. Add more lube. Use fingers, toys, whatever to warm up. You should be using a lubricant with about the consistency of a hair gel, as this helps for anal penetration.
But if you've numbed the area, you're not going to know if something rips or tears because you won't be able to feel it. Pain is your body telling you that something is wrong. If you can't feel that, then you won't know if something really does rip or tear. You'll have no idea that there is a problem. They are really unsafe and I really wouldn't recommend them. At all.