We really like coconut oil. It is a solid a room temp, but it melts at body temp. We keep a small container of it and heat it up on a small heating pad that we also use to warm up glass and metal toys before use. We frequently use coconut oil for massage, hand jobs and anal play. We do Not use it for it for vaginal use.
I read somewhere that it is not good to use any oil based lubricant for vaginal use.