how do you bring up sex?

tlaskowski tlaskowski
I was wondering how do you bring up sex to your children and at what age did you start?
11/11/2011
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geliebt geliebt
I don't have any kids, but I think my parents dealt with it pretty well. I don't ever remember having THE TALK, but I was vaguely familiar with the general concept from a pretty young age. I had a kid's book that explained how sex worked in a simple, age appropriate and frank way, which I think was awesome and just laid out the absolute basics of it all. My parents never sought to NOT tell me things if I asked questions, which was also awesome!
I think it's important to just have the facts available, introduce them in age-appropriate ways and be clear with your children.
11/24/2011
teachmetouchme teachmetouchme
That's a tough question. I have worked with children and note that some of them know way too much at a very young age and some know nothing at a rather advanced age. If I were going to talk to kids about sex, I would begin by asking a few questions to see where they are at and go from there. I would always use love in the topic.
12/01/2011
Chirple Chirple
I am also not a parent, but when I was nine, I asked my mom "why do people like to have sex if having a baby hurts so much ?"

Then we had "the talk" and the rest I learned from the internet.

It worked, but I don't think it was ideal. We were taught basically nothing about the female anatomy in school. I learned what a clit was only from a friend - it was never brought up, even in high-school when they had to make sure we still remembered what a scrotum was.

If I had kids, I'd like to think I'd be able to talk to them and introduce them to things as they were ready. Kids are smart and understand a lot more than some parents give them credit for.
12/01/2011
Katelyn Katelyn
My parents bought me some books on the subject and let me know that they were always willing to talk to me about the subject if I had any questions. I think having not only one conversation but having an ongoing series of discussions is important.
12/05/2011
sweetcaroline sweetcaroline
whatever you do, don't go all jesus crazy on them. that's what my parents did. it made me scared of boys at a very young age.
12/08/2011
Oomph2687 Oomph2687
My mom gave me the "talk" at like age 11. but they start sex-ed in like 6th grade now.
12/14/2011
CrystaCat CrystaCat
Quote:
Originally posted by Chirple
I am also not a parent, but when I was nine, I asked my mom "why do people like to have sex if having a baby hurts so much ?"

Then we had "the talk" and the rest I learned from the internet.

It worked, but I ... More
OK so I am a parents my daughter is only five... When she was going through my closet she found a box to my bullet and kept saying mommy what is that? what is it for? I told her don't worry about it... But when she is old enough I think I could have the "Sex" talk with her... I will tell her when she is 30 she can have sex but I don't want to know the details.............(d isgust)
12/18/2011
SaraU29 SaraU29
Quote:
Originally posted by tlaskowski
I was wondering how do you bring up sex to your children and at what age did you start?
We approach that touchy subject with each one of our kids; some are ready/mature enough before others, It all depends on your child.
12/21/2011
SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I think 13 is a good age, personally.
03/11/2012
Dawnie Dawnie
I never got a talk.. I was already pretty aware around 5 years old.. Children find this shit out, and they just spread it to everyone like a plague. I think you should let them bring it up.. under age 13. But after that point, take the initiative.
03/14/2012
x203 x203
never got a talk. learned it all from my friends. my parents are all old school anyway, they think no guy will want a woman who isnt a virgin until marriage or who has piercings or tattoos. they also think women who don't fit that homemaker role wont be wanted. so ridiculous. i learned myself through friends and whatnot.
04/17/2012
anonkitty anonkitty
Like the other two posters above, I never got the talk. I think my parents tried to bring it up a few times while I was in elementary school, but never got into the details. It was mostly: "Sex is something that you should only have with someone that you care about. And we prefer that you wait until marriage."
04/18/2012
gorgeous gorgeous
I'm 19 and I've still never had the talk with my parents. You do have sex ed class in elementary school. Other than that I had to figure it out on my own.
04/20/2012
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