Is 16 years too much of an age difference?

Irish Fyre Queen Irish Fyre Queen
So, my husband is 16 years my senior. I was 19 and he was 35 when we started seeing each other. I don't see an issue with it but my husband says "I can't think of myself at 16 years old looking into baby carriages and thinking 'yep, you're gonna be mine'" Lol. I'm now 30 and he's 46. So, is 16 years too much?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
dv8 , wrecklesswords , Ansley , edeneve , Wicked Wahine , C&K0143 , Isola , PadoruLover , Pete's Princess , Graniteal , Kipperanne , Velociraptor , Dirtylilcupcake , Castielskitten , werewolf , ytakN , Meltingfish , nikki0668 , remember.me , U3H , wicked weasel , VenusianThunder
22  (76%)
mfmtrios , Trixxxy , ChaoticNight , RonLee , PurpleWitchDragon2018 , bbygrl1988 , Jenimi
7  (24%)
Total votes: 29
Poll is open
Jan 15, 12:29 am
  • Add More Pleasure to Your Collection! Buy 1 Vibe, Get 1 FREE
  • Better Price Sale - Save 50%
  • Better Price Sale - Save 70%
  • Better Price Sale - Save 60%
  • Better Price - Save 40%
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Definitely not. It would be different if it was like his little joke statement, haha. Or even if you had been 16 yourself and he so much older.

The fact of the matter is that you two have been together for so long and made it work, because yes, which such an age gap and you having been so young at the time, there was a vast maturity difference I'm sure. HOWEVER, you two have obviously made it work out, and that is all that matters in the end.

Age is just a number at the end of the day.

I dated a man 15 years my senior once and it was good until I realized he was more immature than I was, hah!
Jan 15, 10:24 am
Ansley Ansley
Um, Fire are you me? Cause that is exactly when my husband and I hooked up and we share the same age difference. We've been together for almost 14 years. If two people are complimentary and work well together in the relationship, it doesn't matter what their ages are.
Jan 15, 11:31 am
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
Um, Fire are you me? Cause that is exactly when my husband and I hooked up and we share the same age difference. We've been together for almost 14 years. If two people are complimentary and work well together in the relationship, it doesn't ... More
My mother is 8 years older than my dad, but you really couldn't tell because my mother really looks ten years younger than she really is at all times.
Jan 15, 11:32 am
edeneve edeneve
if it works for BOTH of you, then you have your answer.
Jan 15, 4:29 pm
mfmtrios mfmtrios
Quote:
Originally posted by edeneve
if it works for BOTH of you, then you have your answer.
Agreed, it is a non-issue unless you let it be.
Jan 23, 8:29 pm
Isola Isola
My boyfriend is 16 years older than me. The age difference doesn't matter to me because we get along just fine
Jan 23, 11:22 pm
PadoruLover PadoruLover
As far as I'm concerned as long as everyone is over 18 and concenting it shouldn't matter what age they are.
Jan 24, 10:19 pm
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
If it works for you then why do you care? For some people 16 years is too much and others not.
Jan 24, 11:28 pm
Kipperanne Kipperanne
if it works for you perfect! my husband to be and I are 20 years apart. Im younger 25 hes 45
Feb 6, 7:18 pm
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
Quote:
Originally posted by Irish Fyre Queen
So, my husband is 16 years my senior. I was 19 and he was 35 when we started seeing each other. I don't see an issue with it but my husband says "I can't think of myself at 16 years old looking into baby carriages and thinking 'yep, ... More
For me? I'd say yes. I always preferred potential partners to be within 3 years of my age. I know two couples however who are 13 years apart. One is my husband's parents, and the other being a colleague of mine. In both cases the woman is younger.
Apr 4, 1:21 pm
Castielskitten Castielskitten
Of course not, and I like that baby carriage comment XD. My husband and I are 18 years apart, and we joke about how he stole me from the cradle. He'd tell me he's rocking the cradle and I'm like, "You're ROBBING it!" We actually found out we possibly met when I was a child and he was in his 20's because we used to go to the very same restaurant all the time. Also found out he happened to be in the town when I was being born.
May 1, 10:32 am
SexScienceAndFood SexScienceAndFood
As long as things are legal, meh. Though a difference in age is still a relative metric, and delta/baseline (age difference/min age) is a better metric. 16 years apart when the youngest is 18 is judged way differently in the eyes of the public then when the youngest is 40.
Jul 23, 8:47 am
Trixxxy Trixxxy
I see no issue with it.
Jul 23, 8:14 pm
Meltingfish Meltingfish
Quote:
Originally posted by Irish Fyre Queen
So, my husband is 16 years my senior. I was 19 and he was 35 when we started seeing each other. I don't see an issue with it but my husband says "I can't think of myself at 16 years old looking into baby carriages and thinking 'yep, ... More
IMO, the older you are the less it matters. 16 years is a big difference, but it's not creepy.
Jul 25, 4:16 pm
nikki0668 nikki0668
For a lot of people age is a number. It all depends on the couple. In my case, I was married to a man who was 17 1/2 years older than me, and it did not work out for us due to the age difference.
Jul 25, 11:07 pm
remember.me remember.me
Nope. I really truly believe the only thing which matters is compatibility in important areas. I'm still looking, and I've dated men younger than me by a year or two, to men 20 years older than me. Their age or the difference has been the least of my concerns. I've never really gone more than a year or two below me though. I just find men younger than me to be too immature for my tastes although I never rule anyone out based on that alone. I've just always been attracted to older men.
Jul 26, 12:28 am
ChaoticNight ChaoticNight
Quote:
Originally posted by PadoruLover
As far as I'm concerned as long as everyone is over 18 and concenting it shouldn't matter what age they are.
Agreed. If you are two consenting adults, what matters is how you both personally feel about your relationship. Different people mature at different rates, so that can be an issue whether you have a small age gap or a larger one. It's possible if you two had met at a different time, you wouldn't have been ready to date each other, but it worked out the way it did so that's what's important. It can be weird to talk about the age difference in terms of "when I was X You were Y" , but again just think about how it ended up working out , you guys met at ages you worked out and that's what matters.
Jul 26, 2:41 am
bbygrl1988 bbygrl1988
Quote:
Originally posted by Irish Fyre Queen
So, my husband is 16 years my senior. I was 19 and he was 35 when we started seeing each other. I don't see an issue with it but my husband says "I can't think of myself at 16 years old looking into baby carriages and thinking 'yep, ... More
I personally wouldn't want a 16 year age difference I don't think, but if you find that right person age probably wouldn't matter as much.
Aug 22, 7:17 pm
Total posts: 19
Unique posters: 18