Why do guys go soft? What can I do about it?

socceras socceras
Particularly younger guys. If you are having sex and everything aren't you supposed to be turned on? Especially if the girl is frikin hot, what makes it happen? Is there anything the girl can do to prevent it? Like do they not like what they see or is it them?
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ScottA ScottA
Anxiety, stress, etcetera can cause wilting in the male. It can also happen if the guy isn't in good shape.
11/07/2010
Tuesday Tuesday
Alcohol and drugs also reduce a guy's ability to stay hard. It happens to all guys or at least I've seen it happen on occasion to guys who normally had no problem staying hard. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or that there's anything you did.
11/07/2010
Fierce Like Tiger Fierce Like Tiger
Could be any number of things. Staying hard isn't as simple as simply being turned on. As scottA said, stress, anxiety, pressure to perform, etc. can all have an effect. For some guys, it can become a mind game.
11/17/2010
Luvbugleah Luvbugleah
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Originally posted by socceras
Particularly younger guys. If you are having sex and everything aren't you supposed to be turned on? Especially if the girl is frikin hot, what makes it happen? Is there anything the girl can do to prevent it? Like do they not like what they ... More
There are many reasons. The best thing to is to live a somewhat healthy life take care of your body. If you are having major difficulties I would suggest seeing the Doc
11/18/2010
jb1walker jb1walker
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Originally posted by socceras
Particularly younger guys. If you are having sex and everything aren't you supposed to be turned on? Especially if the girl is frikin hot, what makes it happen? Is there anything the girl can do to prevent it? Like do they not like what they ... More
Maybe just nervousness, most likely though he just came right away, two word oral sex, works wonders
11/23/2010
J's Alley J's Alley
If it was as simple as being turned on there are men who would be in some real trouble...like my man. He'd never go down. I know there is a lot that can go into what causes it though.
11/23/2010
darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
My boyfriend does sometimes when we are actually having sex, though it is because he can't really feel anything through the condoms anymore.
11/23/2010
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I've had that happen to a guy I was with once. I felt terrible about myself for a few seconds, because I thought it was ME he wasn't attracted to. But like mentioned before, stress and anxiety are two huge things that can make a guy go soft. Don't worry, it's very unlikely that it's you.
11/23/2010
danj67 danj67
Speaking from a guys point of view.... It has little to do with if we are turned on or not....So many factors can kill the wood....

It is just a fact of life and more than likely will happen to everyone at some point or time....
11/26/2010
Tidwtrguy Tidwtrguy
It is easier to explain physics than explain 'wood.' Looks aren't everything and sex for a guy can be as much mental as it is physical. In a really long session, some guys may get hard and soften up some and then hard again a few times. Sometimes the same sensation for a long period desensitizes his rod and you may want to change things up. Other times, it could be stress, nervousness, or a whole host of factors.

Another thing is that the bigger it is, the easier it is to fall. From what I've seen, average to smaller tools stay rock hard much better than the big ones. Also, when your sex sessions involve some gymnastics and wild positions…if he is getting a real cardio workout, that means less blood is heading to his love muscle.
12/16/2010
Blakiepoo Blakiepoo
It's true, it's sometimes not about being into it, it can happen solo too. It's kind of fucked up.

It used to happen to me because of a med I was taking. And it happens in the morning sometimes. Morning sessions make me lose excitement halfway. But an hour after waking up is all good. *shrug*
12/16/2010
Fun Lover Fun Lover
Stress can be a major factor.
12/16/2010
B8trDude B8trDude
Stay away from cold showers . . .
12/16/2010
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Tidwtrguy
It is easier to explain physics than explain 'wood.' Looks aren't everything and sex for a guy can be as much mental as it is physical. In a really long session, some guys may get hard and soften up some and then hard again a few ... More
If he's in better shape then things stay up better.
12/16/2010
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