Would you marry someone with Aspergers?

RememberMe RememberMe
Would you marry someone with Aspergers?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes
Inkkythesquid , Llewey , Ryuson , BabyL0ve , damnbul12 , The Mother of a SiNner , Ivanna , Jessie<3 , jc123 , GONE! , Aishiteru , kendra30752 , Sera26 , Jewlickah , bratcat , rmiles124 , comatose-kitty , chantalgiardina , doowop , purpledesert , Eugler , KinkyKatieJames , MistressDandelion , XxFallenAngelxX , Airen Wolf , KrissyNovacaine , Genderfree
27  (66%)
No
padmeamidala , Incendiaire , Voir , ginnyluvspotter , Mrs.Tee , Kristi :) , Noelle , Silverwinds , SourAppleMartini
9  (22%)
I'm not getting married.
skeeterlynn , deltalima , Terri69 , Ayogirl230 , sweetpea12
5  (12%)
Total votes: 41
Poll is closed
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Supervixen Supervixen
That would depend very much on the person and the degree of severity of the Aspergers. I've babysat kids with Aspergers before, and they were on different places on the spectrum. One was very difficult to relate with, and the other had a much milder version of it and I grew to be very fond of him. It really depends.
11/17/2012
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Would you marry someone with Aspergers?
I am already married to someone and He does not have Aspergers.
11/17/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
I'm already married as well, so the question doesn't directly apply. If I wasn't, it would depend on how severe it was. I have Bipolar and other disorders myself. If the Aspergers wasn't to the point of having a negative affect on my mood swings, then sure.
11/17/2012
Inkkythesquid Inkkythesquid
I think love is love, if i were to fall for somebody with aspergers, why wouldn't i marry them?
11/17/2012
Taylor Taylor
I feel like I would have a difficult time with it, so I doubt I would marry someone with aspbergers.
11/17/2012
Voir Voir
No.
I have nothing against people with disorders and such but I do not feel I am emotionally, mentally or physically equipped to handle or be in a relationship with someone with ASpergers, nor do I feel they would benefit from a relationship with me as I have a rather recalcitrant attitude much of the time and no... it would just be a very bad mix.
11/17/2012
Llewey Llewey
I actually tend to be attracted to honesty and mild social awkwardness, so yes. Both my ex and current boyfriend are undiagnosed, but probable for high-functioning Asperger's. Then again, I'm diagnosed Asperger's since 3rd grade, so of course I'll have a bias. :p

I think complicated people, as long as they can function in society, are generally more interesting. Most Asperger's-diagnosed people I've met tend to be free thinkers and highly individualistic, and I respect that.
11/17/2012
skeeterlynn skeeterlynn
Quote:
Originally posted by Supervixen
That would depend very much on the person and the degree of severity of the Aspergers. I've babysat kids with Aspergers before, and they were on different places on the spectrum. One was very difficult to relate with, and the other had a much ... More
Agreed.
11/17/2012
damnbul12 damnbul12
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Would you marry someone with Aspergers?
sure
11/17/2012
The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Would you marry someone with Aspergers?
i think that when you love someone then you love all of them even their flaws and difficulties
11/17/2012
ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
I dont think i could
11/17/2012
Ivanna Ivanna
Quote:
Originally posted by The Mother of a SiNner
i think that when you love someone then you love all of them even their flaws and difficulties
I agree, if you love him or her then why not.
11/17/2012
Terri69 Terri69
I'm not getting married
11/18/2012
GONE! GONE!
Sure why not? I have my own issues to deal with. If they could put up with mine, it would be a-okay.
11/18/2012
Aishiteru Aishiteru
As long as I love them and am compatible with them.
11/18/2012
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Would you marry someone with Aspergers?
I certainly wouldn't NOT marry someone because they had Aspergers. That would not even stop me from my loved one. No siree. Heck, I have my own condition that is very hard for my partner or others around me to deal with -- Misophonia or MS. It's a condition where certain sound sends me into a blind raging fury and I think it makes me more sensitive to others who deal with their own issues that they can't help -- and that doesn't stop my partner from wanting to be with/around me. Aspergers would never be something that was intolerable for me in a partner.
11/18/2012
Sera26 Sera26
If we were in love. I'm also an aspie so why would I discriminate against someone like myself (or anyone for that matter)?

Would you marry someone who isn't the same race as you?
(because that's how these threads are starting to sound. Yes I can do sarcasm.)
11/18/2012
Llewey Llewey
Quote:
Originally posted by Sera26
If we were in love. I'm also an aspie so why would I discriminate against someone like myself (or anyone for that matter)?

Would you marry someone who isn't the same race as you?
(because that's how these threads are starting ... More
Agreed. Another (very similar) thread used the phrase "deal with" to refer to having a partner with Asperger's. I'm pretty sure if you feel you need to "deal with" someone who has Asperger's, you probably should not be dating anyone on the spectrum.
11/19/2012
Jewlickah Jewlickah
I love a couple of people who have Asperger's, so yeah, I don't see a reason not to.
11/23/2012
Istanbull Istanbull
Probably not.
11/23/2012
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
If they loved me
12/01/2012
Eugler Eugler
Quote:
Originally posted by Llewey
I actually tend to be attracted to honesty and mild social awkwardness, so yes. Both my ex and current boyfriend are undiagnosed, but probable for high-functioning Asperger's. Then again, I'm diagnosed Asperger's since 3rd grade, so of ... More
I think that I'm an asperger, too. But I've never been tested. The tests at the internet give Asperger-positive results.

One of my friends at university was diagnosed asperger. I can second your statement: He was one of the freest thinkers I've met and I really envied him for his ability to not give a fuck what others say.
02/01/2013
Kristi :) Kristi :)
I see this is an old post.. but still!! This kind of thing upsets me!!! Asperger’s Syndrome is just another label that society has put on a group of people that has been widely accepted.

Beginning of my rant…. I have read some brain science books and find them to be fascinating. There are 7 parts of the brain that deal with different areas of thinking. Some people claim 8, one being nature but I don’t agree with that! Anyway, everyone loops through these 7 types of thinking/intelligences . What makes *YOU* special is the order that you loop through these 7 parts; your first two being dominate and making you who you are. Ever feel like you just click or connect with someone and can’t explain it? Well, your brains probably loop through the 7 very similarly. The seven are as follows….

1. INTRAPERSONAL thinking. Deep thinkers, they need to be quiet to build memory and use their brain. They don’t work well in groups or group discussions.
2. INTERPERSONAL thinking. Chatty people, think and build memory by talking and socializing, like bouncing lots of ideas off people. Thoughts and memories can form while in the process of speaking!
3. LINGUISTIC thinking. Think and build memory through words, written and spoken. They need to ask a lot of questions and repeat things over and over and over (until you wanna scream at them!). These people usually speak more than one language and/or have extended vocabulary.
4. LOGICAL/MATHEMATICAL thinking. Reasoning, and build memory through analyzing. These people love numbers and will calculate prices per ounce or each in the store very quickly and enjoy it.
5. KINESTHECTIC thinking. Thinking and memory is built through movement, sounds and touching. These people tend not to be able to sit still and if you show them something they immediately want/need to touch it.
6. MUSICAL thinking. Memory is built through rhythm, melodies and intuition. These people will always have music on, singing, humming, writing music, tapping their foot, whistling, and will mostly likely write music and play one or more instruments.
7. VISUAL/SPATIAL thinking. Thinking in images and pictures and even abstracts. Have to visualize and build memory through imagining things in detail, will often ask for specific details. These people are usually designers, architects, artists and/or some type of building or creating from nothing.

I, myself, am first interpersonal and second kinesthetic. That means that the school labeled me as a “problem” for squirming around in my seat, humiliated me and because I’m interpersonal, social, I got the idea loud and clear that I was being shamed and sat still and was unable to learn well until I was high school and better able to deal with needing to move as I learned. Also, my linguistic thinking is low, which means TROUBLE grasping the English language. LOL Translation, bad spelling and trouble making proper sentences.

All ASPERGERS means is that the brain loops through interpersonal last or close to last. Society has labeled these intelligent people as social outcasts and find it proper to medicate them. My sister is labeled that way and she has “come out of her shell” so to speak. All they need is to be encouraged to socialize and may take them more time and require lengthy explanation in social matters.

Flip this around backwards… To all those that are cool socially, how fast can you pick up on a new language? My sister, Asperger, has learned and memorized quite a bit in a Mayan dialect in 10 days. If that was you or me with the Mayans (presuming you’re social and not a linguist), we would feel like the outcast!!! Or what if you’re standing in the store and you need to do the math to see what the better deal is?? If you’re standing there with a mathematical thinking Asperger, you may feel like the idiot as they run numbers quickly and you just blink and breathe. Or one of my favorite examples!! If you were in a certain tribal situation in Africa, music and dancing is EVERYTHING to them. It’s spiritual, emotional, communication, memorial, greetings, celebration... it’s everything!!! What if you can’t play music or dance, then *YOU* become the Asperger to them!!!!!

There is nothing wrong with people labeled ADD, ADHD or Asperger. We just don’t fit into what square box society has decided to put everyone into. Everyone on this planet has a special gift and should be seen for it.

As to your question… My husband is an Asperger (INTRAPERSONAL) and he drives me crazy!!! My sister is an Asperger (LINGUSTIC) and she drives me crazy!!! Hahaha Even better, I (INTERPERSONAL) drive them crazy!! You have to be compatible in all aspects of a relationship, but not label or put people down for a way of thinking.
End of rant….
03/16/2013
MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
Yes, actually I did, so
04/01/2013
SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
I probably wouldn't.I myself have problems with social interactions (although I've never been diagnosed with anything) and I would not want to double the risk of passing it to my children.
04/04/2013
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I would. I have family members diagnosed and it actually feels safer to deal with them then others just because I am so used to it.
04/04/2013
Genderfree Genderfree
My girlfriend has been diagnosed with aspergers but I don't see any of the signs. She says she grew out of it. Honestly, it's one of those things that is diagnosed way too much. I was nearly diagnosed with autism, but it was actually just being shy and not being able to speak the same language as everyone else.
04/04/2013
DreezzyyBabyy DreezzyyBabyy
My brother has aspergers. I've always been worried about him dating. It's nice to know there are people who'd be okay dating someone with it!
04/05/2013
sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Would you marry someone with Aspergers?
I don't plan on getting married, and it if I was it would completely depend on the severity and type of Aspergers they have.
05/05/2013
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Unique posters: 29