Help! his sex drive is gone!

Nympho88 Nympho88
My boyfriend has no sex drive at all any more. and it is really effecting our relationship. I have a very high sex drive(like I could have sex 3+ times a day if I could) And he never wants to have sex. It has even gotten so bad that when we do have sex he puts no effort in at all which in turn turns me off completely. Is there anything out there that really works to bring back mens sex drives? I am desperate here
Mar 14, 4:42 pm
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Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Nympho88
My boyfriend has no sex drive at all any more. and it is really effecting our relationship. I have a very high sex drive(like I could have sex 3+ times a day if I could) And he never wants to have sex. It has even gotten so bad that when we do have ... More
How old is he? How long have you been together? What you describe sounds like a serious problem, and one that has nothing to do with sex drive, but with a relationship that is broken. Words like "no effort" and "turns me off completely" are not something that a book, video, or pill are going to cure. If you are in a "long term" relationship, it sounds like you need some heavy duty couples counseling to find out what is really going on.
Good luck.
Mar 14, 6:04 pm
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by Nympho88
My boyfriend has no sex drive at all any more. and it is really effecting our relationship. I have a very high sex drive(like I could have sex 3+ times a day if I could) And he never wants to have sex. It has even gotten so bad that when we do have ... More
My boyfriend hardly has any sex drive as well, but this is something that I kind of knew going into the relationship.

Bignuf asks very valid questions. You should ask yourself those questions and then probably take it on the couple's level as well.

My boyfriend has admitted to have very little feeling toward the head of his penis, and I've tested it myself with a few blow jobs. He can get hard and turned on, but he honestly hardly feels it. Tested it with teeth. The rare times that we do have sex, it can last for 2-4 hours. Mostly because he's not getting off haha.

My sex drive used to be pretty high up there, but I hardly feel it anymore due to stress.
Mar 14, 6:15 pm
edeneve edeneve
I agree w/ Bignuf. I think it's a result of the state of your relationship & not a physical issue.
Mar 14, 9:47 pm
Nympho88 Nympho88
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Originally posted by Bignuf
How old is he? How long have you been together? What you describe sounds like a serious problem, and one that has nothing to do with sex drive, but with a relationship that is broken. Words like "no effort" and "turns me off ... More
Well he has always had a lower sex drive than I have. But it seems that ever since he has started this medication he as to take daily its not there at all. :/ I have asked him if there was more to it but he says no. Idk what else to do! He is trying to find a doctor because he swears its something medical.
Mar 15, 11:33 am
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by Nympho88
Well he has always had a lower sex drive than I have. But it seems that ever since he has started this medication he as to take daily its not there at all. :/ I have asked him if there was more to it but he says no. Idk what else to do! He is trying ... More
A lot of medications can honestly completely kill a sex drive. Especially if it's any kind of anti-anxiety or anti-depressant.
Mar 15, 2:00 pm
epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
Try Testosterone boosting foods, like: Tuna, avocados, pomegranates, Venison, honey, Milk, eggs, Cabbage, Goji berries.
Mar 15, 5:08 pm
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Nympho88
Well he has always had a lower sex drive than I have. But it seems that ever since he has started this medication he as to take daily its not there at all. :/ I have asked him if there was more to it but he says no. Idk what else to do! He is trying ... More
Medication? That paint's a potentially different story. There are a LOT of different medicines that can effect one's libido (sex drive) and it is a known side effect that any good internist or GP will recognize and has heard before (no hesitation or shame needed). That can be a serious (as you see) side effect on one's relationship, and there are usually alternatives and ways to "work around" the problem and get your life back. Please, please, please get him to a good doctor and explain everything to them, making sure to have a complete list of medication he takes and a "timeline" for what happened. Knowing his "sex drive" was high before and now has dropped is a critical bit of info you don't want to leave out. Best wishes
Mar 15, 5:57 pm
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by epiphanyjayne
Try Testosterone boosting foods, like: Tuna, avocados, pomegranates, Venison, honey, Milk, eggs, Cabbage, Goji berries.
I hate to say "not a good idea", but in fact certain foods can interact badly, or block medication he might be on. I would start with a good medical doctors advice before altering the diet and adding items, such as different berries, that can possibly cause unexpected medical issues in this specific case. Any good internist or GP now is going to be aware of supplements and diets as part of either helping or avoiding the problem.
Mar 15, 6:00 pm
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
Medication can affect one's sex drive. And so can too much stress.
Mar 15, 10:57 pm
witch-drummer witch-drummer
Time to move on to a new man. There are millions of men out there wishing their women had your sex drive, why are you wasting your time with one who would rather be doing something else?
Sep 10, 12:42 am
Msmaraschino Msmaraschino
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Originally posted by Nympho88
My boyfriend has no sex drive at all any more. and it is really effecting our relationship. I have a very high sex drive(like I could have sex 3+ times a day if I could) And he never wants to have sex. It has even gotten so bad that when we do have ... More
Does he eat healthy and work out? I noticed the dudes who I have dated who ate crap and didn't take care of themselves had a much lower sex drive then the fitter dudes.
Sep 13, 6:13 pm
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