increasing my sex drive

virgomama616 virgomama616
my husband is always on and ready to go. I on the other hand, am not. I want to want sex more. I have tried gels and creams, but thats not my problem. Once we are going Im into it, its gettig interested in the idea at all. I did try the Playboy Passion drink and found it to be wonderful. I went to get more and learned they are discontinued! Any tips to boost sex drive??
07/27/2011
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Dawn (Lilac Distraction) Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
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Originally posted by virgomama616
my husband is always on and ready to go. I on the other hand, am not. I want to want sex more. I have tried gels and creams, but thats not my problem. Once we are going Im into it, its gettig interested in the idea at all. I did try the Playboy ... More
I had the same problem. Sometimes it's like you're not in the mood, but you're not not in the mood. I tried a couple of things and have turned my sex drive completely around.

Damiana is a great herb that will help boost your sex drive. It can be found at natural health stores. People also use it for weight loss. It works wonders for PMS and cramps, as well.

Try to feel sexier. If you feel more desirable, it will help to boost your sex drive a lot! Get some sexy lingerie. Pamper yourself. All of those fun things.

Make sure you exercise and eat right. It'll help to give you an energy boost.

Masturbate more! Seriously. Even if you don't feel like it, set some appointments with yourself to do it. The more orgasms you have, the easier it will be for you to have them. It gets your blood going.

Finally, find awesome new toys on here to use with your lover! I know I get excited as hell when I've got new things coming, even when I'm in a rut. Get some stuff for reviews! Make sure you give it a good testing.
07/27/2011
yiin yiin
I have that same issue with my partner. Except im the one ready to go at all times and she isnt. It is stressful to me. Always makes me wonder if i did something wrong or shes not that into me etc...
07/28/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
I find the more often I have sex, the higher my drive is. We usually have sex often, somewhere between 6 to 10 times a week, but it I go more than 3 or 4 days without sex, I start to feel my drive ebb. I think frustration and my body trying to compensate for what it isn't getting is what is happening here.

You can't really force yourself to have sex, but as you said, you get into it once you start. I find when I initiate sex, My Man gets really horny and in turn that helps me keep my sex drive high.

We all have natural differences in our drive over time. Anything from stress to menstrual woes to illness to financial problems to the birth of a baby can have an impact on your drive.

When we feel we aren't having sex enough (3 days without sex is a desert for us) we put on some porn, grab the toys and get playing!
07/28/2011
virgomama616 virgomama616
Those are good tips! I do try to get done up more, feel a little sexier, and it helps most of the time.

Yiin--Im always afraid of him taking it that way too, like its him. ITs totally all me, and could very well be your wifes too. Try not to take it too personally cause that can make it even hard for her to overcome and get into the mood! I know it does to me.

I am going to check out the damiana for sure!! Do you make a tea out of it or are they in capsules?? I will be shopping for that this weekend!

As for masturbating more, I have a lot of trouble getting anywhere with that, which I dont really understand. It doesnt take long at all to reach an O during intercourse.

We have been looking at a lot of toys lately which has definately given me a boost! I am sure once we decide on one (or 2) it will help more!

Thanks for your ideas!!
07/28/2011
Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by virgomama616
Those are good tips! I do try to get done up more, feel a little sexier, and it helps most of the time.

Yiin--Im always afraid of him taking it that way too, like its him. ITs totally all me, and could very well be your wifes too. Try not ... More
I've just ordered a bottle of Damiana leaves in the capsule form 800mg online link - more convenient than the extracts or tea. Seems like this product is also good for women with menopause problems - hope it'll work for me!
07/28/2011
virgomama616 virgomama616
Awesome thanks for the link!!
07/28/2011
kjkitty kjkitty
I definitely have this problem! I just feel like.... Yes, I would love to have sex and yes it would feel great but it's just so much WORK (realistically it is not, but that is how I feel at those times). I want to. I want to want to. But instead I pass on the opportunity to have sex.

For me, I've found that starting off sex in a position where I can kinda just doze and go with the flow helps. After my boyfriend starts pleasuring me, I always get into the mood and want to have sex, it is just getting me to start that is the problem.
07/28/2011
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