why be safe in a long term relationship

Lif3sambiguity Lif3sambiguity
if you are committed and in a long term relationship... why use protecting. what are the downfalls of not? what are the perks of not?
11/03/2010
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ToyGeek ToyGeek
Do you mean safe in toy-sharing practices? Or by using a condom during sex?
11/03/2010
Lif3sambiguity Lif3sambiguity
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
Do you mean safe in toy-sharing practices? Or by using a condom during sex?
everything...
11/03/2010
ToyGeek ToyGeek
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Originally posted by Lif3sambiguity
everything...
Well, for toy-sharing, it's not necessarily about STDs. It's never safe to switch between orifices -- even your own -- without sterilizing because of bacteria. In healthy people, different body parts harbor different bacteria that's supposed to be there, for various reasons.

As for condom use, if both partners are free of STDs and in a long-term relationship, it might not be necessary, depending of course on your birth control situation. (And seeing as you're a lesbian, I guess that's not a big concern.)
11/03/2010
Phoenix713 Phoenix713
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
Well, for toy-sharing, it's not necessarily about STDs. It's never safe to switch between orifices -- even your own -- without sterilizing because of bacteria. In healthy people, different body parts harbor different bacteria that's ... More
Good answer, ToyGeek. I completely agree.
11/08/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
Well, for toy-sharing, it's not necessarily about STDs. It's never safe to switch between orifices -- even your own -- without sterilizing because of bacteria. In healthy people, different body parts harbor different bacteria that's ... More
Yup, what she said.

Sometimes we use a condom just to make clean up quicker.
11/08/2010
Dusk Dusk
If you're in a long-term relationship, you can stop worrying about STIs up to a point. For example, it's good to use a condom for the first 4-6 months at least just in case your partner hasn't told you something, you both haven't been tested, or they haven't had an outbreak. If you're being honest with each other and you've been tested, protection shouldn't be a huge issue. Now, if your partner has sex with someone else you could be at risk, so there's that to think about. In my case, I haven't had intercourse yet but I plan to use a condom anyway because I'm using it as a second form of birth control. As far as other sexual acts go, my partner and I do not always use protection because we have been together for over a year and are monogamous.
11/08/2010
Kiskis2 Kiskis2
'cause you never know when you are surprised...
11/12/2010
The Nakanas The Nakanas
Now that we've been having sex together (and only with each other) for about five years, condoms are pretty much just for birth control at this point since neither of us really wants kids.
11/12/2010
ScottA ScottA
You should still be safe (i.e. have a safety mindset, which is a good idea for almost everything), it's just that the activities you can do and still be within your safety envelope change.
11/12/2010
emiliaa emiliaa
I think everyone basically said it, but--

Toys should be clean because of general infections and growing bacteria,
And protection of some kind should be used during sex to prevent pregnancy.

STD's are most likely not a problem at all at this point, unless one of you have one already.
06/09/2011
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