How does your weight or your partners effect your sex life?
Self esteem is the only issue I sometimes have. I gained weight with the kids and even though my lil one is no baby I never truly lost all the weight. I go through times when I just feel fat and ugly but it isn't appearing to have an effect on the hubby's sex drive. He usually can tell when I'm moody and reminds me how much he loves me and my body just like it is. None of it really factors into our physical side but I'm sure there's a ton of things we haven't tired that it would matter in.
10/19/2010
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Personally My weight affects me tremendously given that I used to be more in shape then I currently am and the reason why is I'm too busy with school work & my job. My partner finds me beautiful the way I am & I try to view myself the same way he does, but sometimes it is difficult. I put too much pressure on myself. I always have to remind myself "No ones perfect". My partner also is affected because he also used to be in shape (we'd train together at the gym) however he stopped given that he also works a lot.
10/23/2010
I've never had any issues with my weight affecting my sex life - either when I was married, or afterwards. I'm a big girl (size 18/20), although wasn't when I got married at 19. I'm very limber and agile, for being a big girl. My ass isn't big, and has never gotten in the way from getting it from behind... The only issue, that I have ever had that could make it heard to have sex, is that I have bad hips - and its not from my weight, its from having kids. I can spend minimal time with me on top, as my hips like to pop out of socket -- omg! the pain! My partner (female), is bigger than I am, and we've never had any issues either. We're both highly sexual, and enjoy making love to each other - no limitations - we mesh very well in all aspects.
10/29/2010
We are both a bit chubby, him more than me. He is kind of working on it for his own personal reasons, and I am working on my weight because of my low self-esteem. He says he would love me no matter what size I am, and I would definitely say the same about him. Since we have been losing weight, it seems we can do more stuff, though strangely my thighs get tired a lot faster if I am on top now. It's weird, considering they are pretty muscular.
12/02/2010
My partner is pretty skinny so that makes certain positions a little uncomfortable for me when his bones dig into my body, and I'm rather short so missionary ends up with his shoulder on my face. But it's not a big deal, it just means we have to be more innovative when it comes to finding out what works!
12/14/2010
I have those days where I feel fat (usually before my period) but for the most part, I am very comfortable with myself. The only things I do not like that are weight related, are my stretch marks that cover a lot of my body. Don't get me wrong, I would not change having a child for anything. I just wish they weren't as crazy! I consider them my battle wounds. lol
My partner loves me the way I am and I do him. He's on the thin side as I have a thing for thinner guys. If he were to gain weight, it wouldn't matter to me because I already love him with all my heart.
My partner loves me the way I am and I do him. He's on the thin side as I have a thing for thinner guys. If he were to gain weight, it wouldn't matter to me because I already love him with all my heart.
12/24/2010
I didn't vote on this poll or comment when it was first posted because I was a little offended by some of the comments. I've since lost 25 lbs and my husband has lost about 20. Neither of us knew how much our weight was affecting us. We still loved each other and found each other attractive at our highest weights. I've noticed that since we've lost weight that certain positions feel better. It's like the extra weight/fat down there was blocking access to certain spots and and sort of numbing the feeling. I'm much more sensitive now, and I've still got quite a bit of weight I'd like to lose.
There are some positions that are easier to enjoy and hold now. Part of this is due to weight loss, because of the basic physical mass that we took up. The other part is due to being more physically fit/having better endurance and stamina.
There are some positions that are easier to enjoy and hold now. Part of this is due to weight loss, because of the basic physical mass that we took up. The other part is due to being more physically fit/having better endurance and stamina.
02/07/2011
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sarabear: I sympathize with your take on this. Excess weight can be unfortunate impediment. My son was overweight all through K-11. We agonized about it - determined not to make a big deal of it. We love him very much and we couldn't let him get the idea that his weight increased or decreased our love.
Originally posted by
sarahbear
I didn't vote on this poll or comment when it was first posted because I was a little offended by some of the comments. I've since lost 25 lbs and my husband has lost about 20. Neither of us knew how much our weight was affecting us. We still loved
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I didn't vote on this poll or comment when it was first posted because I was a little offended by some of the comments. I've since lost 25 lbs and my husband has lost about 20. Neither of us knew how much our weight was affecting us. We still loved each other and found each other attractive at our highest weights. I've noticed that since we've lost weight that certain positions feel better. It's like the extra weight/fat down there was blocking access to certain spots and and sort of numbing the feeling. I'm much more sensitive now, and I've still got quite a bit of weight I'd like to lose.
There are some positions that are easier to enjoy and hold now. Part of this is due to weight loss, because of the basic physical mass that we took up. The other part is due to being more physically fit/having better endurance and stamina.
There are some positions that are easier to enjoy and hold now. Part of this is due to weight loss, because of the basic physical mass that we took up. The other part is due to being more physically fit/having better endurance and stamina.
As he contemplated entering his Sr. yr, he decided to loose weight - first 10, then 20 - all the way to 60 lbs lost. His response was similar to yours - he was surprised at all things he could do now than he thought he couldn't do before.
I understand that people have to make the best of their circumstances whether it's weight, smoking, high-cholesterol or high-BP - but to the extent possible, doing things to improve your circumstances will benefit both yourself and your SO.
02/07/2011
My partner and I are both bigger people...and there really isn't anything that we want to do that we cant, with the exception of me being on top. That though is because I had a pretty severe knee injury as a kid and it just hurts to be on my knees for long periods of time. I really enjoy having sex with bigger people, especially bigger men...I like all of the weight behind the thrust. Smaller guys I've been with just seemed to have no power behind it and it really didn't do anything for me.
02/10/2011
I'm a bigger girl. Weight's been an issue for me since my late teens because of the medication I've had to be on because of my health. However, I don't think it affects our sex life. Yeah, my boyfriend wishes I was thinner, but not because that is what he wants. He knows I'm not happy, and just wants me to be happy with it.
02/10/2011
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I think it's very cool that you came back to this thread to share that with us - it is certainly motivating
Originally posted by
sarahbear
I didn't vote on this poll or comment when it was first posted because I was a little offended by some of the comments. I've since lost 25 lbs and my husband has lost about 20. Neither of us knew how much our weight was affecting us. We still loved
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I didn't vote on this poll or comment when it was first posted because I was a little offended by some of the comments. I've since lost 25 lbs and my husband has lost about 20. Neither of us knew how much our weight was affecting us. We still loved each other and found each other attractive at our highest weights. I've noticed that since we've lost weight that certain positions feel better. It's like the extra weight/fat down there was blocking access to certain spots and and sort of numbing the feeling. I'm much more sensitive now, and I've still got quite a bit of weight I'd like to lose.
There are some positions that are easier to enjoy and hold now. Part of this is due to weight loss, because of the basic physical mass that we took up. The other part is due to being more physically fit/having better endurance and stamina.
There are some positions that are easier to enjoy and hold now. Part of this is due to weight loss, because of the basic physical mass that we took up. The other part is due to being more physically fit/having better endurance and stamina.
Keep up the good work, girl!
02/10/2011
I said it does, but also doesn't. I am difficult.
It really, honestly, does not affect me. BUT I can't stand it if a guy is too skinny. It just makes me feel like, damn, I'm gonna break you in half. You're supposed to dominate me with twigs for arms and legs? Go eat a cheeseburger, then get back to me.
It's a turnoff.
But in terms of my partner right now, weight doesn't matter one bit. I love my body, he loves my body, and vice versa.
It really, honestly, does not affect me. BUT I can't stand it if a guy is too skinny. It just makes me feel like, damn, I'm gonna break you in half. You're supposed to dominate me with twigs for arms and legs? Go eat a cheeseburger, then get back to me.
It's a turnoff.
But in terms of my partner right now, weight doesn't matter one bit. I love my body, he loves my body, and vice versa.
02/19/2011
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My wife is the same. A couple we are friends with - the guy is athletic but quite thin - my wife has commented a couple times about how it's a turn off for her. I've been lifting weights to keep my bulk firm - she's appreciative.
Originally posted by
tigerkate
I said it does, but also doesn't. I am difficult.
It really, honestly, does not affect me. BUT I can't stand it if a guy is too skinny. It just makes me feel like, damn, I'm gonna break you in half. You're supposed to dominate me with twigs ...
It really, honestly, does not affect me. BUT I can't stand it if a guy is too skinny. It just makes me feel like, damn, I'm gonna break you in half. You're supposed to dominate me with twigs ...
I said it does, but also doesn't. I am difficult.
It really, honestly, does not affect me. BUT I can't stand it if a guy is too skinny. It just makes me feel like, damn, I'm gonna break you in half. You're supposed to dominate me with twigs for arms and legs? Go eat a cheeseburger, then get back to me.
It's a turnoff.
But in terms of my partner right now, weight doesn't matter one bit. I love my body, he loves my body, and vice versa.
It really, honestly, does not affect me. BUT I can't stand it if a guy is too skinny. It just makes me feel like, damn, I'm gonna break you in half. You're supposed to dominate me with twigs for arms and legs? Go eat a cheeseburger, then get back to me.
It's a turnoff.
But in terms of my partner right now, weight doesn't matter one bit. I love my body, he loves my body, and vice versa.
02/19/2011