Do you consider sex or oral sex to be more intimate?

xgreatlovex xgreatlovex
I myself find intercourse to be a much bigger deal than oral sex, my mother and sister however disagree which leaves me to feel like the whore. And you?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Oral is way more intimate
11  (23%)
Intercourse is the most intimate
16  (34%)
I consider them even
20  (43%)
Total votes: 47
Poll is closed
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eri86 eri86
Why does that make you feel like a whore?

Depending on the position, sex is face to face. Eye contact is extremely intimate.
05/15/2013
Fluke Fluke
Depends. I've gotten head from girls and they don't seem very into it. On the other hand if someone gives oral sex and really concentrates on pleasuring you and doesn't expect anything in return, then that is the best gift ever, very intimate.

Ditto with sex, I can have sex with no emotions or attachment or lots of emotion and attachment. Either way I fail to see how you are a whore, lol.
05/15/2013
GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I think sex, of any kind, can be intimate but sex isn't automatically intimate. They can both occur together or separately depending on the situation. Regardless of how you experience it I don't think it makes you a whore.
05/15/2013
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I feel like someone going down on me is more personal. I just feel as though they are literally kissing my clit or vulva and that's so personal. I couldn't kiss someone, really, without feeling emotional attachment. but sex? I could do that without feelings.

There's something so.. purposeful about oral sex. It doesn't accidentally happen. Your face is never next to someone's crotch. It almost feels like you're going out of your way to make someone else feel good. There's intent. I wouldn't say that PIV sex ever "accidentally" happens, but there's many more positions where genitals line up. There's almost something more passive about it that makes it feel less intimate.
05/15/2013
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Genital sex is more intimate for me because all parties are being pleasured
05/15/2013
married with children married with children
both are pretty intimate.
05/15/2013
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Both, but I feel oral is more.
05/19/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I think they can both be equally intimate.
05/24/2013
edeneve edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by eri86
Why does that make you feel like a whore?

Depending on the position, sex is face to face. Eye contact is extremely intimate.
I agree here. don't allow anyone's sex opinions influence how you feel about yourself. we're all different & prefer different things. nothing wrong w/ that. I agree about eye contact too. it's much more intimate for me than oral or intercourse. and taking w/ Fluke's comment about "if someone gives oral sex and really concentrates on pleasuring you and doesn't expect anything in return" - well that's an amazing experience!!! my last lover did that for me - what an experience, for someone to be that giving!
05/25/2013
HannahPanda HannahPanda
I consider them even.
06/17/2013
sweisb4100 sweisb4100
Def even.
06/17/2013
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
There are times when intercourse isn't intimate (ex. quickies) but I don't think I've ever had oral that wasn't intimate.
06/21/2013
Kodie Kodie
I don't understand why this would make you feel like a whore?..

I Think it depends more on eye contact. In general I feel that oral sex is more intimate.
06/25/2013
Husband and Wife Husband and Wife
Quote:
Originally posted by xgreatlovex
I myself find intercourse to be a much bigger deal than oral sex, my mother and sister however disagree which leaves me to feel like the whore. And you?
I think they are BOTH intimate, because inimate is a feeling that when you are with someone and in that special momment it just feels awesome.. Now I love going down and spending hours on her and there are times we just need to bang. but both are hot and very intimate..
07/11/2013
lana'sart lana'sart
Quote:
Originally posted by xgreatlovex
I myself find intercourse to be a much bigger deal than oral sex, my mother and sister however disagree which leaves me to feel like the whore. And you?
oral
07/19/2013
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
Quote:
Originally posted by lana'sart
oral
While giving or receiving oral is by it's nature a singularity focused activity, and very intimate in it's own regard, nothing seems as truly intimate as being wrapped in my lovers arms and feeling them achieving an orgasm. With our bodies so close and my penis acually inside her body and kissing each other as the moment takes either of us or both of us over the edge, in the rare example of a simultaneous climax, plus seeing the pleasure on her face, it has almost a spirituality to it. I always feel so connected afterwards. Clearly more intimate in my mind.
07/19/2013
Asmoothguy2011 Asmoothguy2011
Oral on a woman - to me - is intimate. Oral on a man can be anonymous - glory holes - so not very intimate. To me it would depend on the amount of body contact, mood, and surroundings.
08/25/2013
LAndJ LAndJ
I'm very conflicted on this. I would have to separate oral and intercourse as sole entities to answer this. In the case of oral as foreplay for intercourse, intercourse is more intimate. Conversely, intercourse followed by oral, the oral is more intimate. With each on their own, I see oral as very... juvenile. It's what teenagers do as a step in the direction of intercourse. (Aside: For myself this was not actually true, we had intercourse long before before oral of any sort when we began dating.) We do oral as foreplay nearly every session and sometimes it's only oral, but it's often the build-up for intercourse.

Here is the conflict: intimacy is of course what you make it -- oral CAN be infinitely more intimate. It's all in the technique.
08/25/2013
lana'sart lana'sart
Quote:
Originally posted by xgreatlovex
I myself find intercourse to be a much bigger deal than oral sex, my mother and sister however disagree which leaves me to feel like the whore. And you?
I believe it is the eye of the lovers as if you are doing oral just to give pleasure to your lover then that is very intimate but if you are just doing it to do it then I would say that it is not intimate
08/26/2013
lana'sart lana'sart
Quote:
Originally posted by Asmoothguy2011
Oral on a woman - to me - is intimate. Oral on a man can be anonymous - glory holes - so not very intimate. To me it would depend on the amount of body contact, mood, and surroundings.
true and the meaning behind it
08/26/2013
RonLee RonLee
I would add the aspect of personal hygiene to the intimacy equation. Early in my dating life I had a gf who was uh, how can I say this politely... her pussy was sometimes not particularly pleasant to go down on. Engaging in regular intercourse was never a problem though.
12/01/2013
Eliza Eliza
I definitely think intercourse is more intimate, some positions ranking over others as well. I'm very insecure about receiving oral sex, though I'm trying to get over that for my partner.
12/29/2013
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
Intercourse is way more intimate. You become one with the other person.
01/01/2014
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Unique posters: 22