Who has the sexual power in our culture?

Ellie B Ellie B
It has been said by many that women hold the sexual power in our society because it is our ultimate decision whether we allow penetration or not (discounting a rape scenario). Many people would agree that it is easier for a woman to find readily available sex if she wants it. What are your thoughts on this? Do you agree or disagree?
01/11/2011
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Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I don't think there is any doubt about it. Male domination is a myth.

It's the law - if you don't give the woman 'the power' - you go to jail. I don't disagree - but something for all those fascinated with 'equality' to ponder.
01/11/2011
LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I don't think there is any doubt about it. Male domination is a myth.

It's the law - if you don't give the woman 'the power' - you go to jail. I don't disagree - but something for all those fascinated with 'equality' to ponder.
I think that's an extremely simplified and short-sighted opinion. Male domination is anything but myth. Rape laws came into existence, history tells us, not for the protection of women as individuals, but for the protection of women as the property of men.

If an unwed daughter is raped, she's damaged property and is of less value to her father...which is why, initially, the punishment for the rapist was to marry his victim.

This is also why it was, for a long time, legal to rape your wife. She was your property and you had the legal right to use her as you wished.

Now, the laws have changed and our mindset has shifted significantly, but male domination is certainly no myth. It is a significant part of history and very much embedded into our culture today.
01/11/2011
Envy Envy
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
I think that's an extremely simplified and short-sighted opinion. Male domination is anything but myth. Rape laws came into existence, history tells us, not for the protection of women as individuals, but for the protection of women as the ... More
^ This. And in some cultures, women still hold no power, and are still raped by their husbands.

I think it really depends on the culture you're looking at, as well as time period. Some families still see women as property or treat them as such (I have seen it before and yes, the people were of 'American' culture). It could also depend on how people raise their children and the values they hold. Some women grow up learning they are below the man, some men grow up to learn they are above women, and some grow up to have their own opinion completely.
01/11/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Agreed - women as property is generally a part of history, except in various strict muslim countries.

I took the question as referring to contemporary western societies. Continuing to reference the past simply extends victimization. We'd all be better off to put it behind us and move forward.

Rather than focus on what was - the past, I'd like to see western women (and men) focus their efforts on working toward the empowerment of women in Africa & Arab nations.

No one likes war - but sometimes it's necessary. I've visited Japan & Germany and many people there thanked me. They admitted that the Allied unconditional victory liberated all Germans & Japanese - men and women from an oppressive governments.

We no longer have the desire to defeat an enemy. So we end up with countries who hates us for killing many of their people without staying the course and implementing governmental systems that respect women, minorities, or religious freedom.
01/11/2011
mama2007 mama2007
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Agreed - women as property is generally a part of history, except in various strict muslim countries.

I took the question as referring to contemporary western societies. Continuing to reference the past simply extends victimization. We'd ... More
if i am NOT in the mood like tonite and he initiates i'd say no or roll over. i feel bad i guess but if im mad no im not gonna have sex...
02/04/2011
El-Jaro El-Jaro
This may sounds like a hokey response, but I think YOU have the sexual power. You decide what you find sexy, even if it surprises you. You choose when to have a release and when to abstain. You can choose to be intimate with one person or another (or more).

Personal choice is sexy as hell!
02/04/2011
PussyGalore PussyGalore
I agree with JR.

Sex is no longer a "duty" to a husband or a wife or a means to continue the bloodline. It's about personal choices and the freedom to make those choices and anyone can choose to have that power.
02/04/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
This may sounds like a hokey response, but I think YOU have the sexual power. You decide what you find sexy, even if it surprises you. You choose when to have a release and when to abstain. You can choose to be intimate with one person or another (or ... More
I'll 3rd this!

If one has power over another, not always, but often it's because someone has given them the power - example: a D/s relationship.
02/17/2011
give give
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Originally posted by Ellie B
It has been said by many that women hold the sexual power in our society because it is our ultimate decision whether we allow penetration or not (discounting a rape scenario). Many people would agree that it is easier for a woman to find readily ... More
If clitoral mutliation still exists, then males hold the power. It's not just the USA we should think about
04/02/2011
socceras socceras
if you have a vagina you run the universe
04/29/2011
emiliaa emiliaa
Well, I know I can walk out my door right now and have sex with any of my boyfriend's roommates, or walk out on campus and find a random guy and most likely get him for at LEAST one night... And I'm not SUPER attractive, either. Seems that we at least have sexual control over men.

I, however, am bisexual, and I tend to be attracted to women, so it'd be very difficult for me to find a guy I actually would want to keep/manage to seduce a girl I liked, let alone keep her around. Though that's kind of a whole different story.
06/10/2011
big b big b
women have the say,yes or no
06/10/2011
corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
I think only the women that the men making this myth pay attention to have this degree of power. The ability to demand sex with any man around falls to a very attractive, showy minority and men often forget that this is not representative of the entire female species since they almost never remember to look at the average looking girls in a meat-market setting (I.E. - a bar, where bulls**t theories like this are born). If a normal looking girl started propositioning every man in sight, I'm pretty sure she'd have the same yes/no ratio as an average looking man behaving in such a way with women.
03/03/2012
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