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It is also usually a version of , "Well, do you eat eggs, dairy and fish?"
I personally think that's understandable and honestly, I find it ridiculous when vegetarian and vegan people get all huffy about it.
You clearly don't realize how many "vegetarians" ; actually just don't eat beef. Or beef and pork. Or not beef or pork or poultry but okay fish. Or just okay dairy products.
And then there are the vegans. Who are, by and large, not really the same thing. If what you are is someone who doesn't consume any type of animal byproduct, you are a vegan.
I once saw a cooking show with Zooey Deschanel as the guest judge and the chefs were preparing a vegetarian meal for her, as she was a self proclaimed vegetarian. These are professional chefs, mind you. They get to the dinner table and oh, what's this? She pooh-pooh's half their dishes because what she REALLY is, is a vegan and god forbid, some of them dared to use cream.
Now really, MOST people would be perfectly willing to accomodate special dietary needs if it were approached in an open, respectful, clear way. Not in a condescending "you should know better" sort of way. I mean honestly. If a chef shouldn't use cream in your meal, tell them that. Don't just assume they know.
Perhaps it would work better if you compared it to the many sex related subjects we discuss here every god damn day. Labels mean different things to different people. Whatever works, but when someone asks questions about what your label means to you, don't be a jackass. They can't read your mind. Don't close your mind off about the importance of mutual understanding and communication just because you don't get to be all sex positive with it.