Need some help with dirty talk!

keeweepoo keeweepoo
I want to bring some new ideas into my dirty talk, how should i start?
03/10/2013
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Sweet-n-sensual Sweet-n-sensual
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Originally posted by keeweepoo
I want to bring some new ideas into my dirty talk, how should i start?
Me too! I don't know, I used to be good at it but after I got pregnant we didn't have sex my entire pregnancy and 5 months after and it was like starting all over. Couldn't remember how to talk dirty, had to get my rhythm back. It was kind of awkward actually!
03/20/2013
gothicwhispers gothicwhispers
I guess it really all depends on you and your partner and what you're comfortable with. When I was sleeping around, I usually kept it to a minimum and focused on expressing how I felt with sounds/moaning etc rather than words. When you're in a relationship with someone or you have a regular partner, you can usually tell what kind of things they're into- or, ideally, you two would be able to talk about it when not having sex/not in a sexual setting. That's what my husband and I do. If there's something he or I want to try, we bring it up in a more neutral setting and discuss it. We're both really open-minded, but I find it's easier when not in the heat of the moment, so to speak, so it's not an emotional thing. If you want to push yourself outside your comfort zone, I would go with something that might normally make you feel slightly awkward/uncomfortable/ nervous/embarrassed and go from there. The thing with having a partner you're comfortable with is if it's weird or awkward, you can laugh about it with each other later.
03/21/2013
Sweet-n-sensual Sweet-n-sensual
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Originally posted by gothicwhispers
I guess it really all depends on you and your partner and what you're comfortable with. When I was sleeping around, I usually kept it to a minimum and focused on expressing how I felt with sounds/moaning etc rather than words. When you're ... More
Good advice
03/22/2013
Real or memorex Real or memorex
The best advice I read on dirty talk (and sorry for the lack of credit where it's due, but I have no idea where I saw it first):

1. Say what you are going to do.
2. Say what you are doing while you do it.
3. Say what you just did.

This is cheap and easy advice, on the level of Sam Kinison's alphabet, that seems to work well. If you use a slightly lower tone of voice and feel like you are into it, all the better.
03/24/2013
keeweepoo keeweepoo
Whatthechuck?! and gothicwhispers, I've never really done dirty talk with my hubs and he's never really explored it, so I can completely relate to that awkward stage! We're still in it, but I'm glad to be working on better communication in the bedroom. I'm trying to breach more out of the bedroom talk as well, so I like gothicwhispers' advice to not save all the talk for the heat of the moment.

Real or memorex, that is an awesome how-to starter! It seems so simple when you list it out like that, but I guess it really is once you get past getting used to doing it. Thanks!
03/29/2013
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