Is it really that hard to give oral sex?

xoxo xoxo
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Giving it comes to me no problem and it always has. Why are some people bad at it? Not trying to sound rude at all. Just curious. Do they just want new techniques?
03/04/2012
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Moein Moein
I think it is a psycho issue that she/he doesn't like putting his/her mouth -where food come in- at other's organ -where urine come out- This is the only inner cause.
My wife also has this problem before, but when she was watching me do her oral down there after washing and perfuming, then she become more acceptance to do it with out any pressure by me. Cleaning is the key to accept oral sex.
03/04/2012
Incendiaire Incendiaire
I've never met a guy who didn't know how to give a blowjob, but then I think it's probably easier when you're gay, as you have shared anatomy.
03/04/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
I've never had any issues with it. The girls I know that do seem to have a gross factor involved. I guess something about genitals going in the mouth or something, I dunno. From the guys I've talked to it's bad oral when the girl isn't into it. If you're doing it just to do it and trying to get it over with quick, yeah it's gonna be sucky (no pun intended).
03/04/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
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Originally posted by - Kira -
I've never had any issues with it. The girls I know that do seem to have a gross factor involved. I guess something about genitals going in the mouth or something, I dunno. From the guys I've talked to it's bad oral when the girl ... More
Guys can definitely be horrible at it. A good amount of them are. They simply just do NOT know what they're doing down there. This is same for sex. But sometimes, even the women themselves don't exactly know what they like so it can be hard.

I think it's easier to give a man a blowjob. Penises are pretty darn simple. They're nothing like the enigma that is the vagina, with all its intricate folds and erogenous zones.
03/05/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
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Originally posted by xoxo
Giving it comes to me no problem and it always has. Why are some people bad at it? Not trying to sound rude at all. Just curious. Do they just want new techniques?
I'm not bad at it, Infact Im GREAT at it...WHEN I do it lol.
03/05/2012
pinkpottergirl pinkpottergirl
I've never had trouble with it, It's mainly in peoples head when they have trouble with it. Or just a lack of experience
03/05/2012
nuggetman777 nuggetman777
I give oral sex to my girlfriend all the time and she loves it. But she is hesitant about doing oral sex to me and she blames that the pre-cum taste is really strong. So I don't know if it's my fault or if she just doesn't like it.
03/09/2012
butts butts
I had to learn what my partner likes but it wasn't really hard haha, I love doing it (as long as I'm in the mood for it), I don't enjoy receiving as much since I'm transsexual, it's quite uh... dysphoric. Very nice, and I trust him VERY much, but I'm so ashamed by my parts that it's hard to fully enjoy it. I can't really get the idea out of my head that I can fit him fully in my mouth (well, when deepthroating), but he'll never be able to do that to ME, only what's on the outside, and stimulation inside really makes it good. Finger play and toys help, but it's not the same. Plain ol sex just feels better for me. Again, I have a hard time enjoying it because of dysphoria, no matter how good he is. No book is going to help that.

But anyways, yeah I don't really understand books like this, unless you don't know -any- anatomy and aren't sure where nerves are and such... I don't know.
03/10/2012
hot n spicey hot n spicey
Oral is not something I have always enjoyed giving. I really have to be in the mood to do it on my guy. A lot of the issues I have are due to the taste. I have to figure out ways to make it so when he does climax I taste the least amount possible.
03/15/2012
Pirate Pirate
i guess it can be a question of being attracted to it or not... Just like if you asked a straight male to blow another one, they wouldn't really enjoy it if they aren't into that type of thing, and wouldn't put a lot of effort into it
03/15/2012
funluvinmama funluvinmama
I don't do oral very often because I have a problem with the sweaty smell. I will give him head when we shower together. My hubby is a heavier man and even after he gets out of the shower he sweats down there. No matter how well he washes he still has that odor.
03/30/2012
GS500 GS500
oral all the time. Just keep it clean and neutral smell.
03/30/2012
Girly Juice Girly Juice
I find it's a physically demanding act sometimes. Some people need a LOT of stimulation to reach orgasm, which means vigorous motions for several minutes at a time.
03/31/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I don't really like to give head. I am no pro but I have no complaints either. I am just not into gagging and swallowing cum and all that crap.
03/31/2012
tattooedtaurus tattooedtaurus
Forgive the pun, but I abide by the philosophy "know who you blow." In the same way that everyone learns differently, everyone is aroused differently. For visual people, teasing them with your tongue, making eye contact, and letting them SEE what you are doing is as erotic to them as the act itself. For those who are auditory, the slurping, and moaning that accompanies pleasuring someone you really care about is enough to send them over the edge.

For my partner, he is incredibly visual. I was caught off guard the first few times we interacted and I looked up and saw him staring at me!! Now that we know each other better, I know when I put on a "show" for him, it makes the experience that much better.
03/31/2012
humblepie humblepie
For me it was never an issue with the "having them in my mouth thing", and that's one of my favorite parts of it. It just doesn't come naturally to me for some reason, and I feel really terrible about it, even though my partner never gives me a hard time. I don't know what to do, it feels weird, and arg I just can't excel at it, though I've improved to the point where I do a passable job. Fortunately my skill with my hands more than makes up for it
03/31/2012
nosrslylol nosrslylol
Perhaps inexperience? There could be many reasons.
04/04/2012
ChristyJM ChristyJM
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Originally posted by humblepie
For me it was never an issue with the "having them in my mouth thing", and that's one of my favorite parts of it. It just doesn't come naturally to me for some reason, and I feel really terrible about it, even though my partner ... More
I hear you completely... I want to do this better but I am simply not good at it. I can more than make up for it with my hands but know how bad he wants the oral.
04/09/2012
ScottA ScottA
It depends how much you know about anatomy. If you know nothing and are a guy you might spend too much time trying to stimulate the vagina - after all, that's where the penis goes, right?

Almost as bad would be the person who knows a little. The person who knows that the clitoris is where it's at, and goes straight there and works it over hard.

Once you've gotten past those there should be a bunch of "OK" cunnilinguists, but going from there to excellence can take a lifetime of practice with someone who's a good coach.

I think that women probably have it easy. As long as you keep the teeth covered it's hard to give bad fellatio.
04/09/2012
silverpheonix and curvyturtle silverpheonix and curvyturtle
I always go down on my girlfriend we have been together almost 9 years and she still wants nothing to do with my dick going anywhere near her mouth. To be honest she doesn't even realy like touching it. I'm cercumsized I keep it clean(washed) as well as well groomed. She says they are just wierd. The rare times she does actualy try to give me head she barely gets the head of my dick in her mouth and she starts gagging then gives up and says she simply cannot do it. grrrrr.....lol
04/10/2012
Mrs.R Mrs.R
Getting a few extra pointers never hurt anyone. Oral seems straight forward, but there area definitely small changes that someone can do to enhance the situation. The book sounds good.
05/17/2012
Mrs.R Mrs.R
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Originally posted by silverpheonix and curvyturtle
I always go down on my girlfriend we have been together almost 9 years and she still wants nothing to do with my dick going anywhere near her mouth. To be honest she doesn't even realy like touching it. I'm cercumsized I keep it clean(washed) ... More
I can understand how giving oral could make her want to gag (sometimes I feel the same), but when you really love someone, you really learn that pleasing them is an awesome feeling for yourself. If she doesn't even like touching your penis, however, that is strange.
05/17/2012
SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
Are we talking males or females? I'd much rather give a female oral sex, but I am better with males. =P
05/21/2012
Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
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Originally posted by xoxo
Giving it comes to me no problem and it always has. Why are some people bad at it? Not trying to sound rude at all. Just curious. Do they just want new techniques?
I wouldn't say that I'm bad at it, my fiance certainly seems to get off when I give him oral, but I might still buy a book or something just for new techniques or ideas.
05/21/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
Some people are naturals at certain things and others need a bit of practice and guidance. It doesn't mean that particular skill is difficult, you just need some instruction. For example, I can knit but if you handed me some knitting needles and yarn for the very first time it would take me a while to figure out how achieve a beautiful cabled sweater when I started with an ugly lumpy scarf.
05/21/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
You can always get better! But I don't think a book can tell you much, the guy should be the one saying what he likes.
05/21/2012
reinkaos reinkaos
I have never had any complaints in my oral skills, but I figure a book is to give tips and advanced techniques and ways to spice up oral
05/21/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
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Originally posted by xoxo
Giving it comes to me no problem and it always has. Why are some people bad at it? Not trying to sound rude at all. Just curious. Do they just want new techniques?
hard? no. Boring? Sometimes. LOL. Every once in a while you just need a little something to give you an extra "umph" and maybe some new techniques. Then you have those that have never done it or maybe their partner is really experienced in receiving and has had quite a few partners and that person just wants to have a leg up on the situation LOL.
05/21/2012
xilliannax xilliannax
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Originally posted by Moein
I think it is a psycho issue that she/he doesn't like putting his/her mouth -where food come in- at other's organ -where urine come out- This is the only inner cause.
My wife also has this problem before, but when she was watching me do ... More
agreed.
Most of the books say the first step is relax and to lose your fear
05/21/2012
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