I have two kids now. I am completely done. I have a 13 yr old and a 2 yr old. Yes big age gap.
Do you ever want to have kids?
01/12/2013
i might someday
01/12/2013
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I do not want children, don't think I ever will
Originally posted by
hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at
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I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at some point in life. What are your feelings, eden community? Please explain your answers in comments.
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01/12/2013
First I want a daddy but yeah sure, in a few years time.
01/12/2013
I have 3. I'm done.
01/12/2013
I don't want kids ever. Period.
01/12/2013
I want kids eventually, I'm just enjoying married life right now. Also I'd like to be making some more money before I have kids, but everyone keeps telling me that if I wait until I could afford a kid, I'll never have one!
01/12/2013
I do not want kids. But, the possibility could arise in the future. But, as it stands, I'd probably adopt.
01/12/2013
I don't want kids, but sometimes I have maternal pangs. It's odd.
01/12/2013
i have 3 but we may adopt one more
01/12/2013
Right now I don't have any but would give anything to be a mom. In due time I am hoping to have a baby belly. I have always for as long as I can remember wanted to be a mom.
01/12/2013
I already have three awesome kids, I'd rather like to stick with that!
01/12/2013
On one hand, I'm open to the idea of having kids - preferably adoptions because I feel too many kids are stuck in the system and want to help out somehow - but on the other, I think I'm not ever going to psychologically or emotionally capable of having children/dealing with them.
There are other reasons I'm disinclined to give birth, but that's another story.
There are other reasons I'm disinclined to give birth, but that's another story.
01/12/2013
I don't want to have kids, but if my partner really really wants them and I love them a lot I would consider it.
I might feel too dysphoric to have them myself, but I am 100% willing to consider adoption. I'm probably 50% or less likely to consider holding the kids inside of me, even if I love my partner a lot a lot. That partner would have to be super special to me.
If we were in a 2+ relationship, like poly, I might ask one of the other partners (if that is possible) to carry the children instead
I might feel too dysphoric to have them myself, but I am 100% willing to consider adoption. I'm probably 50% or less likely to consider holding the kids inside of me, even if I love my partner a lot a lot. That partner would have to be super special to me.
If we were in a 2+ relationship, like poly, I might ask one of the other partners (if that is possible) to carry the children instead
01/13/2013
Yeah, I want them some day.
01/13/2013
I did want kids at one time...but now its not looking possible anyway, so no...
01/13/2013
I don't want to have kids but I'd be open to adopting.
01/13/2013
My partner and I both really want kids but not yet, we're both too young right now. Everyone I know my age is having kids and has been for the last 2 or 3 years and I think it's crazy!
01/13/2013
Big maybe.
01/13/2013
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Hey, a lot of people chose this response. My roommate is that way. He says children are like parasites growing inside of you and aren't in his life plan at all. Actually he plans on getting snipped as soon as he has his own insurance.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
Wow, first to click "don't want ever".
Seriously, I'm carrying some fucked up genetic problems that I don't want to saddle a kid with and I don't have a maternal instinct. You know those women who shouldn't have ... more
Seriously, I'm carrying some fucked up genetic problems that I don't want to saddle a kid with and I don't have a maternal instinct. You know those women who shouldn't have ... more
Wow, first to click "don't want ever".
Seriously, I'm carrying some fucked up genetic problems that I don't want to saddle a kid with and I don't have a maternal instinct. You know those women who shouldn't have children because they're such lousy mothers with no interest in their kids and you just want to slap them? Yeah, that's what "not having a maternal instinct" is about.
Since I don't have one, I don't miss it as much as people think I should. A biological truism is not going to dictate my life, nor am I going to let society's comfort and expectations of normal ruin a child's life by having me as its mother.
For the record, I was hit with baby-crack twice - both times lasted less than a week. This is not a sign that I really want children in my life if my desire to have them has lasted less than ten days in my whole life.
Anyway, I've taken care of it permanently - I had a tubal back in October, 2011. I took responsibility and removed myself from the gene pool. (Although my boyfriend considers this a great loss, as he had decided way back when we were in high school that he wanted me to be the mother of his children someday. ) less
Seriously, I'm carrying some fucked up genetic problems that I don't want to saddle a kid with and I don't have a maternal instinct. You know those women who shouldn't have children because they're such lousy mothers with no interest in their kids and you just want to slap them? Yeah, that's what "not having a maternal instinct" is about.
Since I don't have one, I don't miss it as much as people think I should. A biological truism is not going to dictate my life, nor am I going to let society's comfort and expectations of normal ruin a child's life by having me as its mother.
For the record, I was hit with baby-crack twice - both times lasted less than a week. This is not a sign that I really want children in my life if my desire to have them has lasted less than ten days in my whole life.
Anyway, I've taken care of it permanently - I had a tubal back in October, 2011. I took responsibility and removed myself from the gene pool. (Although my boyfriend considers this a great loss, as he had decided way back when we were in high school that he wanted me to be the mother of his children someday. ) less
01/13/2013
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This is a problem many women have. The good thing is that you know, rather than placing the blame on your child. I don't hold it against you at all and I hope nobody else in the thread does. There are ways to get help if you feel it is necessary, but as long as you don't hate the child, you shouldn't have much to worry about.
Originally posted by
Gone (LD29)
If I didn't already have a child, I would have clicked "don't want ever" as well. I'm the one who picked "other."
I'm going to be honest here, and hopefully I don't get harassed too much for my feelings ... more
I'm going to be honest here, and hopefully I don't get harassed too much for my feelings ... more
If I didn't already have a child, I would have clicked "don't want ever" as well. I'm the one who picked "other."
I'm going to be honest here, and hopefully I don't get harassed too much for my feelings on the matter. I didn't want children, but my husband and I ended up pregnant and reluctantly decided to follow through. I love my son very much, but there are sure days when I feel awful that this poor kid got stuck with me for a mother.
I faked enthusiasm as I told people I was pregnant, hoping in part that the enthusiasm would become real as time went on. My son is 4 years old now, and sometimes I feel like I'm still waiting for that enthusiasm to become real. I love my son. He's a good kid, and I really do want what's best for him. We have good days and bad days, and for better or worse I know I'm his Mommy and I do my best to care for him and live up to the title. He deserves it.
If I had the chance to do it all again, I know deep down one of the things I'd change would be to stay child free. I hate myself for feeling that way, but I can't change it. I've tried.
Not every woman is cut out for motherhood, but I'm going to keep faking it until it becomes the truth.
(It should go without saying that I don't plan to have any more.) less
I'm going to be honest here, and hopefully I don't get harassed too much for my feelings on the matter. I didn't want children, but my husband and I ended up pregnant and reluctantly decided to follow through. I love my son very much, but there are sure days when I feel awful that this poor kid got stuck with me for a mother.
I faked enthusiasm as I told people I was pregnant, hoping in part that the enthusiasm would become real as time went on. My son is 4 years old now, and sometimes I feel like I'm still waiting for that enthusiasm to become real. I love my son. He's a good kid, and I really do want what's best for him. We have good days and bad days, and for better or worse I know I'm his Mommy and I do my best to care for him and live up to the title. He deserves it.
If I had the chance to do it all again, I know deep down one of the things I'd change would be to stay child free. I hate myself for feeling that way, but I can't change it. I've tried.
Not every woman is cut out for motherhood, but I'm going to keep faking it until it becomes the truth.
(It should go without saying that I don't plan to have any more.) less
01/13/2013
I'm pretty sure I do not want kids, but who knows... that could always change.
01/13/2013
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If people don't want kids, that's totally fine. Unfortunately, the people that generally decide to not have kids are the highly intelligent individuals whose DNA we really need in the gene pool. We're totally on the road to Idiocracy (it's a movie, check it out).
Originally posted by
hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at
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I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at some point in life. What are your feelings, eden community? Please explain your answers in comments.
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01/14/2013
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Eh, I don't hate kids - the "child-free" movement has really ruined the general perception of those of who who know we're not suited to parenthood as opposed to those who just plain hate other people/children. Because of them, the rest of us are still regarded with suspicion (sometimes of not being human).
Originally posted by
hmb12
Hey, a lot of people chose this response. My roommate is that way. He says children are like parasites growing inside of you and aren't in his life plan at all. Actually he plans on getting snipped as soon as he has his own insurance.
Tell him to check out public health - that's how I got my tubal. Public health is pretty much "You're 21? You've thought this over? Okay, sign here, and we'll get you a doc who'll perform it." No requirements by private doctors/insurance saying "OMG U gotz hav kidz b4 i doos et!"
01/14/2013
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I would have a house full of kids provided I didn't have to birth them (I hated being pregnant the three times I was) and as long as I had enough help caring for them....say a full time nurse and a nanny!
Originally posted by
hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at
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I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at some point in life. What are your feelings, eden community? Please explain your answers in comments.
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I have three kids and I would love to have more but at 42 that's just not a prospect I look forward to again. Being pregnant as a 20 something was so much easier than being pregnant as an older 30 something! The early weeks felt like sheer hell even though I love the little guy to pieces.
Still if either of my guys wasn't totally serious about not wanting anymore children I'd probably have a litter....
01/14/2013
I do not want kids but I may change my mind in the future. Most likely not.
01/14/2013
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I'm 20 with a 7 year old sister so I understand. Once she graduates I will be about 31
Originally posted by
PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I have two kids now. I am completely done. I have a 13 yr old and a 2 yr old. Yes big age gap.
01/14/2013
Adopting is always an option as well. There are plenty of children without real homes
01/14/2013
I Want Kids, But I'm Young And Should Probably Wait
01/14/2013
We want kids one day if not naturally then by adoption. It's just not the right time now.
01/14/2013