Do you ever want to have kids?

Sinfully Sinfully
Nope. Never.
01/14/2013
chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
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Originally posted by hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at ... More
i always said i wanted 2, but i am happy with just my daughter
01/15/2013
Incendiaire Incendiaire
Definitely not, I don't really see the point of creating more people.
01/15/2013
Fluffy Snuggles Fluffy Snuggles
We know we want, but we're just not quite ready right now.
01/16/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Someday, but no time soon.
01/16/2013
Sangsara Sangsara
i want kids like next year but who with?
01/16/2013
chicmichiw chicmichiw
Man I feel like I say 'never!' but then I'll have to eat my words in like 10 years
01/18/2013
Curiouscat Curiouscat
Someday probably, but not anytime soon.
01/18/2013
Rory Rory
We decided years ago to never have kids.
01/20/2013
amazon amazon
Kids... no. More toys... YES!
01/20/2013
hmb12 hmb12
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Originally posted by amazon
Kids... no. More toys... YES!
Toys won't refuse to do their chores.
01/21/2013
VeganChick (is Gone) VeganChick (is Gone)
Sometimes I think I do and sometimes I think I don't. Either way it will be a really hard decision because I have bipolar and managing a mental illness during pregnancy with minimal medication is very difficult. Then there is always the possibility of having a child with mental illness, and that is a lot to take on.
02/06/2013
tortilla tortilla
two is enuf for me
02/07/2013
hillys hillys
I'm still young and slightly scared of kids, but when I become not so scared of them maybe.
02/07/2013
TheirPet TheirPet
I don't want kids and because of my health and genetics I won't have any. I might adopt if I change my mind.
02/07/2013
BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
I have kids, don't want more. I have 2 boys ages 5 and 8I want a girl but I am done having kids
02/07/2013
twelve13 twelve13
There's like a five percent chance that I'd have one kid. But if that were the case, it wouldn't be until I was at LEAST 30.
02/24/2013
bowzer311 bowzer311
I have a 7 1/2 Month old baby and I love it so much. We would like one more yet but I dont want any more than two. My son is the best thing in this world. Now he wasnt ready for it when I found out but after the baby was in his arms everything was great.
02/24/2013
Kelslynn22 Kelslynn22
Oh yea I want kids!
02/25/2013
SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
I like (most) kids, I do want to have my own at some point, but I probably would never be able to afford them. If I ever make enough money to pay for a housekeeper, a nanny, private piano lessons and posh boarding school then yes, I will.
02/28/2013
James Axel James Axel
I hate kids so much. I would never want one of my own.
02/28/2013
eri86 eri86
I want kids a couple years after I get married.
02/28/2013
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at ... More
Someday, but not right now.
02/28/2013
sexy34 sexy34
I have one child and wish i could have more but i had health problems and cant. I love being a mom..
02/28/2013
P'Gell P'Gell
I have kids and I love having them. But, it's a difficult lifestyle, it effects which careers and free time you can have (if you care about how children are raised and want to be part of it) and some people simply don't want kids.

I don't think it's "normal" to have to want kids. Anymore than it's "normal" to want to own a house, or "normal" to want to go to Europe, or "normal" to want a high powered career.

Everyone is different. I'm glad some people don't want kids and that we have the technology, the freedom and the medicine to prevent pregnancy, if that is what we choose. Not everyone was meant to be a parent, not everyone would enjoy it, not everyone would be good at it.

Better to not have kids than have them because you think you are "supposed to" and spend your life being away from them as much as possible and resenting every moment you have to spend with them.

I love being a mother, but not everyone thinks the way I do, nor is everyone willing to do the things I had to do to become a good mother... nor should they. Because I'm a parent, I'm glad some people don't want to become parents... I know how hard it is and how much sacrifice it takes to parents even half way decently and how it is NOT a lifestyle for everyone.

We have choices now, and I am glad that people feel free to exercise them. People can and do have full, fulfilling, happy lives without children. I say more power to them if that's what works for them.
02/28/2013
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by fizzygato
I don't want to have kids, but if my partner really really wants them and I love them a lot I would consider it.

I might feel too dysphoric to have them myself, but I am 100% willing to consider adoption. I'm probably 50% or less ... More
Adoptive children are just as much a responsibility as bio-kids. In a lot of cases (especially if you don't get them as infants) they are MORE responsibility than bio-kids, as they have a LOT of baggage they bring with them, and only a person who desires children more than anything in the world should take on these very challenging children to keep with them forever.

Also, most adoption agencies won't consider you for small children if you are fertile. They figure if you "can't handle" something minutely challenging like pregnancy, you aren't going to be able to handle kids.

Believe me, I had rough high risk pregnancies and they were NOTHING compared to the challenges that raising the actual kids were. Add an older kid, whose up for adoption because of abuse or neglect and you have 1,000 times the challenge of simply being pregnant. Pregnancy is the EASY part.
02/28/2013
Castielskitten Castielskitten
We have been trying to conceive for the past 4 years, and we literally just realized that we've been missing my ovulation cycle each time. We only just figured this out because I realized that I've been paying attention to the people who talk about 5-7 day periods and here I am with a 3 day period.
So we are now going to try to have sex each day around the same time to see if that helps with it.
Though if we don't get pregnant by the time we get health insurance, we're going in to see if we can have kids.
07/10/2013
Aishiteru Aishiteru
I want a kid or two someday, but no more than that.
07/10/2013
caramilk caramilk
Quote:
Originally posted by hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at ... More
i am such a kid-person, i'm really young and still in college but i do want to have more than one eventually, probably starting at 35yrs old honestly. which is funny because none of my friends want kids at all lol, i'm the odd one out. i think it's normal for some people not to want kids though, society tends to try and make you feel weird for not wanting them but i think it's totally fine.
07/13/2013
SweetSaffron SweetSaffron
I know so many people who have kids now, and the more time I spend around children, the more I decide it's not for me. When my mother had her surprise baby at 45, (now a 5-year-old), and when my sister had her baby 2 years ago, I was frequently chastised for really not knowing what to do. I know how to hold a baby correctly, how to prepare the bottle/feed them, change the diapers, but there's apparently a lot more than that, and I don't "get" it like everyone else does.

My late husband and I discussed at length how it wouldn't be fair to the kid if we had one. We each have so many health problems that would be passed on, that we just didn't want to put another human through after experiencing firsthand. We also discussed the terrible shape that my back is in, and how it's likely that I couldn't physically stand pregnancy. I'm in enough pain on a daily basis, and have had to leave work early due to being in too much pain to SEE. Add the weight and stress of pregancy - I'd be a useless invalid the whole time, and I just can't accept that. I have this work ethic thing, I don't even like it when I get paid to sit around reading or knitting because we're out of work. My absolute lack of maternal instinct was a factor, as well.

Speaking of that - my sister and my nephew are currently staying with me while my sister job hunts. Apparently, I have a good "Mommy voice", while she tends to yell or screech more frequently. Aside from the voice, I don't know what I'm doing, I really don't. I just copy her if I need to discipline him, like when he jumped on my cat. But the more time I spend with children, the more I know I just don't have the patience for it, or the ability to deal with most of it. I can barely handle cats and plants, I should not ever have a child. I can't clean up puke, I'll add to it. I can't clean up poop, I'll puke. I can't even hear someone puke, or I'll join them.

I occasionally hear mothers talk about what an amazing experience I'm missing out on. It may very well be amazing for you, I'll take your word for it. But it sure wasn't for my mother, my sisters and I were heathen demon children. Some people should have kids, and some shouldn't. I feel that I fall in the "shouldn't" category, and will certainly refrain.
07/14/2013
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