If you're best friend is of the opposite sex do you go to them for sex advice or tips?

unfulfilled unfulfilled
My best friend is a male and I can tell him anything and everything. He can ask me anything and everything and we're always honest with one another. So the topic of sex comes up a lot especially from me on how to's or tips in general. A guys perspective on what guys like or may be thinking if x happens etc. I was wondering if others have a friend of the opposite sex they go to for this or are your best friends generally the same sex?
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My best friend is of the opposite sex and we discuss sex
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26  (45%)
My best friend is of the opposite sex, but we do not discuss sex
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My best friend is the same sex and we discuss sex
Ms. Spice , LQ , AngelvMaynard , ColorMeCute , Rarity , SilverIsis , Cherrylane , The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary , zracer , Yoda , carenautilus , MissStormRyder , caligaliber , toxie m , LittleBoPeep , emilia , FemmeFlo , zeb , jessesgirly , ksparkles16
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My best friend is the same sex and we do not discuss sex
Gunsmoke , Avant-garde , Lummox
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I don't discuss sex with anyone, but my partner
married with children
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Other
Beck , Airen Wolf , ss143 , Midway through , potstickers , Lady Hazel , ddd masturbator(bye all!)
7  (12%)
Total votes: 58
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My best friend now is of the same sex (female), but for like 25 years they were 99% male. And yeah, talked to them a lot. My first blowjob information came from a (straight) male friend with a Popsicle. (He was quite good at it too. Not so sure about the straight thing now.) I still use the lube first suggested by a gay male friend long ago. Etc. When I started to have more female friends in my 30s, I found that the talk was different & we could talk about "girl stuff." But I'm glad I had the chance to get so much guy perspective over the years.
10/13/2011
- Kira - - Kira -
My now ex best friend that has yet to be replaced was male and most of my other friends are guys as well. I talk with almost all of them about sex to some degree or another. My ex best friend and I used to have lots of juicy details and he would always ask for advice on what to do with his girlfriends and such. I actually helped him lose his virginity (not to me!). I like to talk about sex so being my friend carries that requirement.
10/13/2011
Beck Beck
I do not have any friends of the opposite sex. My husband thinks that out of respect for him, I should not. That is ridiculous but whatever. I would go to any friend that would give me good advice about the subject sure.
10/13/2011
Rarity Rarity
My best friend is of the same sex and we talk about sex. We gave each other tips once but it's not something we do lots.

I do have a male friend that I discuss sex with. He may not be my best friend but it's no big deal.
10/13/2011
SilverIsis SilverIsis
I discuss sex with friends of both genders but I don't really ask advice. As for my best friends both are female, with one being a virgin (based on what she has said, I have never directly asked her) and the other is married and I am friends with her husband as well. Asking the married one about details makes me feel weird because I don't want the mental image and the other is good for a sounding board but can't really give me her own personal experiences.
10/13/2011
Paladin Fantasys Paladin Fantasys
My best friend is my wife, she's of the opposite sex, we talk sex, and we do sex with each other.
10/13/2011
Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
My best friend is a male, and we can talk about anything and everything. We don't give each other tips, but I never really asked for any. I just like that we can share anything with each other and be completely cool about it. I find it's easier to talk to guys about sex though.
10/13/2011
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Quote:
Originally posted by Paladin Fantasys
My best friend is my wife, she's of the opposite sex, we talk sex, and we do sex with each other.
Yeah that - my best friend is my spouse. I don't really have male friends (at least not close ones) out of respect for my husband because it is too easy to cross boundaries and hurt someone.
10/13/2011
Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
My best friend is transgendered and my fiance. We discuss everything and anything sex.
10/13/2011
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
My best friend is a male and I can tell him anything and everything. He can ask me anything and everything and we're always honest with one another. So the topic of sex comes up a lot especially from me on how to's or tips in general. A ... More
All guys discuss sex tips with their buddies. But we dont get as detailed as a woman would.
10/13/2011
ss143 ss143
I don't have friends period but if I did as long as they we're a trusted honest friend I would
10/13/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
All guys discuss sex tips with their buddies. But we dont get as detailed as a woman would.
I guess I must not be a real guy - or know any for that matter.

I've never discussed sex with any guy I know - nor have any of them brought up the subject to me.

A little word of caution - there's an old adage - Assumptions make an ass of you and me! Not trying to be rude - just say'n...
10/13/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
i tell my best guy friend a lot, & he tells me a lot, too
10/13/2011
Antipova Antipova
Sex is pretty central to my personality, so I only make friendships where I feel comfortable talking about sex. (That awful 'they'd probably judge you if they kneeeew' feeling evaporates when you feel comfortable talking, and they don't judge you!) But, I only have 3 close female friends, and the rest of my close friends are guys.
10/13/2011
Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
I don't really go to my guy friends for tips, but I do ask for advice now and then.
10/14/2011
True Pleasures True Pleasures
My best friend is the opposite sex and he's like an older brother to me. He's been really great with helping me understand my husband in general, and not just with sex.
10/14/2011
carenautilus carenautilus
Well I'm (very nearly entirely) a woman, my primary partner is more-or-less a woman. So this question doesn't really have the same implications, but yes, I talk to all my close friends of all genders about sex.
10/14/2011
Avant-garde Avant-garde
My best friend is a pretty cool guy, but I am a very private person, I just don't like the idea of someone knowing everything about me. So, I don't talk to him about sex very much at all.
10/14/2011
bdvnt bdvnt
I have an ex that I'm very close to. We talk about everything, and sex comes up a lot. We can talk about any subject, and I enjoy having someone I can trust to tell anything.
10/14/2011
jewelsngems jewelsngems
I talk about sex with everyone, life is too short to be shy
10/14/2011
toxie m toxie m
My best friend is the same sex and we discuss all kinds of sex stuff I do have close male friends and we sometimes talk about sex, but much more they are asking me questions than the other way around. But, I work in a sex shop, so I'm often the one with the info they need
10/14/2011
Tuesday Tuesday
He's not my best friend, but I do have a guy friend that I'm close enough to talk about sex with. He's my one violation of the rule that you don't talk about sex with guys you don't want to sleep with.
10/14/2011
Peggi Peggi
I have more than 1 best friend but the one I am THE closest to, is my boyfriend. We discuss sex, have sex, enjoy sex, read about sex, there is a lot of sex involved I do have a lot of guy friends though, and we discuss sex too.
10/14/2011
ToyBoy ToyBoy
I discuss sex with all my friends. My boyfriend is of course my best friend, and we talk about sex all the time. My other good friends, both guys and girls, talk about sex with me.
10/14/2011
fifi fifi
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
My best friend is a male and I can tell him anything and everything. He can ask me anything and everything and we're always honest with one another. So the topic of sex comes up a lot especially from me on how to's or tips in general. A ... More
My best friend is the opposite sex, and he's also my exboyfriend. I'm seeing someone now, and he's married to someone else. We've not slept together since we split up 7 years ago, neither of our significant others have an issue with us being close friends, and we still talk about anything and everything, we have a very open-communication relationship. So that includes talking about sex. His wife has thanked me for the advice i've given him, including tips on helping her be more liberated in the bedroom as she has limited experiences. And my boyfriend has been thankful for when i ask my bestfriend what goes on in a guy's head in different situations so I can try new things on my boyfriend and keep him happy.

Also, to the people who are saying it's disrespectful to your significant other/spouse to have friends of the gender you're attracted to, seriously? People are people, not matter the gender. If you're married to someone, there should be mutual trust. If you can't trust yourself around the opposite gender, or if your spouse doesn't trust you because they're worried you'll be tempted to cheat emotionally or physically, it's not a problem with the friendship, it's a trust and commitment issue in the relationship. =(
10/15/2011
Midway through Midway through
I voted other because I have two best friends, one is a guy and one is a girl, and I talk to both about sex.
10/15/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'm glad I wasn't the only one that had best friends that you talk about things with. I'm more comfortable with males than females and have always been that way. There's no way my husband would tell me I couldn't have male friends because I've had them as friends longer than I've known him and he knows that and respects my choice of friends. They do come in handy don't they when you're wondering what's going through your spouses head.
10/15/2011
fifi fifi
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
I'm glad I wasn't the only one that had best friends that you talk about things with. I'm more comfortable with males than females and have always been that way. There's no way my husband would tell me I couldn't have male ... More
I'm very much the same way too. Besides my sister and two female friends, I'm surrounded by mostly men, including my son. haha. I grew up with a brother, 6 uncles, and a couple dozen male cousins (big Italian family), so I relate better to guys. My exhusband and now my current boyfriend know the people close in my life have been there for many years, they've stood the test of time and just want to see me happy, so they wouldn't try to take that from me. I think a big part is picking the right sort of friends to have around, and also finding a partner you can have mutual trust with.
10/15/2011
married with children married with children
any thing personal, only gets discussed with my wife. general sex talk, is something that happens all the time with friends.
10/16/2011
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