Partner-Specific Toys?

SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I've had weird love-triangle experiences but I was wondering if it's normal for partners to want toys used between you ONLY used between you. So, I'm asking openly: would you mind if someone used a toy that they used on someone else?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Only if it was a crop or paddle-type toy. Nothing internal.
1  (3%)
Yes, as long as it was cleaned properly.
5  (16%)
I would not want to use any toy that was used on someone else.
26  (81%)
Total votes: 32
Poll is closed
03/08/2012
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Ryuson Ryuson
I wouldn't want to use any toy that I got in a different relationship, personally!
03/08/2012
Positwist Positwist
Depends on the emotional baggage, really (assuming the toy can be properly cleaned, condoms are used when appropriate, etc.). I've been in open relationships more often than not, and since we're sharing each other, sharing toys doesn't seem like a big deal.

But I do have toys that I don't share at all because I love them too much to risk losing it to relationship drama. Good priorities, eh?
03/08/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
I've had weird love-triangle experiences but I was wondering if it's normal for partners to want toys used between you ONLY used between you. So, I'm asking openly: would you mind if someone used a toy that they used on someone else?
I am kind of iffy about the whole practice...I mean I know that my guys might use their penises on someone else but generally they are covered with a condom and washed afterwards. I just really don't like the idea of using a toy that they have used on someone else internally. It seems illogical to me (and to them) but it's one of my many quirks I guess.

Impact toys I don't mind and can even get aroused by Sigel telling me one of his playmates took more punishment with less fuss than I am or something like that. But for internal toys I want my toys to be monogamous LOL!

I do have a drawer of toys that don't work for me but might be great for a playmate to use and generally they go home with the playmate who likes them. The toys are all ones that have been thoroughly cleaned or not used for whatever reason. I call it my 'rehome' drawer. My personal toys are off limits and if either guy wants to use a toy that is mine on a playmate they generally replace it a few days later.
03/08/2012
TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
For dildos/vibrators I have three stashes generally. 1- Mine. Toys only I use. I don't share these at all. 2- Me and/or a partner. These are just for me and my primary partner. Either they were bought by us for us or one of us bought it for the other. 3- Communal. These are toys that I don't mind sharing with proper cleaning procedures/condoms in place.

For BDSM toys. If it is something that can come in contact with fluids (whether that be seminal/vaginal fluids or blood) then it is just for that partner/me. If it is something that does not come in contact with fluids, I don't mind using it between multiple partners.

There is a bunch of open communication about toy cleaning/sharing between me and my partners. If someone were to ask for a non-sharable toy, I would do that in a heartbeat, it's respectful and about hygiene.
03/08/2012
Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
I wouldn't want to use any toy that I got in a different relationship, personally!
Agreed.
03/08/2012
tA tA
If it was cleaned properly and the other people who used it didn't have an STD/STI, yeah, sure, I'd use anything.
03/08/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
I am still weirded out even by the innocent and mere fact that some of my Master's old kink items were used on a few other females before He knew me - not His fault, not mine, and I put up with it trying not to think of it... Well, they still work, their energies are totally flushed out by B/both of U/us - but it is still weird anyway... ^^ ~blushes
03/08/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
No way
03/09/2012
roskat roskat
Toys should be personal and per relationship.
03/10/2012
SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
Interesting responses. I was honestly not expecting so many people to have partner-specific toys. Thanks to everyone who has posted! xx
03/11/2012
sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
I've had weird love-triangle experiences but I was wondering if it's normal for partners to want toys used between you ONLY used between you. So, I'm asking openly: would you mind if someone used a toy that they used on someone else?
I would never ever put my personal health at risk, never ever
03/11/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
It's just me and my boyfriend, and since almost all our toys are able to be sterilized, we share them.
03/11/2012
Trepier Trepier
Wouldn't share them around. What belongs in the bedroom of me and my girlfriend stays there.
03/12/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
I've had weird love-triangle experiences but I was wondering if it's normal for partners to want toys used between you ONLY used between you. So, I'm asking openly: would you mind if someone used a toy that they used on someone else?
Im strictly a one man woman, so this wouldn't be an issue for me, but I say "No way" to any sort of sharing.
03/12/2012
wildorchid wildorchid
I'm in a monogamous relationship and I have toys that I know I will use only in my "alone time". Then I have toys that I don't mind him using on me and vice versa, so long as proper cleaning takes place. If I were in an open relationship, I would probably only be willing to share toys that could be properly sterilized.
03/12/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'd only want my toys used on me.
03/12/2012
woofcub woofcub
paddles, cuffs and collars and toys similar I wouldn't mind if others used them but anything that goes inside of someone even silicone gags and toys that can be boiled I still don't like to have used outside myself and my partner.
03/21/2012
Total posts: 18
Unique posters: 17