I was spending an hour or so with a girl I've recently become friends with. She's very nice, a freshman in college and sort of sheltered. She was super-curious to see the new anal beads EF sent me a couple of days ago, so I gleefully showed them to her, along with a couple of other toys (she's never seen a vibrator).
When I mentioned rabbit vibrators, she was rather confused. I was surprised that she'd never heard of a rabbit vibrator, but, well, "sheltered," "never seen a vibrator," etcetera. So I pulled out the Butterfly Kiss, because it's very unintimidating, and mentioned that the butterfly works on your clitoris.
And she goes, "What's that?"
O_O
I was so shocked, she actually felt a little bad. I asked if she had ever masturbated; she looked positively stunned and said, "Wait, girls can masturbate?!"
The next 10 minutes were very educational. I can't remember the last time I had to draw a diagram of the female anatomy and explain basic orgasm mechanics to somebody. (Oh, wait, I can: it was in high school. Girl went to Catholic school all her life, heard the word "vibrator" at my high school, and was really confused. Oi, my life!)
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Well, I certainly had an interesting day...
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I had a really progressive friend, at the end of high school she won quite a few awards for her stance on lesbian & gay rights and her involvement with the LGBT teens at her school. She had a boyfriend and she had had sex before, she was also one of the most intelligent people I knew, I couldn't believe she was only 18... but, she was the SAME way. She had no idea about vibrators and she was clueless when it came to the clitoris. We literally spent HOURS talking at night discussing how getting off worked and when she got her first vibrator she made sure to call me and tell me. Sure, this was senior year and some women don't learn about sex toys until later on in life but with the internet readily available and sex ed classes becoming more in depth I was really shocked she knew so little about her body, how it worked, and about sex toys. Especially when she held meetings at the local LGBT center discussing safe sex.
It just goes to show that people of all backgrounds are a little sheltered when it comes to the knowledge of how to get off and toys. Reply
It just goes to show that people of all backgrounds are a little sheltered when it comes to the knowledge of how to get off and toys. Reply
2 months ago
I recall a day in my senior year when we were discussing sex basically and one of my good friends thought the clit was the same as the g-spot. Unfortunately, even good sex ed doesn't really tell much about the anatomy (more focused on pregnancy and STDS and the like). Still, I had been into sex for years by then and knew it.
Good that we can help some people out, though. Reply
Good that we can help some people out, though. Reply
2 months ago
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Trust me, our sex ed discussed the clitoris. We had a GREAT sexual education program that wasn't just focused on the "use a condom, don't get pregnant, and don't get an STD" ....
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
I recall a day in my senior year when we were discussing sex basically and one of my good friends thought the clit was the same as the g-spot. Unfortunately, even good sex ed doesn't really tell much about the anatomy (more focused on pregnancy and...
2 months ago
My sex ed focused mostly on shame, AIDS, and menstruation. Gotta love that small town life!
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2 months ago
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We were a small town too (pop. 3,000) with a shitty district, we just had an amazing teacher who took her job seriously.
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Originally posted by Spiking Glue
My sex ed focused mostly on shame, AIDS, and menstruation. Gotta love that small town life!
2 months ago
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My home town was about 900 people, I remember my first 'sex ed' class quite clearly. We imported people from 'the city', college students working for credit, and they took us to one side and taught us an approved curriculum. It was quite traumatic and really really weird. In a town that size, strangers practically glow.
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
We were a small town too (pop. 3,000) with a shitty district, we just had an amazing teacher who took her job seriously.
2 months ago
I've mentioned this before, but we had absolutely no sex education. I went to the same system grades K-12. It's quite sad.
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2 months ago
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My lord!!! I thought we had it bad!!! We were a farming town, our neighbors on each side were about a mile away. 900 people though? Holy crap.
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Originally posted by Spiking Glue
My home town was about 900 people, I remember my first 'sex ed' class quite clearly. We imported people from 'the city', college students working for credit, and they took us to one side and taught us an approved curriculum. It was quite traumatic...
2 months ago
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While that's awesome, it's the exception not the rule (even among good sex ed which was my point).
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
Trust me, our sex ed discussed the clitoris. We had a GREAT sexual education program that wasn't just focused on the "use a condom, don't get pregnant, and don't get an STD" ....
2 months ago
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