He Comes Next by Regan Books - review by Venus

Want to get inside your man's head? Wonder why your sex life has lost its zip? Having trouble finding time to make love to your honey? Look no further, my sweet frustrated lady. Ian Kerner's book He Comes Next|He Comes Next is sure to lead you in the right direction.

He Comes Next is the mate to his guide to women's pleasure, called She Comes First|She Comes First. In that book, he discussed all things orgasm-related to women. Due to questions asked from women on that book tour, he decided to write He Comes Next as a follow up book. I have not read She Comes First, but I would really like to check it out after reading He Comes Next. This book is geared towards male psychology and pleasure, and my review will follow suit. I'm not intentionally leaving the ladies out; Kerner deals with feminine psychology and pleasure in the first book.

That said, there is a great deal to be learned by lovers of men in this book. Right off the bat, Kerner tells the reader that the book is divided into two sections: psychology and technique. He stresses that there are plenty of other books that deal solely with technique. Kerner offers many techniques, tips, and advice in the second half, but the first half is the most revealing. In the psychology section, the reader is treated to many insights into a man's psyche that may help whatever problems you might be facing in the bedroom.

I liked this book right away. I have always wanted to read these books, and I was not disappointed. He covers "White Tigresses," "Green Dragons," and "Jade Dragons," which are Ancient Chinese terms dealing with sexual energy. Women who were very powerful in receiving sexual energy from men were "White Tigresses" and "Green" or "Jade" dragons were their consorts (like he says, think Samantha from SATC). Not only does he try to summon the power of the White Tigress in every woman, he offers plenty of practical, psychological advice on getting your man in the mood, why a nice hip massage is essential to good lovemaking, opening up to different sex scripts to keep your love alive, and more.

The book is a very quick read (205 pages) and is in understandable language. Nothing is too complicated to understand. I think that it is chock-full of good advice for couples who are dating, newlyweds, past the seven-year itch, and love-birds of any age. The book is written from a heterosexual stance, with no chapter on alternative lifestyle couples. I guess if a man were to pick this book up looking for some new twists and turns, it would offer just as much advice as it does to women who are looking for the same thing. However, a man reading this would probably be able to come at it (pardon the pun) from his own personal experience with pleasure and techniques.

That said, the book is directed towards women in monogamous relationships with men. That turned me off a little. This book contains more tips about addressing root problems in your relationship that are keeping you from good sex than "a guide to pleasuring a man," like the book advertises. It actually made me feel a little sad that I don't have a regular sex partner. So if you're single, this is a good read for research purposes, but understand that this book is directed towards couples. It really should be called "The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring Her Husband."