The Straight Girl's Guide To Sleeping With Chicks - erotic book by Fireside - review by Essin' Em

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The Straight Girl's Guide To Sleeping With Chicks review

I wouldn't ever reference this book for a paper in class, but for a random straight girl looking to get in on some cunt action, this is definitely a very informative guide. She covered fingering, finger fucking, oral sex, anal sex, and toys, toys, toys, all with awesome pictures of plastic dolls demonstrating. A little blasphemous, yes. Hilarious, without a doubt!
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4
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This educational book was not written for me. I'm about as straight as Ellen. One the other hand, I have a relatively academically sound mind, and figured I could read this book for those for whom it was written: Straight Girls.

I wasn't sure how I felt about the use of the label straight, because many people feel that if you're dating/sleeping with/fucking chicks, you're not exactly straight. However, the author does explain this in her intro to The Straight Girl's Guide To Sleeping With Chicks, that she's anti label, but it would be too long of a title to go into the "women who like women and/or sleep with men and women and ____" which does make sense. Although I didn't really like her use of "normal" equaling sex with men, and sex with women being seen as outside of normal.

For the most part, her advice is good. I was impressed with her chapter on safer sex. Very few people who write about female on female sex decide to cover the latex (or saran wrap as the case may be) angle, even though those vaginas are certainly susceptible to a whole plethora of beasties down there. Props to her for covering such an important issue, and for really doing it well! I also LOVED her discussion of "what is sex," as many of her thoughts echoed mine. She summarizes that it is sex if you think it is sex, whether that's penetration, oral stimulation, making out, or getting cozy with the spin cycle on your washing machine. I think that's a great way of looking at it, and I agree whole-heartedly.

The chapters that get down and dirty with the details are equally as well written. I wouldn't ever reference this book for a paper in class, but for a random straight girl looking to get in on some cunt action, this is definitely a very informative guide. It covers how important knowing your own body is before jumping in bed with a hot woman (or anyone, for that matter). She covered fingering, finger fucking, oral sex, anal sex, and toys, toys, toys, all with awesome pictures of plastic dolls demonstrating. A little blasphemous, yes. Hilarious, without a doubt!

I disliked her constant use of the word "tits." I know it does it for some people - it does not do it for me. It makes me cringe. I really wished she had used breasts, or boobs, or as my friend calls mine "bodacious ta-tas" instead. Although I guess other people might have problems with those terms, or her use of the word "cunt" which I myself really like. It just turned me off from a lot of the sections.

Conversely, her suggestions for what to do to someone you have tied up were incredibly hot. Granted, I'm usually the one getting my wrists secured above my head, but I have to say, the way she went about it made me eager to jump my partner and get out the ropes the next time we're together.

I also was a little surprised at how much she pushes alcohol as part of getting it on with the girls. I mean, yes, after a few drinks, I'll make out with hordes of people (although I sometimes do that sober...). However, I don't think anyone should really suggest getting drunk in order to have sex with a woman. It is my opinion that if you "have" to drink in order to do it, you shouldn't be doing it - I've heard that used as an excuse far too many times ("I was drunk, it's not my fault I fucked your partner/got in a car crash/didn't show up/etc"). While I can see relaxing being important, a hot bath, meditation, or dancing to 80's music in your underwear can provide the same means to an end. Getting drunk to hook up with a woman sounds like a bad plan. You may do things you regret, or you may have a great time, and not remember any of it (I'm not even going to touch the topic of getting sick in the middle of sex). The push for alcohol just left me with an icky feeling.

From a sex-positive queer feminist (that's me!) point of view, the book was hit or miss. Some things were outstanding, and some made me grind my teeth. For a straight girl who hasn't been with another woman before, it's an awesome guide. I'll average these two perspectives and give this book four stars.
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  • DominaDoll01
    Did she offer any advice for picking up women, Essin' Em?  As a femme bi girl I find it hard coming on to or flirting with gay women.  I go to many gay girl events and always seem to go home alone. Boohoo!  I feel there is a divide among bi girls and dykes, perhaps a fear of, at least where I live, and often feel out of the loop.  Thanks for a great review btw!
  • Domina -

    I agree about the disconnect/issue with bi vs. lesbian. Goodness knows when I tell people I identify as "pansexual," it's suddenly "oh, so you fuck men too?"  Don't even get me started.

    Actually, I'd recommend the book "Girl Meets Girl" for all women that like women; bi, gay, lesbian, queer, trans, etc. much more inclusive, talks more about meeting people, and much more likely to get me/you/your friend laid :)  Eden sells it, of course.
  • Airlia
    I don't think I want this or would recommend the book because books shouldn't sell alcohol so much. I get the feeling that they are aiming at those college girls on spring break... straight, bi, gay whatever, no one should be told that alcohol is a good way to get into anything.

    Shame because some sections seem interesting.
  • Opal
    Great review - it's a fun, lighthearted book. I bought it mostly because I about died laughing at the dolls in compromising positions.

    I found her safe-sex tips to be very informative, but I too thought her suggestions about alcohol use were a little disturbing. Sienna's echoing my thoughts as well - it comes off as very frat-girl at times.
  • kawigrl
    thanks for the review- i think i can deal with the over usage of the word tits and alcohol it might be worth it just for the pics of funny dolls
  • mikebooks
    "bodacious ta-tas" ) good review by the way
  • M121212
    Thanks for the review
  • ijako9
    My friend calls them chesticles
  • yeoshua
    Is there an estimate of the % of straight women who have just had a curiosity sex with another woman and the women who have actually had relationships with other women? Should we guys have to know--does the book handle to tell or not to tell?
  • Howley
    thanks
  • hippie
    thanks for the review!
  • pinkzombie
    Excellent review!
  • quantumspork
    Great review, thanks!
  • AnotherPrettyFace
    Thanks for the helpful review, and responses to others comments. I am going to check out girl meets girl now.
  • cryinglightning86
    Thanks for the review - great to hear the perspective of a queer woman on this book!
  • kittenfacery
    thanks for the review
  • angelicrose30
    Thank you essin em I loved your review and agree with you whole heartedly about drinking. I want to read it even more now But was very thrown off at the title Thanks
  • edwarde2
    Great
  • Mylo
    Sounds like it could be a funny read. Don't think it is for me though.
  • ShinySuicide
    Thank you for the review!
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