cheating or not>?
Perhaps "cheating" in the sense of a breach of trust. I know some people are really uptight and uncomfortable with it due to upbringing, and I can't totally rule out their feelings - old-fashioned or not, they're people too.
Personally, I would never call that cheating. Not even remotely.
Personally, I would never call that cheating. Not even remotely.
Jan 2, 1:45 am
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Not cheating. In fact if they didn't watch it I would be more concerned that their was something wrong with them then if they do. I think that a lot of our "Women's Magazines" tend to program us to think that if a man we are with looks at another human being in a sexual way then he needs to be dumped on the spot. This has messed up a lot of our common sense thought processes. It is absolute human nature to be curious and to want to see other members of the opposite sex naked and/or in a sexual way. Trying to suppress or restrict that from someone is completely wrong for us to do.
Originally posted by
piglet4
if your partner watches porn do you consider that cheating or is that normal?
Now... I will say if it becomes obsessive (Careful with that one - 3o minutes to a couple hours a day is not obsessive) then it might be an issue. I would consider obsessive in my case if they are ignoring me completely and watching porn more then the average guy watches football. lol
It's no different then us watching the soaps or Ophra or "The Bachelor". I actually had a guy who I talk to often who was really upset because his wife was a bachelor addict and she would always say stuff like "He's Hot!!!" to him and to her friends around him. It actually hurt his feelings and made him question if he was what his wife even liked or wanted because he looked nothing like the bachelor. I have had other friends wind up in serious issues in their relationships because they couldn't put down the Ophra crack pipe or the frickin addiction to Facebook/Cityville/Far mville/Who the fuck cares ville...
Porn is good, healthy and normal when watched in moderation just like any other stuff we as human beings do.
Jan 2, 5:51 am
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Wow everyone those are great answers and views i have never thought of. I just see many people struggle because they feel that watching porn is cheating or thinking that something they are doing themselves is wrong or that they are not sexy enough. we are all humans and we do what we are suppose to do is how i see it. Not cheating for me too.
Originally posted by
CreamySweet
Not cheating. In fact if they didn't watch it I would be more concerned that their was something wrong with them then if they do. I think that a lot of our "Women's Magazines" tend to program us to think that if a man we are with looks at another
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Not cheating. In fact if they didn't watch it I would be more concerned that their was something wrong with them then if they do. I think that a lot of our "Women's Magazines" tend to program us to think that if a man we are with looks at another human being in a sexual way then he needs to be dumped on the spot. This has messed up a lot of our common sense thought processes. It is absolute human nature to be curious and to want to see other members of the opposite sex naked and/or in a sexual way. Trying to suppress or restrict that from someone is completely wrong for us to do.
Now... I will say if it becomes obsessive (Careful with that one - 3o minutes to a couple hours a day is not obsessive) then it might be an issue. I would consider obsessive in my case if they are ignoring me completely and watching porn more then the average guy watches football. lol
It's no different then us watching the soaps or Ophra or "The Bachelor". I actually had a guy who I talk to often who was really upset because his wife was a bachelor addict and she would always say stuff like "He's Hot!!!" to him and to her friends around him. It actually hurt his feelings and made him question if he was what his wife even liked or wanted because he looked nothing like the bachelor. I have had other friends wind up in serious issues in their relationships because they couldn't put down the Ophra crack pipe or the frickin addiction to Facebook/Cityville/Far mville/Who the fuck cares ville...
Porn is good, healthy and normal when watched in moderation just like any other stuff we as human beings do.
Now... I will say if it becomes obsessive (Careful with that one - 3o minutes to a couple hours a day is not obsessive) then it might be an issue. I would consider obsessive in my case if they are ignoring me completely and watching porn more then the average guy watches football. lol
It's no different then us watching the soaps or Ophra or "The Bachelor". I actually had a guy who I talk to often who was really upset because his wife was a bachelor addict and she would always say stuff like "He's Hot!!!" to him and to her friends around him. It actually hurt his feelings and made him question if he was what his wife even liked or wanted because he looked nothing like the bachelor. I have had other friends wind up in serious issues in their relationships because they couldn't put down the Ophra crack pipe or the frickin addiction to Facebook/Cityville/Far mville/Who the fuck cares ville...
Porn is good, healthy and normal when watched in moderation just like any other stuff we as human beings do.
Jan 2, 11:52 am
I could only see it as being anywhere close to cheating if:
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it "cheating," per se. It would be neglect or a breach of trust, which are still both quite serious matters.
Personally, I like porn, and I'd be bummed if I wound up with someone who wouldn't want to watch it with me. It's a great way to get hot quickly or to get ideas. Or you can get a good laugh, if it's really bad or cheesy.
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it "cheating," per se. It would be neglect or a breach of trust, which are still both quite serious matters.
Personally, I like porn, and I'd be bummed if I wound up with someone who wouldn't want to watch it with me. It's a great way to get hot quickly or to get ideas. Or you can get a good laugh, if it's really bad or cheesy.
Jan 10, 7:47 pm
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i see!! that is very true! but what if the other partner feels they are not good enough for them or see the way the women or men look on the porn and imagine them more than you?
Originally posted by
Rin (aka Nire)
I could only see it as being anywhere close to cheating if:
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it ...
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it ...
I could only see it as being anywhere close to cheating if:
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it "cheating," per se. It would be neglect or a breach of trust, which are still both quite serious matters.
Personally, I like porn, and I'd be bummed if I wound up with someone who wouldn't want to watch it with me. It's a great way to get hot quickly or to get ideas. Or you can get a good laugh, if it's really bad or cheesy.
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it "cheating," per se. It would be neglect or a breach of trust, which are still both quite serious matters.
Personally, I like porn, and I'd be bummed if I wound up with someone who wouldn't want to watch it with me. It's a great way to get hot quickly or to get ideas. Or you can get a good laugh, if it's really bad or cheesy.
Jan 13, 5:35 pm
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That's more a question of self-image and communication than cheating. If someone feels this way, they need to talk it out with their partner and express their feelings, and hopefully they would come to a solution together.
Originally posted by
piglet4
i see!! that is very true! but what if the other partner feels they are not good enough for them or see the way the women or men look on the porn and imagine them more than you?
Jan 13, 10:44 pm
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