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if your partner watches porn do you consider that cheating or is that normal?
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Quote:
Originally posted by piglet4
if your partner watches porn do you consider that cheating or is that normal?
I consider that normal, nothing wrong with watching porn once in a while, I'll watch with him if I'm not busy doing something else.
01/01/2012
AndroAngel AndroAngel
I certainly don't consider it cheating. I might not watch it with him because I'm picky, but I don't care one way or another. I only get grouchy when he won't share the good stuff.
01/01/2012
Subbi Subbi
I wouldn't consider it cheating. It's pretty normal!
01/01/2012
Cherry21 Cherry21
Quote:
Originally posted by piglet4
if your partner watches porn do you consider that cheating or is that normal?
not cheating.
01/01/2012
GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
I would never consider watching porn cheating, it's absurd and very close-minded. (I'm not in a standard relationship, it's open for both partners.)
01/01/2012
js250 js250
NOT cheating!! At least your partner is at home watching movies to get off, not out picking up a substitute and really cheating!!
01/01/2012
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Not cheating!
01/01/2012
StarbucksAddict StarbucksAddict
Not cheating! I do get grumpy when my partner doesn't tell me sometimes. I would love to watch with him and give a helping hand or mouth.
01/01/2012
indiglo indiglo
It is definitely NOT cheating, unless they are addicted to it and prefer to watch porn rather than be with you. Even then it still isn't cheating, but it definitely wouldn't be "normal" or ok with me.
01/01/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
No I would not. I would join in with him.
01/01/2012
Tagmstr Tagmstr
Not cheating in my book
01/02/2012
Elnoa Elnoa
I don't consider it cheating. It may make the other person uncomfortable, but that doesn't make it cheating.
01/02/2012
Highmaintenancegirl916 Highmaintenancegirl916
Normal.
01/02/2012
Chirple Chirple
Perhaps "cheating" in the sense of a breach of trust. I know some people are really uptight and uncomfortable with it due to upbringing, and I can't totally rule out their feelings - old-fashioned or not, they're people too.

Personally, I would never call that cheating. Not even remotely.
01/02/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
'Cheating' depends on the ground rules placed on the relationship. If you agree not to eat hamburgers at Wendy's without the other person and you do so, eating that hamburger is cheating.

Personally that is not considered cheating in our relationship.
01/02/2012
Errant Venture Errant Venture
I think it's quite normal.
01/02/2012
CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by piglet4
if your partner watches porn do you consider that cheating or is that normal?
Not cheating. In fact if they didn't watch it I would be more concerned that their was something wrong with them then if they do. I think that a lot of our "Women's Magazines" tend to program us to think that if a man we are with looks at another human being in a sexual way then he needs to be dumped on the spot. This has messed up a lot of our common sense thought processes. It is absolute human nature to be curious and to want to see other members of the opposite sex naked and/or in a sexual way. Trying to suppress or restrict that from someone is completely wrong for us to do.

Now... I will say if it becomes obsessive (Careful with that one - 3o minutes to a couple hours a day is not obsessive) then it might be an issue. I would consider obsessive in my case if they are ignoring me completely and watching porn more then the average guy watches football. lol

It's no different then us watching the soaps or Ophra or "The Bachelor". I actually had a guy who I talk to often who was really upset because his wife was a bachelor addict and she would always say stuff like "He's Hot!!!" to him and to her friends around him. It actually hurt his feelings and made him question if he was what his wife even liked or wanted because he looked nothing like the bachelor. I have had other friends wind up in serious issues in their relationships because they couldn't put down the Ophra crack pipe or the frickin addiction to Facebook/Cityville/Far mville/Who the fuck cares ville...

Porn is good, healthy and normal when watched in moderation just like any other stuff we as human beings do.
01/02/2012
piglet4 piglet4
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Originally posted by CreamySweet
Not cheating. In fact if they didn't watch it I would be more concerned that their was something wrong with them then if they do. I think that a lot of our "Women's Magazines" tend to program us to think that if a man we are with ... More
Wow everyone those are great answers and views i have never thought of. I just see many people struggle because they feel that watching porn is cheating or thinking that something they are doing themselves is wrong or that they are not sexy enough. we are all humans and we do what we are suppose to do is how i see it. Not cheating for me too.
01/02/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I could only see it as being anywhere close to cheating if:

1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.

Even then, I wouldn't consider it "cheating," per se. It would be neglect or a breach of trust, which are still both quite serious matters.

Personally, I like porn, and I'd be bummed if I wound up with someone who wouldn't want to watch it with me. It's a great way to get hot quickly or to get ideas. Or you can get a good laugh, if it's really bad or cheesy.
01/10/2012
piglet4 piglet4
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Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I could only see it as being anywhere close to cheating if:

1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.

Even then, I wouldn't consider it ... More
i see!! that is very true! but what if the other partner feels they are not good enough for them or see the way the women or men look on the porn and imagine them more than you?
01/13/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by piglet4
i see!! that is very true! but what if the other partner feels they are not good enough for them or see the way the women or men look on the porn and imagine them more than you?
That's more a question of self-image and communication than cheating. If someone feels this way, they need to talk it out with their partner and express their feelings, and hopefully they would come to a solution together.
01/13/2012
Innocent Mathias Innocent Mathias
not cheating
11/22/2012
misterazor misterazor
i know this question is more to the ladies, but i would love to come home and find my wife watching porn. boy would she get it!
11/24/2012
iabicpl09 iabicpl09
Not cheating
12/06/2012
steph0119 steph0119
Quote:
Originally posted by piglet4
if your partner watches porn do you consider that cheating or is that normal?
I used to have a problem with my husband watching porn. I think it bothered me so much because I was self conscious, or maybe it was that I wondered why he never wanted to watch it with me. Now we watch it together and I think it adds a lot to our sex life together.
12/09/2012
Cynoc Cynoc
For me it's perfectly normal.
12/24/2012
MsDrProfKitty MsDrProfKitty
I wouldn't consider it cheating if he's watching porn
12/24/2012
Oxygen99 Oxygen99
If watching porn is cheating then my husband cheats on my several times a week.
12/24/2012
emiliaa emiliaa
...it's something that should be communicated about between the couple? If one of them considers it cheating, then it is. EVERY relationship is different, yes, even monogamous ones.
12/24/2012
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