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it's a male ego thing...we don't like to do things that make us seem weak or compromised. and we are never sure if a girl is going to laugh. i'm married, so i'm not worried about my wife laughing...but i just wanted to get a sense
it's a male ego thing...we don't like to do things that make us seem weak or compromised. and we are never sure if a girl is going to laugh. i'm married, so i'm not worried about my wife laughing...but i just wanted to get a sense of a woman's reaction before...wipping it out. thanks for the info. you're awesome!
I can understand the unease that some men might find with doing it. Hell, women worry about stuff all the time in the bedroom like this. It usually revolves around the way we look, taste, or smell, though. Can he see the cellulite on my thighs? Do I look fat in this lingerie? Do I smell clean down there? Do I taste okay? Sex puts us all in a vulnerable place and requires a certain level of intimacy, even casual sex, so it's great when we find ourselves with a partner who we feel comfortable with so we can let that guard down.
I think our culture is so used to turning masturbation into a joke, that some people just can't handle it when they see someone else doing it. I think it's immature of someone to laugh at another person who has allowed themselves to be in a vulnerable position like that, so if any woman did laugh at a guy for touching himself while he's with her, I'd think she has a lot of growing up to do before she's ready for sex. I mean, sure, when you're by yourself you may not look sexually stunning and you're just jerking away. I mean, when I'm by myself, I don't look like a porn star; I'm not thinking about it! I'm just doing what feels good in the moment. But if he's watching, I like to put on a show for him. I'll arch my back, I'll moan, I'll stroke my thighs, I'll taste myself from my fingers...I love the reaction it gets! And when I've been with a guy who will do it in front of me, he'll make a bit of a show of it, too. That's part of the fun! I like touching him lightly all over, and rubbing myself against him while he does it...and eye contact is AWESOME. I find that to be a good counterbalance for nerves when I do it for him, too. Like, I know you're watching me, and I'm acknowledging it, and I don't care...keep watching. Masturbate with confidence!
One of my fantasies that I haven't had a chance to act out yet is masturbating in front him while he masturbates, and just watching each other...maybe make a bit of a game out of it; whoever cums first wins! The winner then gets the pleasure of finishing the other one off. Everybody wins, you see.