Do you have a safe word? If so, what is it? How did you pick your safe word?

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Do you have a safe word? If so, what is it? How did you pick your safe word?

deine.kable deine.kable
Looking for tips on choosing a safe word and interested in others' experiences.
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Yes
ASpiritedSlut , higs , MasqueVivi , xcapricax
4  (44%)
No
sXeVegan90 , deine.kable , chort , Robespierrethecat , RavenInChains
5  (56%)
Total votes: 9
Poll is closed
12/09/2012
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higs higs
Ironically we actually like to mix it up because we find the concept of safe words sexy. Because when we're doing BDSM stuff she's always gagged, we try to pick out something that's understandable when you can't say whole words though.
12/09/2012
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
We don't have safe words.
12/09/2012
ASpiritedSlut ASpiritedSlut
I currently use the color system... Red means stop... yellow means it's beginning to get too intense. I also like to use the phrase "Mercy, Mistress" to indicate that they need me to let up some. While red is a hard limit, immediate stop.

Even though we never need to use them, it makes me feel better to know we have that in place, just in case.
12/10/2012
MasqueVivi MasqueVivi
It's hard to mistake something like RED for anything but STOP so that's always a safe bet for a verbal safeword. When gags are involved, a double tap of the hand should suffice.
12/13/2012
NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
Quote:
Originally posted by deine.kable
Looking for tips on choosing a safe word and interested in others' experiences.
Sometimes I can't talk, so we snap or clap. Neither of those signals are regular sex activities, so they never go unnoticed.
12/13/2012
NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
Quote:
Originally posted by NarcissisticLust
Sometimes I can't talk, so we snap or clap. Neither of those signals are regular sex activities, so they never go unnoticed.
Green, yellow, RED is also a good system.
12/13/2012
RavenInChains RavenInChains
Quote:
Originally posted by deine.kable
Looking for tips on choosing a safe word and interested in others' experiences.
I don't have a safe word currently, but I've been with my partner nearly 5 years and we've sort of outgrown the need for one. He knows when I'm pushing it. We have agreed though that if he doesn't recognize the signs then simply "I need to use a safeword" or "safeword" (if I can't get a sentence out) will do.

With newer partners though having a safe word is basic common safety sense. What has always worked best for me is "green" "yellow" "red". Green means everything is okay, yellow means slow down, red means stop right now.
12/14/2012
xcapricax xcapricax
we have a safe word for complete stop...its something wed never say except tpo stop..its grandmas dick lol
12/14/2012
phoenixfire phoenixfire
I don't have a safe word, but I am planning on deciding on one with my partner soon. We have never used gags before, so I could always speak to him, and he could always speak to me.

(Neither of us is always either submissive or dominant. We like to trade roles, though I am submissive much of the time. I am really enjoying the dom role when I do play it.)
12/14/2012
phoenixfire phoenixfire
After some discussion, I think my husband and I are going to use the red, yellow, and green system to start with. (When we can speak, that is.)
12/16/2012
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