Do you think a wife who must control every aspect of her life scheduling kids and managing a household, begs to be dominated in the bedroom whether she asks for it or not?

I'm not really in control of anything outside the bedroom. I'm a sub in the bedroom, but I'm kind of in control, because I suggest to him what he should do.

Absolutely not- that may apply to some women. You could even guess that it might apply to most women, but would I say wives who are controlling are begging to be dominated even if they don't ask for it? No. That statement just sounded too generic and all encompassing for me to agree with it.

I will admit I kind of micromanage things. I am neurotic. It bothers me if things are not in their proper places or if I do not manage to get everything done that I had planned in the day, but I do not like being dominated in the generic sense. I like to be in control of what is happening in the bedroom as well, but I do what I guess you might call 'topping from the bottom'.

I like my partner to take the more active role and to be a bit aggressive and rough during sex, but I absolutely do not submit to anything I am not into. I have the kind of sex I like and want, and if anyone crosses any lines, I am totally against it. Being dominated is a lot different than play-domination, and I think that is a very broad line and one that is really important.

I never thought I could be submissive in the bedroom. I have a past that makes it hard for me not to want to control everything. However, William, my awesome man. Asked me one day to trust him and I did. So now I've found I like both.

The wording of this question is disturbing.

I'm a dominant through and through, in the bedroom and out of it.

I like being submissive in the bedroom but I don't really care for being controlling outside of it.

wow i never thought about it that way lol

My partner and I are pretty much equals, but I usually prefer to be dominated in the bedroom.

Agreed that the wording of this question is a problem.

I would beat the everloving shit out of someone who tried to dom me without my consent. I am a high-powered person outside of the bedroom who likes to sub, but consent is crucial.

I voted for option b, being submissive both outside and in the bedroom. He's mainly in control of finances and bedroom 'bed shaking' lol. We actually play Master and Slave roleplay, where I call him Master or Sir. I like the whole power dynamics, him being in complete control of pretty much everything. Except for the things he doesn't know (enter evil laugh) jk

I don't like being submissive at ALL.

Really depends on my mood, which depends on my day.

I've definitely met people who wanted to be submissive as a chance to be freed from all the stress, and some who were just always dominant and in charge. It depends a lot on the person.

So much grey area in this question. There is no way three answers would cover it.

Hmm never thought of it like that before

The title here is definitely very misleading, since it suggests rape. Because in that case, no, a person does not "beg" to be dominated if they do not ask for it.

But since the real question here is if it's alright to be naturally dominating in every aspect of your life, yet want to be submissive in bed...I'd have thought that'd be normal, since I'm sure that's one of the reasons people become interested in BDSM. Though, I'm speaking as someone who isn't naturally very controlling in any aspect. I don't think there's any right or wrong way to feel about it. If you like it, you like, and someone else probably does too.

I'd say as a generality, a lot of control freaks are subs. It's a vacation.

I am so dominate all day long between work and being a mommy that I love being sub behind closed doors.

I am a.very "in control" specialist, with a large group to run. So is my hubby. In the bedroom, however, we enjoy being mellow. No one is controlling or submissive. We are both there as equal team-mates in the game of fun!!!!!

Yes, I am the controlling bitch that has to take care of everything and I am usually the one instigating sex and I wish he would take control in the bedroom and I could be somewhat submissive, I really don't see that happening in my world though.

I think she made it clear in posts after the original one what she meant was "whether she admits to it or not," not "whether she asks for it or not." Unfortunate wording.

In any case, I think it's quite common for people, male or female or whatever, to enjoy being submissive in the bedroom when they have to be dominant in other aspects of their lives. Sex is an escape in a lot of ways (a good escape!), and it's nice to be able to let go and hand over the control to someone else for a while. I'm like that, myself.

But it's not true for everyone. There are also plenty of people who are dominant in all aspects of their lives, including their sexual ones. And there are people who are switch, and there are people who don't enjoy power exchanges in the bedroom at all, and want things to be totally equal. But it's not unusual at all to be submissive in the bedroom while you aren't elsewhere.

My husband and I take equal responsibilities in our household and I greatly appreciate it. We each back each other up one way or the other, I used to do the finances, now he does, I cold, he cleans, he drives, I navigate. But in the bedroom, I would for once like him to make all the moves first but I guess thats my lot in life. Just for once I hope he'll surprise me and take the initiative first.

I don't mean BDSM though I wouldn't be opposed to it, even light BDSM but I would love to have him explore my body as I enjoy exploring his. At least he's willing to try new things, sensations, experiences and he loves me. Oh yes, and I love him too!