BDSM Safety for a beginner?

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BDSM Safety for a beginner?

Nirelan Nirelan
Ok, so I'm trying this for my SO. He is into choking and things like that, not exactly sure of what all he is wanting to try, but choking is DEF one of them. I am going to TRY this for him, I plan on buying paddles and cuffs and all that jazz....My question is, what kind of advice would you give to someone (ME) about the safety when first starting out with this? Any advice would be wonderful!
05/18/2012
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M.O.'s Girl M.O.'s Girl
Be careful. Obviously, breath-play is dangerous, so a bit of research would be helpful before you attempt anything. This is especially true if YOU are the one who is going to be choked. You need to know the risks involved, and you need to be certain this is something you want to experience. I sincerely do not believe this is an activity to TRY just because your partner is into it.

Having said all that, my partner and I engage in breath-play. But, it was something we discussed before we tried it, we read about it, the pros and cons, and we decided we both wanted to try it. So, I certainly wouldn't tell you not to do it, but I will tell you to learn about the risks beforehand, don't just do it because your SO wants you to.
05/18/2012
Beck Beck
I agree, breathe play isn't something you should TRY because he wants to. You should do it because you want to. Read about it. And see if you truly want to do it. Watch some videos too. You want to know what it looks like and get a good idea of it. I'd start off with something a little less dangerous to give your partner a test. Like spankings. Make a safe word and discuss it be sure he knows your safe word. And be sure to use it because you NEED to know if he is going to listen to you. If he doesn't listen very well, don't engage with breathe play until he can listen to you. And do this prior to playing with something that could endanger your life.
05/18/2012
VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
Does anyone have any links to information about breath-play, links to videos, etc? I'm very curious.
05/18/2012
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by VelvetDragon
Does anyone have any links to information about breath-play, links to videos, etc? I'm very curious.
I'm looking to see what I can find. So far all I can find is nothing useful.
05/18/2012
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by VelvetDragon
Does anyone have any links to information about breath-play, links to videos, etc? I'm very curious.
Not work friendly and for adult eyes only (These are pornographic.)

Videos
05/18/2012
Beck Beck
The Medical Realities of Breath Control Play

A peek behind the curtain: The basics of BDSM and breath play

Wikipedia

How To Breath Play

These are what I could find. I found it best to google BDSM how to breath play.
05/18/2012
VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
Thank you! I have read Wiseman's piece before.
05/18/2012
ghent529 ghent529
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Originally posted by Nirelan
Ok, so I'm trying this for my SO. He is into choking and things like that, not exactly sure of what all he is wanting to try, but choking is DEF one of them. I am going to TRY this for him, I plan on buying paddles and cuffs and all that ...
YOU MIGHT GET REALLY HURT DOING THAT. BE CAREFUL.
05/18/2012
ghent529 ghent529
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Originally posted by ghent529
YOU MIGHT GET REALLY HURT DOING THAT. BE CAREFUL.
sorry about the caps...
05/18/2012
Nirelan Nirelan
Thanks everyone! All this info is what I needed. I will be looking at the links you left for me Beck when the kids go to bed tonight THANK YOU. And starting out I will def only be doing small things like spanking and hair pulling and things like that....getting tattoos REALLY turns me on, so I'm sure the pain will be something I will like, its just putting the pain together with the pleasure and making it seem like it goes together in my head that will be the problem. lol anyway, I will def do some research and any more advice is still welcome
05/18/2012
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by Nirelan
Thanks everyone! All this info is what I needed. I will be looking at the links you left for me Beck when the kids go to bed tonight THANK YOU. And starting out I will def only be doing small things like spanking and hair pulling and things like ...
Glad to hear that. I hope you enjoy your experimenting.
05/18/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
Another thing to keep in mind is come up with a 'hand' safeword in case you can't talk and you really need to stop. Something like the Clingon greeting ( \ || // ) comes to mind, but not something like a fist that's too easy to make.
05/18/2012
Nirelan Nirelan
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
Another thing to keep in mind is come up with a 'hand' safeword in case you can't talk and you really need to stop. Something like the Clingon greeting ( \ || // ) comes to mind, but not something like a fist that's too easy to make.
Oooohh! See I didn't even THINK about that! THANKS for the advice!!
05/19/2012
Nirelan Nirelan
Oh Lord, I just skimmed through those link from Beck and NOT FOR ME! lol Yeah that is WAY too dangerous for my pussy ass! LOL I'll stick with just pain.... eff all that possible passing out/losing more brain cells/ dying crap!
05/19/2012
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