Getting started with BDSM - tips?
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Numbering doesn't denote importance.
Originally posted by
indiechick
If you were to give someone 5-10 Basics for getting started what would they be and why?
1. start slow
2. educate yourself about things you may want to try
3. keep an open line of communication between you and your partner.
4. talk to other people about their experiences and for advice
5. get involved with a local kink community
05/02/2012
1. Be very honest with yourself and your partner about your wants, needs and expectations and communicate, communicate, communicate
2. Make safety your top concern
3. Read and educate yourself
4. Realize that most of what you find online will be shit
5. Seek out your local community of real, live, practicing kinksters or do and live BDSM
6. Ask questions and reach out for help and mentoring, while remaining respectful
7. Realize that, for many, BDSM is a lifestyle as well as a form of play
2. Make safety your top concern
3. Read and educate yourself
4. Realize that most of what you find online will be shit
5. Seek out your local community of real, live, practicing kinksters or do and live BDSM
6. Ask questions and reach out for help and mentoring, while remaining respectful
7. Realize that, for many, BDSM is a lifestyle as well as a form of play
05/07/2012
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Thank you so much this was very helpful
Originally posted by
charletnarouh
1. Be very honest with yourself and your partner about your wants, needs and expectations and communicate, communicate, communicate
2. Make safety your top concern
3. Read and educate yourself
4. Realize that most of what you find online ...
2. Make safety your top concern
3. Read and educate yourself
4. Realize that most of what you find online ...
1. Be very honest with yourself and your partner about your wants, needs and expectations and communicate, communicate, communicate
2. Make safety your top concern
3. Read and educate yourself
4. Realize that most of what you find online will be shit
5. Seek out your local community of real, live, practicing kinksters or do and live BDSM
6. Ask questions and reach out for help and mentoring, while remaining respectful
7. Realize that, for many, BDSM is a lifestyle as well as a form of play
2. Make safety your top concern
3. Read and educate yourself
4. Realize that most of what you find online will be shit
5. Seek out your local community of real, live, practicing kinksters or do and live BDSM
6. Ask questions and reach out for help and mentoring, while remaining respectful
7. Realize that, for many, BDSM is a lifestyle as well as a form of play
05/09/2012
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You're welcome. I hope you find what you need. I know that, for me, connecting with the community, by which I mean finding discussion groups and support groups, not community for play, but people who I could discuss the lifestyle and roles and help educate me and my partner was a huge relief. Seriously, I almost cried at the first meeting I was at, to hear people talking about what I wanted in my life and my sex life, to hear from and meet people who lived this way, it was so overwhelmingly amazing.
Originally posted by
indiechick
Thank you so much this was very helpful
05/13/2012
1. Be in touch with yourself and what you're comfortable with.
2. COMMUNICATE your comfort levels, desired activities, limits, etc. with whomever you might get involved with BDSM-wise.
3. Know that things change - roles, preferences, etc. - and that this is okay.
4. READ READ READ READ READ. There are forums, educational websites, books, and everything in between that cover BDSM basics - seek them out! But don't read them uncritically. Evaluate what you read and cross-reference.
5. Seek out your local kink community/communities. They often have classes for beginners. As always, be respectful, willing to learn, and firm in your comfort levels/limits.
6. If you're comfortable with porn, watching some BDSM stuff can help you figure out what kinds of activities you might be into. Of course, just like with #4, you want to be a critical evaluator of what you watch - not just a passive watcher.
2. COMMUNICATE your comfort levels, desired activities, limits, etc. with whomever you might get involved with BDSM-wise.
3. Know that things change - roles, preferences, etc. - and that this is okay.
4. READ READ READ READ READ. There are forums, educational websites, books, and everything in between that cover BDSM basics - seek them out! But don't read them uncritically. Evaluate what you read and cross-reference.
5. Seek out your local kink community/communities. They often have classes for beginners. As always, be respectful, willing to learn, and firm in your comfort levels/limits.
6. If you're comfortable with porn, watching some BDSM stuff can help you figure out what kinds of activities you might be into. Of course, just like with #4, you want to be a critical evaluator of what you watch - not just a passive watcher.
05/13/2012
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So helpful you all have been wonderful
Originally posted by
palindromic
1. Be in touch with yourself and what you're comfortable with.
2. COMMUNICATE your comfort levels, desired activities, limits, etc. with whomever you might get involved with BDSM-wise.
3. Know that things change - roles, preferences, etc. - ...
2. COMMUNICATE your comfort levels, desired activities, limits, etc. with whomever you might get involved with BDSM-wise.
3. Know that things change - roles, preferences, etc. - ...
1. Be in touch with yourself and what you're comfortable with.
2. COMMUNICATE your comfort levels, desired activities, limits, etc. with whomever you might get involved with BDSM-wise.
3. Know that things change - roles, preferences, etc. - and that this is okay.
4. READ READ READ READ READ. There are forums, educational websites, books, and everything in between that cover BDSM basics - seek them out! But don't read them uncritically. Evaluate what you read and cross-reference.
5. Seek out your local kink community/communities. They often have classes for beginners. As always, be respectful, willing to learn, and firm in your comfort levels/limits.
6. If you're comfortable with porn, watching some BDSM stuff can help you figure out what kinds of activities you might be into. Of course, just like with #4, you want to be a critical evaluator of what you watch - not just a passive watcher.
2. COMMUNICATE your comfort levels, desired activities, limits, etc. with whomever you might get involved with BDSM-wise.
3. Know that things change - roles, preferences, etc. - and that this is okay.
4. READ READ READ READ READ. There are forums, educational websites, books, and everything in between that cover BDSM basics - seek them out! But don't read them uncritically. Evaluate what you read and cross-reference.
5. Seek out your local kink community/communities. They often have classes for beginners. As always, be respectful, willing to learn, and firm in your comfort levels/limits.
6. If you're comfortable with porn, watching some BDSM stuff can help you figure out what kinds of activities you might be into. Of course, just like with #4, you want to be a critical evaluator of what you watch - not just a passive watcher.
05/15/2012
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Unique posters: 6