have you ever engaged in rape play?

kawigrl kawigrl
have you ever engaged in rape play?
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yes
33  (37%)
no
57  (63%)
Total votes: 90
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07/23/2012
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Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
nope
07/23/2012
Tork48309 Tork48309
My ex-girl friend made hints of it, but it made me uncomfortable when I attempted it and I'm still not sure why. I think it's a respect thing.
07/23/2012
chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
Quote:
Originally posted by kawigrl
have you ever engaged in rape play?
no and never will. I was raped when i was a kid so I find it very offensive personally
07/23/2012
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
We tried it; I don't think it was his cup of tea. He did it mostly to satisfy my curiosity.
07/23/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
The more delicate way to put it is "Ravishment Play."

The interesting thing about Ravishment Play is that is lacks the main thing that rape entails; loss of control. (And we've played with this, very carefully, and I'm in control the entire time.) Women are raised, many of us, to think sex and wanting sex is wrong. Ravishment Play allows us to BE in control while still engaging in the idea that we're being "forced."

Also, many women (not all) who have had assaults and abuse do engage in Ravishment Play. It's a way to "take back" one's sexuality, while still playing a fairly dangerous game. Anyone who has been abused or assaulted really needs to make sure they are healthy and recovered enough to not be triggered by the Play. Have a Safe Word. Make sure your partner knows your Hard Limits. Be Safe, Sane and Consensual.

I found this type of play actually helped me recover from abuse. That doesn't work for everybody and it probably shouldn't be messed with unless substantial recovery work has been done, both with a therapist and alone. I never told my therapist about this type of Kink. I knew she wouldn't get it, but I did make sure I had a handle on my triggers and had substantial recovery before engaging in it.

It isn't for everybody. Some men (like mine) really have to be engaged and worked with, as they are probably afraid of hurting or triggering you. It works differently for everyone. I advise that one take their emotions seriously in this type if Kink and to have proper Exit strategies in place as well as knowing their own limits.

Ravishment Fantasies are the Number One fantasy of women. Really.
07/23/2012
Phosphorous Tick Phosphorous Tick
No but my girlfriend is in to it.
It's all about Consentual Non-consent and it can be VERRY tentative to some people, and it's hard to pull off correctly.
07/23/2012
Undecided Undecided
Nope I have been raped and don't want to relive that experience
07/23/2012
Do emu Do emu
Quote:
Originally posted by kawigrl
have you ever engaged in rape play?
Yes, but it was controlled in a way. Definitely had a safe word just in case.
07/24/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
It was fun. We often add some light "rape elements". Never done a "break in" and rape. Use a safe word for rape play though. Because in a rape scenario No does not mean no. I would suggest the red, yellow, green system. (red = total stop, yellow = slow down, green = good keep going)
07/24/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
We do it all the time. I love it.
07/24/2012
Love&War Love&War
haven't tried this... probably wont
07/24/2012
L&P3040 L&P3040
We havent but I've wanted to.
07/24/2012
Ganconagh Ganconagh
Quote:
Originally posted by kawigrl
have you ever engaged in rape play?
yes, my girl enjoys it
07/24/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I'd love to try this but I doubt my husband would want to for fear of hurting me.
07/25/2012
xMila xMila
No, its not my thing.
07/25/2012
Boyqueen Boyqueen
No, I haven't and don't want to.
07/25/2012
closed account closed account
better in fantasy than acting out, no matter how many boundaries agreed to beforehand. it can be very difficult and emotionally disturbing for both parties actually. i think many don't realize it is so upsetting to the dominant one
07/26/2012
xcapricax xcapricax
Yes and i absolutly loved it.
07/26/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
No - I think I could be okay with it if either of my partners were interested, but they're not. I have no deep drive to try it myself.
07/27/2012
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by kawigrl
have you ever engaged in rape play?
we have and have enjoyed it I like teh feeling of the loss of controll while being completely safe and incontroll all at once
07/27/2012
sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by kawigrl
have you ever engaged in rape play?
Nope
10/20/2012
Lioncub Lioncub
Nope
10/20/2012
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
No, and I don't want to. I feel it would be counter-productive for dealing with my own past sexual abuse.
10/20/2012
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
I haven't.
10/20/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by kawigrl
have you ever engaged in rape play?
I have no.
10/20/2012
SoloJoe SoloJoe
not me
10/21/2012
Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by kawigrl
have you ever engaged in rape play?
No.
10/22/2012
Katzer Katzer
No, but wouldn't mind as long I'm the one ravishing.
10/22/2012
mastersonv mastersonv
I love it.
10/22/2012
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