How did you get your partner to participate in BDSM with you?

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How did you get your partner to participate in BDSM with you?

RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
my partner brought it up
01/07/2013
vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
Communication is important in any relationship, even moreso when kinks are involved! I brought up bondage with my girlfriend. I was nervous but it turned out she was curious, so I bought some nice cuffs and we're working from there.
01/08/2013
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I'm a really blunt person, so I just brought up what interested me. All my most recent partners have been really receptive and had ideas of their own to suggest as well, so just talking about things has worked well for me. I think it helps to discuss your potential interests in a non-sexual setting, i.e. not in the bedroom, especially if you're feeling shy/vulnerable about brining the subject up.
01/08/2013
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
I'm too shy...
I told my partner I wanted to, and he wanted to as well!
01/09/2013
Cowgirl-Cutie Cowgirl-Cutie
I put other because while I did bring it up it took him three years or so to decide to try it for real. Before that he just dabbled with me but now he's starting to like it more and more.

Patience is the best advice I can offer.
01/09/2013
Katelyn Katelyn
I always meet people at BDSM events, or introduce them to it myself : )
01/31/2013
novanilla novanilla
I just tell my partners I like bdsm and see what their reaction is. I answer any questions they have an ease them into it with a little teasing and pinning and move into scenes later.
01/31/2013
Sima-pusya Sima-pusya
I just told my partner what I wanted to try.
02/01/2013
apryls apryls
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Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
I'm too shy...
we both liked it
02/01/2013
Violet October Violet October
Communication. If you're interested in something, let your partner know. Talk about it. You may be shy, but communication is the key to a strong relationship. *ESPECIALLY* if you want to add bdsm to your relationship.
02/05/2013
charletnarouh charletnarouh
i've been and known i was kinky since before i met my current Mistress. She, however, was not actively kinky before meeting me, though She had latent interest. Shortly after Wwe met, i told Her that i was a submissive and a masochist, that it was part of my identity and that it was how i wanted to conduct my relationships. It was important to me that She be onboard before the relationship progressed very far because i don't think i could really be in a vanilla relationship again. Kink, submission, service and pain are part of who i am that i can't just ignore or push aside and someone who is in a relationship with me needs to accept all of me, including the kinky parts.
02/07/2013
Kitka Kitka
I just told him about what I was interested in trying.
02/08/2013
Andrey2052 Andrey2052
I just told my partner what I wanted to try.
02/13/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
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Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
I'm too shy...
just be like hey i came across something on eden, what do you think?
02/13/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
Don't call it that. Got the Penetration Station to be "more comfortable" and use a black eye mask for extra sensory when playing but I think that's as far as BDSM he will go.
02/13/2013
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
I'm too shy...
I printed off some stuff about bdsm from different websites and mentioned that I was interested in it. He took a look and was interested too and we went from there. Now we are a TPE M/s couple.
02/13/2013
twelve13 twelve13
We both already had interest/experience in it before hooking up.
04/05/2013
LoneOokami LoneOokami
We are both into it so it wasnt a problem, our relationship has been kinky from the beginning
06/18/2013
FrustratedFemme FrustratedFemme
I was lucky. She was a top, and she didn't even know that I was submissive when she told me that she wanted to try BDSM. It was very bold of her, and I'm glad she said something because I probably would have been way too shy for too long.
06/19/2013
Ayogirl230 Ayogirl230
brought it up through dirty talk
06/22/2013
lalalalove lalalalove
Just be open and honest.
06/22/2013
MornaStar MornaStar
All I had to do was tell my partner. I'm mostly a dom, but I like it when she is a dom as well. Most of the time we switch back and forth. She likes to be spanked, but I can't seem to get her into nipple clamps.
07/02/2013
spineyogurt spineyogurt
Just tie them up and dont give them a choice duh
07/02/2013
LittleBun91 LittleBun91
I asked my boyfriend although he was too nervous about accidentally hurting me to do anything. With a lot of encouragement, he found his dominant side.
07/10/2013
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