I've broken the "Strong, negative emotions" rule. When I am depressed or very stressed, I find bondage/being controlled/pain (in the form of spankings etc) very comforting.
Sex Fact: When NOT To Do Bondage
09/16/2012
so important!
09/19/2012
I haven't broken any of the rules.
09/19/2012
Broken couple of rules...
09/19/2012
I've never really broken any of these rules, but that's largely due to the fact that I'm pretty inexperienced. Although I was able to answer that I've never broken any of these rules, I feel like I probably will at some point or another. D:
09/20/2012
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I'd say a few of these rules are slightly negotiable. When I'm stressed (a strong negative emotion) bondage is a relief. Also, my partner and I aren't in to heavy bondage so issues of negotiation and extensive knowledge are not a huge deal.
Originally posted by
Kayla
I can think of plenty of fun times that you certainly should do bondage, but what about those times when you shouldn't? In his book, Jay Wiseman gives us examples of times of when you shouldn't do any bondage:
You Don't Know the ... more
You Don't Know the ... more
I can think of plenty of fun times that you certainly should do bondage, but what about those times when you shouldn't? In his book, Jay Wiseman gives us examples of times of when you shouldn't do any bondage:
You Don't Know the Person Well: Doing bondage with someone you don't know well is never a good idea.
Intoxication: You might not be able to judge your limits or what you're doing nearly as well.
Strong, Negative Emotions: When you are significantly depressed, angry, sad, or any other negative emotion, doing bondage can push you over the edge - and not in a good way.
No Negotiation: Before all bondage, there should be a general negotiation about the scene including what each partner wants to do and any health risks.
No Education: If either partner isn't educated about the basic risks of bondage, you shouldn't participate in it.
Lack of Suitable Materials: Experimenting with new bondage materials can be fun, but when there aren't any suitable materials around that will hold weight and keep from harming someone, you shouldn't do bondage.
Have fun with your bondage, and stay safe! Private poll: Have you ever participated in bondage with any of these risk factors? Any other risk factors you want to add?
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You Don't Know the Person Well: Doing bondage with someone you don't know well is never a good idea.
Intoxication: You might not be able to judge your limits or what you're doing nearly as well.
Strong, Negative Emotions: When you are significantly depressed, angry, sad, or any other negative emotion, doing bondage can push you over the edge - and not in a good way.
No Negotiation: Before all bondage, there should be a general negotiation about the scene including what each partner wants to do and any health risks.
No Education: If either partner isn't educated about the basic risks of bondage, you shouldn't participate in it.
Lack of Suitable Materials: Experimenting with new bondage materials can be fun, but when there aren't any suitable materials around that will hold weight and keep from harming someone, you shouldn't do bondage.
Have fun with your bondage, and stay safe! Private poll: Have you ever participated in bondage with any of these risk factors? Any other risk factors you want to add?
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09/20/2012
Intoxication and no negotiation, and I probably will never do the latter unless I know my partner isn't into the kink factor as they usually just follow your directions.
01/02/2013
I haven't broken those rules.
01/02/2013
Did all my possible research before even ASKING my significant other to try it out, and have never broken the rules!
01/02/2013
I do bondage, and I pretty much always follow these rules. Mainly because it involves trust
01/02/2013
I have broken the materials rule before when I was first experimenting with bondage.
01/03/2013
Intoxication and emotion rules broken here... I'll admit it!
01/03/2013
I've broken the intoxication one only.
04/10/2013
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Have a snack ready, and a safety kit is a good idea. Another idea would be a a knife to cut your partner out of the bondage if you need them out quickly but can't undo your ties.
Originally posted by
Kayla
I can think of plenty of fun times that you certainly should do bondage, but what about those times when you shouldn't? In his book, Jay Wiseman gives us examples of times of when you shouldn't do any bondage:
You Don't Know the ... more
You Don't Know the ... more
I can think of plenty of fun times that you certainly should do bondage, but what about those times when you shouldn't? In his book, Jay Wiseman gives us examples of times of when you shouldn't do any bondage:
You Don't Know the Person Well: Doing bondage with someone you don't know well is never a good idea.
Intoxication: You might not be able to judge your limits or what you're doing nearly as well.
Strong, Negative Emotions: When you are significantly depressed, angry, sad, or any other negative emotion, doing bondage can push you over the edge - and not in a good way.
No Negotiation: Before all bondage, there should be a general negotiation about the scene including what each partner wants to do and any health risks.
No Education: If either partner isn't educated about the basic risks of bondage, you shouldn't participate in it.
Lack of Suitable Materials: Experimenting with new bondage materials can be fun, but when there aren't any suitable materials around that will hold weight and keep from harming someone, you shouldn't do bondage.
Have fun with your bondage, and stay safe! Private poll: Have you ever participated in bondage with any of these risk factors? Any other risk factors you want to add?
To find more sex facts like this, check out Erotic Bondage Handbook, sold on EdenFantasys, which is the book where this sex fact came from.
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You Don't Know the Person Well: Doing bondage with someone you don't know well is never a good idea.
Intoxication: You might not be able to judge your limits or what you're doing nearly as well.
Strong, Negative Emotions: When you are significantly depressed, angry, sad, or any other negative emotion, doing bondage can push you over the edge - and not in a good way.
No Negotiation: Before all bondage, there should be a general negotiation about the scene including what each partner wants to do and any health risks.
No Education: If either partner isn't educated about the basic risks of bondage, you shouldn't participate in it.
Lack of Suitable Materials: Experimenting with new bondage materials can be fun, but when there aren't any suitable materials around that will hold weight and keep from harming someone, you shouldn't do bondage.
Have fun with your bondage, and stay safe! Private poll: Have you ever participated in bondage with any of these risk factors? Any other risk factors you want to add?
To find more sex facts like this, check out Erotic Bondage Handbook, sold on EdenFantasys, which is the book where this sex fact came from.
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04/17/2013
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broken rules, more like bent them though
Originally posted by
Kayla
I can think of plenty of fun times that you certainly should do bondage, but what about those times when you shouldn't? In his book, Jay Wiseman gives us examples of times of when you shouldn't do any bondage:
You Don't Know the ... more
You Don't Know the ... more
I can think of plenty of fun times that you certainly should do bondage, but what about those times when you shouldn't? In his book, Jay Wiseman gives us examples of times of when you shouldn't do any bondage:
You Don't Know the Person Well: Doing bondage with someone you don't know well is never a good idea.
Intoxication: You might not be able to judge your limits or what you're doing nearly as well.
Strong, Negative Emotions: When you are significantly depressed, angry, sad, or any other negative emotion, doing bondage can push you over the edge - and not in a good way.
No Negotiation: Before all bondage, there should be a general negotiation about the scene including what each partner wants to do and any health risks.
No Education: If either partner isn't educated about the basic risks of bondage, you shouldn't participate in it.
Lack of Suitable Materials: Experimenting with new bondage materials can be fun, but when there aren't any suitable materials around that will hold weight and keep from harming someone, you shouldn't do bondage.
Have fun with your bondage, and stay safe! Private poll: Have you ever participated in bondage with any of these risk factors? Any other risk factors you want to add?
To find more sex facts like this, check out Erotic Bondage Handbook, sold on EdenFantasys, which is the book where this sex fact came from.
Have you ever broken any of these "rules"? Do you have any other bondage safety rules to share with us? less
You Don't Know the Person Well: Doing bondage with someone you don't know well is never a good idea.
Intoxication: You might not be able to judge your limits or what you're doing nearly as well.
Strong, Negative Emotions: When you are significantly depressed, angry, sad, or any other negative emotion, doing bondage can push you over the edge - and not in a good way.
No Negotiation: Before all bondage, there should be a general negotiation about the scene including what each partner wants to do and any health risks.
No Education: If either partner isn't educated about the basic risks of bondage, you shouldn't participate in it.
Lack of Suitable Materials: Experimenting with new bondage materials can be fun, but when there aren't any suitable materials around that will hold weight and keep from harming someone, you shouldn't do bondage.
Have fun with your bondage, and stay safe! Private poll: Have you ever participated in bondage with any of these risk factors? Any other risk factors you want to add?
To find more sex facts like this, check out Erotic Bondage Handbook, sold on EdenFantasys, which is the book where this sex fact came from.
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im almost always in a state of intoxication soooo ;P
04/23/2013
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Those are all great rules. Not being intoxicated is a big one for me. It's good when parties limit the alcohol, and attendees don't use it as an excuse to act like a frat kid. too many bad things can happen under that influence.
Originally posted by
Kayla
I can think of plenty of fun times that you certainly should do bondage, but what about those times when you shouldn't? In his book, Jay Wiseman gives us examples of times of when you shouldn't do any bondage:
You Don't Know the ... more
You Don't Know the ... more
I can think of plenty of fun times that you certainly should do bondage, but what about those times when you shouldn't? In his book, Jay Wiseman gives us examples of times of when you shouldn't do any bondage:
You Don't Know the Person Well: Doing bondage with someone you don't know well is never a good idea.
Intoxication: You might not be able to judge your limits or what you're doing nearly as well.
Strong, Negative Emotions: When you are significantly depressed, angry, sad, or any other negative emotion, doing bondage can push you over the edge - and not in a good way.
No Negotiation: Before all bondage, there should be a general negotiation about the scene including what each partner wants to do and any health risks.
No Education: If either partner isn't educated about the basic risks of bondage, you shouldn't participate in it.
Lack of Suitable Materials: Experimenting with new bondage materials can be fun, but when there aren't any suitable materials around that will hold weight and keep from harming someone, you shouldn't do bondage.
Have fun with your bondage, and stay safe! Private poll: Have you ever participated in bondage with any of these risk factors? Any other risk factors you want to add?
To find more sex facts like this, check out Erotic Bondage Handbook, sold on EdenFantasys, which is the book where this sex fact came from.
Have you ever broken any of these "rules"? Do you have any other bondage safety rules to share with us? less
You Don't Know the Person Well: Doing bondage with someone you don't know well is never a good idea.
Intoxication: You might not be able to judge your limits or what you're doing nearly as well.
Strong, Negative Emotions: When you are significantly depressed, angry, sad, or any other negative emotion, doing bondage can push you over the edge - and not in a good way.
No Negotiation: Before all bondage, there should be a general negotiation about the scene including what each partner wants to do and any health risks.
No Education: If either partner isn't educated about the basic risks of bondage, you shouldn't participate in it.
Lack of Suitable Materials: Experimenting with new bondage materials can be fun, but when there aren't any suitable materials around that will hold weight and keep from harming someone, you shouldn't do bondage.
Have fun with your bondage, and stay safe! Private poll: Have you ever participated in bondage with any of these risk factors? Any other risk factors you want to add?
To find more sex facts like this, check out Erotic Bondage Handbook, sold on EdenFantasys, which is the book where this sex fact came from.
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negotiation is super important too.
none of us are mind-readers, especially with new people. things need to be talked about, or else lawsuits could be at hand.
04/29/2013
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Since I pro-domme, I've tied people I don't know well. I try to establish health issues and safe words ahead of time
Originally posted by
Kayla
I can think of plenty of fun times that you certainly should do bondage, but what about those times when you shouldn't? In his book, Jay Wiseman gives us examples of times of when you shouldn't do any bondage:
You Don't Know the ... more
You Don't Know the ... more
I can think of plenty of fun times that you certainly should do bondage, but what about those times when you shouldn't? In his book, Jay Wiseman gives us examples of times of when you shouldn't do any bondage:
You Don't Know the Person Well: Doing bondage with someone you don't know well is never a good idea.
Intoxication: You might not be able to judge your limits or what you're doing nearly as well.
Strong, Negative Emotions: When you are significantly depressed, angry, sad, or any other negative emotion, doing bondage can push you over the edge - and not in a good way.
No Negotiation: Before all bondage, there should be a general negotiation about the scene including what each partner wants to do and any health risks.
No Education: If either partner isn't educated about the basic risks of bondage, you shouldn't participate in it.
Lack of Suitable Materials: Experimenting with new bondage materials can be fun, but when there aren't any suitable materials around that will hold weight and keep from harming someone, you shouldn't do bondage.
Have fun with your bondage, and stay safe! Private poll: Have you ever participated in bondage with any of these risk factors? Any other risk factors you want to add?
To find more sex facts like this, check out Erotic Bondage Handbook, sold on EdenFantasys, which is the book where this sex fact came from.
Have you ever broken any of these "rules"? Do you have any other bondage safety rules to share with us? less
You Don't Know the Person Well: Doing bondage with someone you don't know well is never a good idea.
Intoxication: You might not be able to judge your limits or what you're doing nearly as well.
Strong, Negative Emotions: When you are significantly depressed, angry, sad, or any other negative emotion, doing bondage can push you over the edge - and not in a good way.
No Negotiation: Before all bondage, there should be a general negotiation about the scene including what each partner wants to do and any health risks.
No Education: If either partner isn't educated about the basic risks of bondage, you shouldn't participate in it.
Lack of Suitable Materials: Experimenting with new bondage materials can be fun, but when there aren't any suitable materials around that will hold weight and keep from harming someone, you shouldn't do bondage.
Have fun with your bondage, and stay safe! Private poll: Have you ever participated in bondage with any of these risk factors? Any other risk factors you want to add?
To find more sex facts like this, check out Erotic Bondage Handbook, sold on EdenFantasys, which is the book where this sex fact came from.
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05/05/2013
Yes. The first time I played with my wife, she'd never done anything like it before. It went OK, but in retrospect, it would have been better to have educated her more beforehand.
05/08/2013
not into bondage yet
05/09/2013