Vanilla partners who object to kink...

LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Would having a vanilla partner who objects to kink make you leave the relationship or would you do without?
06/02/2012
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Been there, and tried to make a compromise.
06/02/2012
Envoutes Envoutes
As long as they weren't kink-shaming, I wouldn't. It's not that big of a big to me, as long as it's not some huge bigoted viewpoint. If that were the case, I'd try to explain it to them at least.
06/02/2012
Ms. N Ms. N
It hasn't yet
06/02/2012
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
I'd probably try and bring them over to the "dark side" so to speak but I doubt I'd leave them for not being into it unless they made me feel like a freak for liking it myself.
06/03/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Nope, I'd find a way to compromise.
06/03/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
While not really a relationship, I was sexually involved with someone who wasn't at all into kink. I felt extremely sexually frustrated throughout the entire thing... I don't think I could do it again. Luckily, I don't have to now because my partner is quite happy to indulge me. Yay!

It obviously took some time to build up the level of trust to be able to do all that we do now, but someone who wasn't even interested in trying? Couldn't do it.
06/03/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
I wouldn't leave . I consider the few things we do, do is still quite vanilla.
06/05/2012
Pixel Pixel
I don't know that I could be monogamous with a vanilla partner. Kink is a large part of my life, and it is something that I need to be happy.
06/06/2012
MissLoren MissLoren
my sex life is very detrimental to my well being. i would need a partner who would participate in kinky activities with me
07/06/2012
Gdom Gdom
If their objection to kink stemmed from a negative or shame-heavy attitude toward sex and kink, I probably wouldn't have been in a relationship with that person to begin with. I'm sex-positive not just because it justifies my kinks, but because it genuinely matters to me; if my partner can't see that, that's a problem. If, on the other hand, the person just wasn't particularly interested in BDSM (but they don't view it as "wrong"), that wouldn't be an absolute deal breaker, but I'd probably try to introduce them to it for their sake as well as mine.
07/22/2012
xGOLDx xGOLDx
I`m all for compromise, but if they are fundamentally opposed because they think it is wrong or shameful, then it would not work. If they can meet me with an open attitude then it is worth a shot, but at the end of the day sexual compatibility is important.
07/22/2012
Thumper Logic Thumper Logic
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Would having a vanilla partner who objects to kink make you leave the relationship or would you do without?
Had a boyfriend who refused to even start with handcuffs. That didn't last...
May 1, 3:53 pm
edeneve edeneve
no such thing as vanilla sex. it's all good.
May 1, 6:46 pm
FanaticallyTwitching FanaticallyTwitching
Quote:
Originally posted by edeneve
no such thing as vanilla sex. it's all good.
I agree.
Jul 24, 11:25 pm
Total posts: 15
Unique posters: 15