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wanting to try something new

dream79 dream79
I've been wanting to try new things. I have brought BDSM up casually to my hubby a couple times and even showed him some stuff on here and he just kinda looks at me weird. It has always been a fantasy of mine to be submissive in the bedroom. Do I keep trying to push it until he agrees to try it or do I just let it go even though its something I really want?
02/05/2012
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Ghost Ghost
If he's not into it, he's not into it... although tastes can change with time. Why not ask him what HE would like to try and see if you have any interests in common? I find a good way to get someone interested in something I'd like to try is give them some reading material... in this case, some erotica that matches your interests.
02/05/2012
Baby-Baby Baby-Baby
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Originally posted by dream79
I've been wanting to try new things. I have brought BDSM up casually to my hubby a couple times and even showed him some stuff on here and he just kinda looks at me weird. It has always been a fantasy of mine to be submissive in the bedroom. Do I ...
I don't know what to tell you other than sorry. That really sucks. He does't know how lucky he is that you want to explore new things.
02/05/2012
dream79 dream79
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Originally posted by Ghost
If he's not into it, he's not into it... although tastes can change with time. Why not ask him what HE would like to try and see if you have any interests in common? I find a good way to get someone interested in something I'd like to try ...
Thanks for your input!! I will definately try that
02/05/2012
dream79 dream79
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Originally posted by Baby-Baby
I don't know what to tell you other than sorry. That really sucks. He does't know how lucky he is that you want to explore new things.
Aww thanks
02/05/2012
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
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Originally posted by Ghost
If he's not into it, he's not into it... although tastes can change with time. Why not ask him what HE would like to try and see if you have any interests in common? I find a good way to get someone interested in something I'd like to try ...
I agree with this.

I do remember that when me and my fiance started dating and getting more physical I mentioned handcuffs and stuff. Then I would just start bringing up other things I might want to try. It was slow going, but he's opened up a lot more. Last night we actually did a role play.

Try giving him The New Topping Book, or The New Bottoming Book. They helped me and my man out a little bit.
02/05/2012
underHim underHim
If you push you are not being very submissive are you. I would start acting submissive outside of the bedroom first, getting him things, doing him things you would not normally do for him then slowly move it into the bedroom.
02/05/2012
Ghost Ghost
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Originally posted by underHim
If you push you are not being very submissive are you. I would start acting submissive outside of the bedroom first, getting him things, doing him things you would not normally do for him then slowly move it into the bedroom.
Um. I don't believe that "submissive in the bedroom" necessarily means "subservient at all times". In fact, the assumption that the two are equal completely disregards an entire spectrum of sexualities and personality types.
02/05/2012
TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
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Originally posted by Ghost
If he's not into it, he's not into it... although tastes can change with time. Why not ask him what HE would like to try and see if you have any interests in common? I find a good way to get someone interested in something I'd like to try ...
Nice post,Elnoa.

@Bambi Ortiz - also maybe a kinky DVD - watch it together and see where that takes you both?

Gotta start somewhere, and no worries, we were all new at one point.
02/05/2012
dream79 dream79
Thanks everyone for your thoughts and advice, I greatly appreciate it I actually bought a couple dvds today...keeping my fingers crossed...as far as being Subservient that's not me, but in the bedroom I would completely submit myself to him
02/05/2012
Moein Moein
May be you can show him some videos for the things you want him to experience.
I and my wife learn many things from Hentai videos like hot wax.
02/05/2012
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