I've been wanting to try new things. I have brought BDSM up casually to my hubby a couple times and even showed him some stuff on here and he just kinda looks at me weird. It has always been a fantasy of mine to be submissive in the bedroom. Do I keep trying to push it until he agrees to try it or do I just let it go even though its something I really want?
wanting to try something new
If he's not into it, he's not into it... although tastes can change with time. Why not ask him what HE would like to try and see if you have any interests in common? I find a good way to get someone interested in something I'd like to try is give them some reading material... in this case, some erotica that matches your interests.
Feb 5, 12:58 am
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I don't know what to tell you other than sorry. That really sucks. He does't know how lucky he is that you want to explore new things.
Originally posted by
dream79
I've been wanting to try new things. I have brought BDSM up casually to my hubby a couple times and even showed him some stuff on here and he just kinda looks at me weird. It has always been a fantasy of mine to be submissive in the bedroom. Do I
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I've been wanting to try new things. I have brought BDSM up casually to my hubby a couple times and even showed him some stuff on here and he just kinda looks at me weird. It has always been a fantasy of mine to be submissive in the bedroom. Do I keep trying to push it until he agrees to try it or do I just let it go even though its something I really want?
Feb 5, 1:11 am
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Thanks for your input!! I will definately try that
Originally posted by
Elnoa
If he's not into it, he's not into it... although tastes can change with time. Why not ask him what HE would like to try and see if you have any interests in common? I find a good way to get someone interested in something I'd like to try is give
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If he's not into it, he's not into it... although tastes can change with time. Why not ask him what HE would like to try and see if you have any interests in common? I find a good way to get someone interested in something I'd like to try is give them some reading material... in this case, some erotica that matches your interests.
Feb 5, 1:14 am
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I agree with this.
Originally posted by
Elnoa
If he's not into it, he's not into it... although tastes can change with time. Why not ask him what HE would like to try and see if you have any interests in common? I find a good way to get someone interested in something I'd like to try is give
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If he's not into it, he's not into it... although tastes can change with time. Why not ask him what HE would like to try and see if you have any interests in common? I find a good way to get someone interested in something I'd like to try is give them some reading material... in this case, some erotica that matches your interests.
I do remember that when me and my fiance started dating and getting more physical I mentioned handcuffs and stuff. Then I would just start bringing up other things I might want to try. It was slow going, but he's opened up a lot more. Last night we actually did a role play.
Try giving him The New Topping Book, or The New Bottoming Book. They helped me and my man out a little bit.
Feb 5, 9:59 am
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Um. I don't believe that "submissive in the bedroom" necessarily means "subservient at all times". In fact, the assumption that the two are equal completely disregards an entire spectrum of sexualities and personality types.
Originally posted by
underHim
If you push you are not being very submissive are you. I would start acting submissive outside of the bedroom first, getting him things, doing him things you would not normally do for him then slowly move it into the bedroom.
Feb 5, 1:19 pm
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Nice post,Elnoa.
Originally posted by
Elnoa
If he's not into it, he's not into it... although tastes can change with time. Why not ask him what HE would like to try and see if you have any interests in common? I find a good way to get someone interested in something I'd like to try is give
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If he's not into it, he's not into it... although tastes can change with time. Why not ask him what HE would like to try and see if you have any interests in common? I find a good way to get someone interested in something I'd like to try is give them some reading material... in this case, some erotica that matches your interests.
@Bambi Ortiz - also maybe a kinky DVD - watch it together and see where that takes you both?
Gotta start somewhere, and no worries, we were all new at one point.
Feb 5, 6:17 pm
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