When is it to much?

TwatMockery TwatMockery
Everyone has their limits, I'd like to understand where everyone here falls into the spectrum of saying it's to much. I would like to use this for my Psychology/Sociology class in college I wouldn't be using names or anything just trying to use a general poll to support my thesis on a general view.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Isreah , thebest , Thumper Logic , oohlookasquirrel , Sir , SailorJulyxo , fizzygato , KittiezToyz , flameworker , BusyMe
10
Bignuf , andykh , chipperchippie
3
Bignuf , chipperchippie
2
BlackOrchid , edeneve , Lvstoplay , eri86 , Husband and Wife , Kitt Katt , badnewsbaby , thebest , Bignuf , andykh , KinkyCouple , indiechick , Ly-Ra , LoveReImagined , QueerFemmeinist , SexScienceAndFood , icyqueen , Trixxxy , lala22 , irisheyes79 , Jmo2280 , chipperchippie , KittiezToyz , OrchidCrush , Svenson , jdloelo , nikki0668
27
edeneve , eri86 , Bignuf , andykh , icyqueen , chipperchippie , jdloelo
7
edeneve , Lvstoplay , eri86 , sid the kid , Kitt Katt , badnewsbaby , ihavenipples , thebest , Bignuf , andykh , KinkyCouple , inkky , indiechick , Ly-Ra , stoppit , lilswitch , LoveReImagined , Akira , subbieforHer , SexScienceAndFood , icyqueen , Trixxxy , anyankaleigh , lala22 , The scientist , Luna Sterling , CoffeeCup , Sei , Aesenthia , HoneyRollOver , KittiezToyz , benjiwithaz , Inquisitor , kristenxoxo13 , Svenson , pirata , Livia Drew , jdloelo , nikki0668
39
TwatMockery , edeneve , eri86 , sid the kid , Kitt Katt , badnewsbaby , ihavenipples , thebest , Bignuf , itismedi , andykh , indiechick , Ly-Ra , stoppit , LoveReImagined , subbieforHer , SexScienceAndFood , icyqueen , anyankaleigh , lala22 , Luna Sterling , Aesenthia , HoneyRollOver , Funtastic , KittiezToyz , spyrosph , Inquisitor , kristenxoxo13 , Svenson , ToriMae , pirata , AnalSlut , Zombie Ghost , jdloelo , Kipperanne , nikki0668
36
Sir , SaucyxGirl , SweetSaffron , hall5885 , titth
5
Total votes: 129 (66 voters)
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04/11/2014
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edeneve edeneve
I think anything that brings hurtful pain is too much. I've been spanked once and it didn't hurt at all. I even enjoyed it. that's what I think is ok.
04/12/2014
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
Quote:
Originally posted by TwatMockery
Everyone has their limits, I'd like to understand where everyone here falls into the spectrum of saying it's to much. I would like to use this for my Psychology/Sociology class in college I wouldn't be using names or anything just trying ...
I think it really depends on the situation and the emotions involved. The same actions delivered by a different person, under different circumstances, or with a different attitude could change everything. For me the biggest part of anything sexual is emotional, so what is said and how it is said is as important if not more so than what is actually done.
04/13/2014
eri86 eri86
Anything painful or that causes physical harm that leaves lasting marks on the body is not okay with me.
04/13/2014
Isreah Isreah
There is no specific level of play/pain that is necessarily "too much". It all depends on how much I trust the person I am playing with and the mood of the scene.

For example:

If I am being spanked during play, I will most likely consider the play too much for me before I even get red marks. I personally cannot take much pain on the bottom and do not enjoy it all that much, however I do enjoy a good knife-play scene. I can have my upper back cut many times with quite a bit of bleeding and I will love every minute of it.

I am a masochist. The pain is a rush and I really enjoy it. Some types of play I enjoy more than others and where on the body it is done makes a big difference.
05/03/2014
thebest thebest
hitting, mainly...
05/04/2014
Thumper Logic Thumper Logic
Quote:
Originally posted by TwatMockery
Everyone has their limits, I'd like to understand where everyone here falls into the spectrum of saying it's to much. I would like to use this for my Psychology/Sociology class in college I wouldn't be using names or anything just trying ...
To me it really depends on how much I trust the person I'm playing with and what has been pre-negotiated. Scat play and pet play would definitely be hard limits for me though.
05/13/2014
oohlookasquirrel oohlookasquirrel
None of the listed things are too much for me as long as both partners have consented to the act. I personally enjoy pain. I bleed at the drop of a hat, and it doesn't particularly bother me. Lasting marks really turn me on, though I'd prefer for them to be in places I can hide them with clothing. I would not want to be cut so badly that I need stitches, or otherwise injured to the point that I should be seeing a doctor. Short of that, whatever my partner and I negotiate is perfectly sane and nobody's business but ours.
05/15/2014
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by TwatMockery
Everyone has their limits, I'd like to understand where everyone here falls into the spectrum of saying it's to much. I would like to use this for my Psychology/Sociology class in college I wouldn't be using names or anything just trying ...
We are not into pain at all, so each of these activities would be "too much" in our book.
05/16/2014
itismedi itismedi
Quote:
Originally posted by TwatMockery
Everyone has their limits, I'd like to understand where everyone here falls into the spectrum of saying it's to much. I would like to use this for my Psychology/Sociology class in college I wouldn't be using names or anything just trying ...
I said bleeding, but that sort of goes with scarring too...
06/04/2014
Sir Sir
None of those are "too much," but I do have a few things I have no interest in partaking in.
06/07/2014
inkky inkky
I have some limits, but only one is listed here; scarring. I don't mind pain or blood in a sexual context, but if it permanently leaves a mark, i'm out.
06/11/2014
indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by TwatMockery
Everyone has their limits, I'd like to understand where everyone here falls into the spectrum of saying it's to much. I would like to use this for my Psychology/Sociology class in college I wouldn't be using names or anything just trying ...
No scaring hitting or bleeding, Red marks are okay depening on placement and how they are achieved
06/11/2014
dv8 dv8
I don't mind scaring but I'm not into scarring. (I wasn't aware that some free online dictionaries misuse the former.)

I'm not fond of specifically playing with menstrual blood.
06/13/2014
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by indiechick
No scaring hitting or bleeding, Red marks are okay depening on placement and how they are achieved
Ditto with us. Well written.
06/13/2014
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
I also meant to click "other". None of the items that are listed are too much, my hard limits are : vomit,urine,scat,anima ls,underage and some forms of age play.
06/13/2014
QueerFemmeinist QueerFemmeinist
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Originally posted by TwatMockery
Everyone has their limits, I'd like to understand where everyone here falls into the spectrum of saying it's to much. I would like to use this for my Psychology/Sociology class in college I wouldn't be using names or anything just trying ...
No hitting. Is scaring meant to be scaring or scarring? I vote yes to the former and no to the latter
06/29/2014
SweetSaffron SweetSaffron
My pain tolerance isn't very high, but I LOVE marks, provided I can hide them at work or around family. If I have bruises, welts, or scratches, I'm ecstatic. Scars are even better!
07/01/2014
Trixxxy Trixxxy
I just feel like if you're hurting someone it's too much. If they don't complain, anything goes!
07/04/2014
GirlyGirlRed GirlyGirlRed
If you leave marks, then it's too much.
08/17/2014
SailorJulyxo SailorJulyxo
Nothing unless it's illegal (for example, anything involving animals, children or the deceased.) Luckily, neither of us are into anything like that!

Everything else, though, is wonderful; especially biting, blood play and marking - especially from spanking (and ~especially~ with a crop.)
09/18/2014
Aesenthia Aesenthia
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Originally posted by TwatMockery
Everyone has their limits, I'd like to understand where everyone here falls into the spectrum of saying it's to much. I would like to use this for my Psychology/Sociology class in college I wouldn't be using names or anything just trying ...
I draw the line when it comes to leaving scars or drawing blood. I don't have to worry too much as my boyfriend is not interested in taking things that far, but we have talked about one day getting a tattoo in order to sort of show ownership (this would be after we got married and it would probably be in a discreet place).
09/27/2014
Funtastic Funtastic
Blood can be bad.
09/30/2014
subbieforHer subbieforHer
I've always been against the concept of scaring and blood play but given the nature of my relationship to my Mistress, I'd suppose anything is negotiable (in theory, anyway). Thankfully, She does not care for that type of play either so I guess it works out well, lol.
10/16/2014
fizzygato fizzygato
Anal is when it's too much, though I noticed it wasn't an option. Idk, I don't like not being able to see someone/ having someone behind me. Blood and scarring is okay if done well
10/24/2014
BusyMe BusyMe
tripping out for fun sounds shitty.. and being someone else you say you are... Thats even more fucked than being slapped in the middle of intercourse, I'd say.
Feb 17, 5:02 am
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by TwatMockery
Everyone has their limits, I'd like to understand where everyone here falls into the spectrum of saying it's to much. I would like to use this for my Psychology/Sociology class in college I wouldn't be using names or anything just trying ...
See I don't think anything is too much as long as it its in a place that's covered by clothing and doesn't require an explanation to the general public looking at it. Like if you cant go to work with your sex wounds maybe its time to scale it back.

The really fd up thing is I was thinking... I might really enjoy being scarred in the right place... I know... That's twisted isn't it.
Feb 18, 2:09 am
pirata pirata
It's got to be fun pain, anything that isn't is too much. But when it is fun pain, I think the line comes when you are going to bleed or leave permanent scars. For me, at least
Mar 20, 9:03 pm
Livia Drew Livia Drew
I think my hard limit (scarring) will probably always be my hard limit. But even your own spectrum changes over the course of your life... and not always to make you more adventurous. Sexual preference is a complicated thing.
Mar 22, 8:40 am
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by Livia Drew
I think my hard limit (scarring) will probably always be my hard limit. But even your own spectrum changes over the course of your life... and not always to make you more adventurous. Sexual preference is a complicated thing.
Very well spoken and wise. Now I wonder what line of work you are in. So ......
yes, invisible ink.
Mar 22, 9:26 pm
Total posts: 30
Unique posters: 29