How would your partner react over a cute starter kit?

kadelette kadelette
Fetish Fantasy first time kit
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If you guys are usually vanilla, what would your partner think? A lot of people I've dated didn't have any idea how kinky I was until we got into the bedroom; they were generally surprised. If I had brought a kit into it, I'm willing to bet a majority of them would have been too nervous to try right away.

What about those of you that are normally kinky? Would your partner laugh at you for bringing a kit into the bedroom or would they be totally ready to test it out?
12/18/2012
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Grellopop Grellopop
You know, i wish my boyfriend was kinky, but honestly, we're just not there yet. We're both a bit too young at heart haha. But i bet he'd warm up to it pretty quick if i told him i was kinky and presented him with the chance to try it out. ;D
12/21/2012
novanilla novanilla
I've had good luck with that with my partners. I guess I know how to find kinky people without even asking. I don't think I could be with someone who wasn't and be satisfied.
12/21/2012
phoenixfire phoenixfire
I'm working on a review of this kit for my mentor ATM, and really it is pretty tame as BDSM goes. It would be a good starter set, nothing too intimidating. If you are really nervous about how your partner might react to your kink, you can always start with conversation rather than bringing the subject up by bringing out the toys. If you're into leather and a cute guy in leather walks by, mention it. If you see some porn together where S & M comes up, mention what you find exciting. Gauge your partner's reactions.

I know I was VERY nervous about mentioning my kinks to my husband. As in, we've been married 14 years, dated for almost 3 before marrying, and I'm just claiming my BDSM fetishes now. (Which I have always known were there.) I was very pleasantly surprised by how supportive my husband was. He really knew more about me than I thought he did.

But, with a brand new partner, it can be pretty scary. Good luck!
12/21/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
id like it
12/21/2012
fizzygato fizzygato
I feel like my kinky friends would laugh. They have VERY high standards and accept nothing less than like $200(+) items; they would scoff at anything that could be bought in a kit/ be in a general populus price range at all.

I feel like my vanilla friends would be impressed and be like, "Wow! That's kinky!"

I personally would be okay with introducing it to all of my friends/ potential partners. I'm like, "Take me or leave me." I never worry about BDSM/kink scaring others away. I mean, I'm trans* and queer. I think they would have been scared off just by knowing that--- once they get over that, I usually guess if they were okay with that they should be accepting of BDSM/kink things, even if it isn't their thing personally, and so far they have been
12/25/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
I don't know if just showing up with a kit would be the best move. I think having an open and honest discussion about sexual interests is the best way to introduce the idea of kink to someone. THEN you can start looking into kits.

Most kits I've seen are too light for my tastes, though if I showed up at his doorstep with one, I'm sure he'd be game to test it out with me. We'd likely break half of the stuff I see in most kits, but we'd have fun breaking them.
12/25/2012
xilliannax xilliannax
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Originally posted by kadelette
If you guys are usually vanilla, what would your partner think? A lot of people I've dated didn't have any idea how kinky I was until we got into the bedroom; they were generally surprised. If I had brought a kit into it, I'm willing to ... More
My husband is VERY kinky, so its more likely he'd surprise me to warm me into the idea
12/25/2012
VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
I wish my boyfriend was more kinky. Bringing up kinky stuff makes me feel shy. lol. If I showed him all the stuff I wanted to try he would probably be pretty surprised. We're just starting small with really beginner type stuff like the Black Rose satin ties and things that are soft and see where it goes from there.
12/25/2012
Heatherbipoly Heatherbipoly
my partner would be hell yeah lets do it..lol
12/26/2012
Voldemort Voldemort
Quote:
Originally posted by kadelette
If you guys are usually vanilla, what would your partner think? A lot of people I've dated didn't have any idea how kinky I was until we got into the bedroom; they were generally surprised. If I had brought a kit into it, I'm willing to ... More
Mine would be hell yeah to that idea. Hell, he's the reason I;m looking into one right now.
01/20/2013
Petite Cannibal Petite Cannibal
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Originally posted by kadelette
If you guys are usually vanilla, what would your partner think? A lot of people I've dated didn't have any idea how kinky I was until we got into the bedroom; they were generally surprised. If I had brought a kit into it, I'm willing to ... More
My partner is nervous about trying new things, but he'd be excited if I brought home something like this try out! He's always wanted a gag, too!
02/10/2013
Genderfree Genderfree
I'm not vanilla, and if my partner got me one of these things, I'd be like "honey, this is going to break in a few weeks." And then she'd have a sad face. So, of course we'd use it. We're just heavier BDSM players than that.
03/09/2013
Roz W Roz W
I honestly cannot imagine an adult person who would say "omg, a blindfold? what are you thinking?"

Not because it's not "hardcore" enough or whatever. But because mildly-kinky stuff is part of what sex *is* now. It's like buying lingerie.
03/10/2013
kadelette kadelette
I love reading all of these responses- it feels like secret insight into relationships haha.
03/12/2013
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