How do you handle the "dirty" side of anal sex?

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How do you handle the "dirty" side of anal sex?

chibi1091 chibi1091
My boyfriend reeeaaaally wants to have anal sex. I love anal play, so I'm up for it, but I've never had anal sex before...and we all know about the embarrassing side to it. So I wanted to ask the pros of this lovely site what they do or how they deal with the "dirty" side of anal.
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Take a shower and make sure I'm/he or she's extra clean before we have anal play.
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Ciao. Ciao.
If I am anticipating some anal play sure I will shower and clean myself out a little in advance, but generally speaking if it happens spontaneously outside of making sure I have gone to the bathroom recently it is usually a lot less messy than you might imagine. A towel underneath (or within reach) since between lube and whatever is down there you might have a little mess to deal with and/or sticky hands, and your boyfriend may want to wear a condom if he's concerned about any fecal matter issues...but generally anal is not that much messier than regular sex (I mean, it's going to be a stick and wet affair no matter what, right?) and if it's something he wants he shouldn't judge you if it makes a little mess.
01/10/2012
Do-Re-Mi Do-Re-Mi
If you're worried about being "clean" use an enema. You can get them at a drug store for super cheap. A lot of people I know says it makes them feel more comfortable with anal.
01/10/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I think it's your responsibility to share and communicate how you feel about your cleanliness too. If you haven't had an enema or a hot shower, then be open about NOT wanted to find out the hard way that you're not clean enough to avoid an embarrassment. My wife has told me on more than one occassion that tonight was not the night to play back there. Not wanting to have an accident either, I am more than happy to do something else.
01/10/2012
EastCoast36 EastCoast36
If you go the enema route, you may want to consider emptying the solution and filling with just warm water. This will clean your bottom without the aggressive effects of the active ingredient in the solution.
01/10/2012
Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
Definitely taking a shower will be great. I agree with the posts about Enema's, also it's good to know your habits and body. If you know that after a meal, or certain times of the day how your body reacts then you can determine perhaps the safest time to have anal sex. Not that you want to know, but as an example for me, I cannot do anything anal related till just the afternoon/evening, and late at night. This is because I know my body well enough and my eating habits.


You both could also keep it safe the first few attempts and have him wear a condom until you get a routine down. Just my thoughts and suggestions I'm no pro however.
01/10/2012
Girly Girl Girly Girl
i tried to have anal but i don't like it but i am always clean when doing any kind of sex ,,, but i think you should clean a little more for anal
01/10/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I have tried it and don't like it. I will do light play but as for full throttle count me out it is just not for me. But do whatever you need to clean yourself out so there will be no messes.
01/10/2012
Istanbull Istanbull
Nothing makes anal more fun and enjoyable that a few good enemas of warm water. After you've been flushed out, you can begin anal olympics with zero worry about the "dirty". It's what the adult film stars do (at least the good ones) that's how they are able to do such long scenes of hard-core anal with no sign of mud. It really is a one of a kind experiance that once you try, you may never do anal without doing it first again.
01/10/2012
ooommmm ooommmm
Enemas themselves can cause discomfort and accidents of their own. And it's a lot of work. For day to day spontaneous anal sex, a healthy diet, knowing your body and when it's right to do are the most important things.

Either way, anal sex is great and clean anal sex is best regardless of how you get clean.
01/10/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by chibi1091
My boyfriend reeeaaaally wants to have anal sex. I love anal play, so I'm up for it, but I've never had anal sex before...and we all know about the embarrassing side to it. So I wanted to ask the pros of this lovely site what they do or how ...
We have been doing active anal lovemaking for almost 40 years now. Sorry...no DIRTY ever happened. EVER. Not once. NEVER.

We shower BEFORE anal play. We make sure neither of us needs to have a bowel movement (or went a few hours prior), since if you don't have to go to the bathroom, your anus and rectum should be really empty.

That's it. Period.

I know some folks do enemas and honestly, I cannot think of a better way to stir up things, and create the urge to go and make a mess potentially, then an enema before hand.

We always use disinfectant Pop Up wipes (Wet One's)at the bedside, after pulling a toy, finger or penis out of a rear and all is well. I play with my hubby's tail end with my fingers and toys too, and have never had an issue there either.

I had several anal lovers prior to him, and he had a few seriously anal girls prior to me..and NONE ever had any "dirty" moments. If they had, or we had, I guess we would have gone "ewee" and laughed it off...but really, NEVER HAPPENED.
01/10/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Istanbull
Nothing makes anal more fun and enjoyable that a few good enemas of warm water. After you've been flushed out, you can begin anal olympics with zero worry about the "dirty". It's what the adult film stars do (at least the good ones) ...
I know of a couple of friends who started anal play with a good enema..and were running to the bathroom with cramps for a good part of the evening. PLUS, one had an "accident" that WAS messy, during penetration...worse yet, as she was anal cowgirl on her husband. Sorry..NO needless enema's for me. WE have enjoyed enema free...CLEAN, anal only weekends...GOLD METAL OLYMPIC ANAL PLAY, as you might say, for decades without ANY "dirty issues".
01/10/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Ciao.
If I am anticipating some anal play sure I will shower and clean myself out a little in advance, but generally speaking if it happens spontaneously outside of making sure I have gone to the bathroom recently it is usually a lot less messy than you ...
Honestly, for REAL worry free anal fun (as far as the bed, etc go), get a wonderful Liberator THRO. Way better then a towel. You have ZERO worries of stains and wet spots from lube, cum, or even urine (since hard anal penetration can cause you to leak or pour urine, sometimes). Now, we find it all FUN.
01/10/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Do-Re-Mi
If you're worried about being "clean" use an enema. You can get them at a drug store for super cheap. A lot of people I know says it makes them feel more comfortable with anal.
Opposite with our friends to tried it. Anal play with a FLEETS is just asking for a problem while playing. Nope...just not going there.
01/10/2012
Daemonin Daemonin
I'm still getting comfortable with anal, so it's important for me to be clean. I don't want something unpleasant to happen and get too embarrassed to continue trying
01/10/2012
Mistress Jezebel Mistress Jezebel
Showering and a warm water enema beforehand does the trick just fine,
01/10/2012
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by EastCoast36
If you go the enema route, you may want to consider emptying the solution and filling with just warm water. This will clean your bottom without the aggressive effects of the active ingredient in the solution.
Seconded. The chemicals in "drug store enemas" can irritate the rectum or wash out much more of the protective mucous (not good), and tend to encourage more stuff to come down from above. Stick to plain water or normal saline.
01/11/2012
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I know of a couple of friends who started anal play with a good enema..and were running to the bathroom with cramps for a good part of the evening. PLUS, one had an "accident" that WAS messy, during penetration...worse yet, as she was anal ...
Depends on how your body works and what you've been eating. Before worrying too much get a toy and do a few "test runs" in the bathroom to see how your body works.
01/11/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Frankly, I don't understand how so many people say they've NEVER had anything come out during anal. I wash thoroughly in the shower, but obviously I can't get inside with the wash cloth...so yeah, sometimes there is some "stuff" on the toy or condom. The last time it was on a toy and my husband said something, I've been afraid to ask for anal since. I'm definitely going to try an enema next time.. with warm water not the chemical solution.
01/13/2012
Mr Dj Mr Dj
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Originally posted by Mistress Jezebel
Showering and a warm water enema beforehand does the trick just fine,
that's what we do
01/17/2012
Gyrator Gyrator
We find a douche using warm water does the job just fine.
01/17/2012
EdenJP EdenJP
Quote:
Originally posted by chibi1091
My boyfriend reeeaaaally wants to have anal sex. I love anal play, so I'm up for it, but I've never had anal sex before...and we all know about the embarrassing side to it. So I wanted to ask the pros of this lovely site what they do or how ...
Take a shower and make sure I'm/he or she's extra clean before we have anal play.
01/17/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
I shower
02/05/2012
godweensatan godweensatan
shit happens hahahahha
02/06/2012
Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
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Originally posted by godweensatan
shit happens hahahahha
Nice one!!
02/06/2012
RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by godweensatan
shit happens hahahahha
I concur with Cookie Monster Mike, nice.
02/06/2012
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
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Originally posted by Bignuf
We have been doing active anal lovemaking for almost 40 years now. Sorry...no DIRTY ever happened. EVER. Not once. NEVER.

We shower BEFORE anal play. We make sure neither of us needs to have a bowel movement (or went a few hours prior), since ...
I think this expert is quite right!

Use warm water enemas, if you have too. The only other thing to consider, which has NOT been mentioned, is the time of day. Usually, late morning or in the evening, after dinner, your rectum is generally empty (hard to believe); but having a bowel movement may or may not be required.

As a hiker in the wilderness, going to the bathroom is usually in the morning. After that, you are pretty much out of shit until later in the day and then another visit to the bathroom may or may not be required.
02/06/2012
Wildchild Wildchild
Quote:
Originally posted by chibi1091
My boyfriend reeeaaaally wants to have anal sex. I love anal play, so I'm up for it, but I've never had anal sex before...and we all know about the embarrassing side to it. So I wanted to ask the pros of this lovely site what they do or how ...
I think the shower thing is a great idea, as far as the dirty side, I have never made a big deal out of it. Thats why there soap and water.
02/06/2012
dhig dhig
i make sure i've have a movement that day and take a shower beforehand
02/06/2012
godweensatan godweensatan
dont think about it, just bend over and allow access to your bum and everything will be fine!!
02/19/2012
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