The reason I am posting here is because I am insanely in love with my girlfriend, she is the one and I plan to propose. And I want to be able to please her and be the lover of her dreams. But I feel I am failing....Shes never complained and I've asked her several times but she dismisses the topic and says "everything is fine, you're great." But i don't feel that way...I feel like shit..worthless in fact.
Simply put I am having difficulty bringing her to climax through sex. I can go down on her and get her to come without issue, she can get on top of me and get it herself but I am starting to feel inadequate.
I have tried doggy style, missionary, spooning, her on her side and me on my knees as some kind of missionary/doggy style concoction. But alas we always have to resort to her getting on top....or I eventually come myself and she says don't worry about it.
I don't think my past girlfriends have been faking it, (100% positive on some), so I don't doubt myself being capable of making it happen to some degree. Nor has there ever been a negative comment about my penis size.
Is my girlfriend just very difficult to get off?
Am I not arousing her enough (There is foreplay but do I need more? I do go down on her.)
Am I out of shape? (6ft, 194lbs, Been a year since I hit the gym)
Is there a better position????
I've tried all kinds of thrusting techniques and speeds. Doing everything I can to go as long as I can. At one point I tried so hard I thought I was going to have a heart attack or break my dick off.
I've been reading websites, books, magazines...I need some female help... I am losing my mind and in fear of losing someone I love terribly because they will grow tired of my ineptitude. She is into the sex and always seems to enjoy herself but when it comes to orgasm...unless she gets it herself or I go down on her....it's not happening.
Tell me what to do.