Getting Cunnilingus..any awkwardness?

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Getting Cunnilingus..any awkwardness?

nova2014 nova2014
My ex only tried to give me cunnilingus twice and both times were so awkward because I knew he wasn't enjoying it so I couldn't enjoy it. This new guy though loves giving cunnilingus and seems to really enjoy it. Did you feel awkward the first time or first couple times getting cunnilingus? How do you get over it? I love it now but I still can't fully let go and orgasm, any tips?
11/10/2013
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cagypsy cagypsy
I know the feeling half the guys I've been with didn't like giving it so I didn't ask often and when they did it was awkward. Now even with a guy I know loves giving it I still find it awkward and it takes a couple times for me to relax and really enjoy it.
11/15/2013
edeneve edeneve
relax and focus on the pleasure you're receiving.
11/18/2013
Teaser Teaser
I am a guy, and I love to give it. She seems to totally enjoy it as well, however she can not give me felatio.

I have been with other woman who would not let me give them cunnilingus, and I never really understood why. One of them was very skilled at felatio however.

For you, if your guy is doing it, he probably WANTS to, so relax and enjoy. He will enjoy your pleasure. (I know I do enjoy hers!)
11/19/2013
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Teaser
I am a guy, and I love to give it. She seems to totally enjoy it as well, however she can not give me felatio.

I have been with other woman who would not let me give them cunnilingus, and I never really understood why. One of them was very ...
That's kind of like saying, "well, I know you don't really like anal honey but let's do it anyway" -- if she doesn't like it, for whatever the reason, she doesn't like it.
11/19/2013
BlackOrchid BlackOrchid
When I was younger, I felt so awkward receiving it but I grew out of it after I had more sexual partners and became more comfortable with my body and sex in general. Also from the sounds of it, this is a new relationship. If that's the case you might just need a little more time to feel completely at ease.
11/19/2013
ud328 ud328
Answering for her: she used to find it awkward but the more I go down the more relaxed she is. She still "thinks too much" as she says but having music playing helps her. If she's really having a hard time she'll cover her eyes.
12/06/2013
Slutty Girl Problems Slutty Girl Problems
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Originally posted by nova2014
My ex only tried to give me cunnilingus twice and both times were so awkward because I knew he wasn't enjoying it so I couldn't enjoy it. This new guy though loves giving cunnilingus and seems to really enjoy it. Did you feel awkward the ...
It's really not enjoyable if your partner doesn't enjoy it - or if the sensations do nothing for you Try to remind yourself that he really does enjoy it - and wants to please you! Then again, maybe the sensations just aren't enough to bring you over the edge!
12/07/2013
Rossie Rossie
It felt a bit awkward for me the first time or two, but since my husband performs great, I dismissed that silly thought and always embrace the wonderful sensations he gives me -- I can't live without oral now!

If your new guy takes pleasure in giving you oral, then you should learn to relax and fully enjoy what he's doing -- it will give him immense satisfaction when he sees your orgasmic response.
12/07/2013
epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
Your not the only one. It's always been hard for me. takes practice I guess.
Jan 12, 11:03 pm
Eversolewd Eversolewd
I originally dated only girls (my current S.O. is the first male I've ever dated/had sex with) so oral was pretty standard right off the bat sexually for me. It was a little awkward at first, mostly because I'm plus sized and always a little body conscious. I've really found that the best way to receive oral is to have your partner really take their time and get you really hot before diving in. Have them kiss your torso, thighs, mons, and breasts. Ask them to use their hands first while kissing you. Have them get you really hot and heavy so that by the time they're down to business you're so excited and turned on you really CAN'T even think about feeling awkward! Good luck and have fun with it!
Jan 26, 4:51 pm
RonLee RonLee
The very first time I engaged in cunnilingus I felt...
ok I admit it, I was freaked out, I didn't know what to do.
Jan 27, 10:39 pm
smalltalkingbit smalltalkingbit
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Originally posted by nova2014
My ex only tried to give me cunnilingus twice and both times were so awkward because I knew he wasn't enjoying it so I couldn't enjoy it. This new guy though loves giving cunnilingus and seems to really enjoy it. Did you feel awkward the ...
I hear you. My ex -never- gave me cunnilingus because he didn't want to; he said he "would if I REALLY wanted him to." Needless to say, I didn't want it at that point. My current partner really enjoys giving cunnilingus. I was nervous the first time since my ex had made me feel so ugly about that part of myself, but I ended up really enjoying it and orgasmed with a partner for the first time. What helped the most was relaxing, focusing on the pleasure, knowing it was something he wanted to do, and- honestly- his reassurance that part of me was beautiful and if I didn't like it, he also wouldn't be offended. That last part was most helpful, I think, since it took the pressure off. I had it stuck in my head that he would be doing this thing he probably wouldn't even like, and then I would hate it too-- and man, was I off!
Jan 28, 12:15 pm
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
I think it depends on why you are not comfortable with it. For me it was difficult to accept with my current husband because of several reasons. Body conscious, my ex-husband didn't want to and made me feel uncomfortable were part of it, but the main reason was that I had trouble receiving love. Once I felt loved and completely accepted by my current husband, it was no longer a problem. For other women it may be:
* Giving up control to another person
* Cleanliness
* Don't think their partner wants to
* etc.

Find out the reason why you are holding back and then you can resolve it.

Then there are those like Stormy mentioned that just don't like it. If it just doesn't feel good/do it for you then move on to more fun things.
Jan 28, 8:44 pm
Teaser Teaser
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Originally posted by Ansley
That's kind of like saying, "well, I know you don't really like anal honey but let's do it anyway" -- if she doesn't like it, for whatever the reason, she doesn't like it.
Agreed, and I never ask for felatio (nor would I force her to do anything she didn't want to). In fact, I often ask her what she would like me to do.
Feb 2, 11:34 am
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