Relaxing for Oral Sex

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Relaxing for Oral Sex

41knit 41knit
I have a hard time relaxing when a guy goes down on me. I feel very self conscious and kind of selfish. Even when a guy reassures me that he enjoys it. It has been something I avoid and will do because he asks to do it. I am looking for advice on how to relax and enjoy it.
11/26/2010
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Quote:
Originally posted by 41knit
I have a hard time relaxing when a guy goes down on me. I feel very self conscious and kind of selfish. Even when a guy reassures me that he enjoys it. It has been something I avoid and will do because he asks to do it. I am looking for advice on how ...
Interesting question.

When I go down on iGirl I always have to assure her that I love doing it. If your guy is going down on you sit back and enjoy it. If he reaffirms his joy for burying his face in your pussy then you have to believe him. He's not going to lie about that!
11/26/2010
fabjennie fabjennie
I use to feel the same. But now when I do get it (which isn't often lol) I make sure to sit back and enjoy it as long as possible.
11/28/2010
socceras socceras
If you are self conscious just make sure you are clean before hand and you should be fine
11/29/2010
kinkpink kinkpink
I'm always really self conscious at first too. I find after a few minutes I get into it and relax. If you're really uncomfortable definitely take a quick trip to the bathroom and make sure you're clean, plus it gives you a minute to breath and focus.
12/02/2010
northstar northstar
I feel this way too sometimes. I solved my hygiene issues somewhat by having a quick wash before, but I think the main thing is to realise how important reciprocacy is...if you spend that much time and effort going down on him (and enjoying it!), then you most definitely deserve the same treatment. And if he's more than willing, let him at it without stopping him and see how long he'll go!
12/03/2010
ellejay ellejay
I feel the exact same way. When my boyfriend and I were in a LDR, I'd even have trouble relaxing if it'd been a while since we last saw each other. I find that the more he does it, the more comfortable I feel. Less anxious, easier to enjoy. Best of luck.
12/04/2010
darkkitty darkkitty
Quote:
Originally posted by 41knit
I have a hard time relaxing when a guy goes down on me. I feel very self conscious and kind of selfish. Even when a guy reassures me that he enjoys it. It has been something I avoid and will do because he asks to do it. I am looking for advice on how ...
My man loves it so it keeps me at ease. he practically begs for it!
12/05/2010
M121212 M121212
I've been cultivating the enjoyment I get out of simple pleasurable things in every day life. (The touch of fabric, the taste of a good meal, a fresh gust of wind on a warm day, etc.) By focusing my mind on these pleasurable sensations, I hope to get more enjoyment out of things that feel good. Also training myself to realize that pleasure in of itself is a worthwhile thing.

Maybe being more mindful of your own experience of pleasure would help you to relax while getting head.
03/09/2011
Kissy Kissy
I have a hard time relaxing too. I just try to think sexy thoughts.. even though I find the whole thing a bit odd!
02/13/2012
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