We've talked about this over the past few months since I went back to New York and he told me that the summer really kind of scarred him. I have been really supportive and trying to help him not be afraid of having sex anymore and we even stopped for a while, although we didn't stop the hand jobs and blo jobs. Eventually we started up again, but it was too much for him and now we are not doing anything again.
I want to be there for him and support him, but I don't know what to do to help him or why exactly he's still caught up in the summer time! In the meantime, I'm getting anxious and I feel like my sexuality has changed. I used to be spontaneous about sex and want to surprise him and do nasty things, but now I don't know if I could do that even if he was ready because I am afraid to be disappointed and embarrassed. What if he isn't ready and I'm there going crazy? I'll feel super awful! Also, I realized that he can't make me come anymore, not during sex or oral or hand jobs. I think it's because of the state of our sexual lives but he doesn't seem to understand that and he takes it personally when I tell him that I didn't come.
What can I do?