Recently I have seen a sharp decline in my partner and I having sex. He is still attracted to me physically and mentally. We love each other very much but he only wants blow jobs and anal sex. He even said himself that he is selfish and doesn't not want to give me oral or vaginal sex because he doesn't get pleasure out of it. He loves to finger me but only the way he wants to, he likes to over stimulate me and that's the only way he gets satisfaction. He has apologized my times over for not wanting to pleasure me they way I want and has suggested he stop asking for blow jobs and anal sex. I enjoy those things very much and I don't want him to stop asking but I can't help but feel jealous of him. He gets everything he wants sexually and I get only 5% of what I want. I do have a heightened sex drive but for younger people (we are in our early 20s) we only have sex vaginally once or twice a month. I understand that he doesn't want it because he can't feel through the condom and he is circumcised. He has also said that it takes a lot more for him to be "in the mood" to have vaginal sex. Once he wanted a blow job and I offered to let him lay there and let me fuck him and I'd finish him in my mouth but he said quickly never mind I don't want it anymore. I was appalled! He says it is not me but I can't help but think if I was tighter or more attractive (which he already says I am) or something he would like it more. He also only gets off to rape and other hardcore images but he is reluctant to act them out with me because he says that he cares for me and would never want to hurt me. It is my fantasy to be submissive and he has a very dominate personality. I have no clue what to do and there seems to be no compromise since he has to be "in the mood" for everything and that mood is so easily broken. He only want to please himself and tells me he can't just do the things that I want.