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I think that some people are overthinking this analogy. I think this saying today would relate more to living together before marriage, not sex before marriage. I feel that when you live with your partner before marriage they don't feel like they
I think that some people are overthinking this analogy. I think this saying today would relate more to living together before marriage, not sex before marriage. I feel that when you live with your partner before marriage they don't feel like they need to marry you to keep you around. You are already there. If you are dating but living seperately you are really still on the market. Their is nothing keeping you with the other person. Just saying....
When this ridiculous saying came into usage (probably post Victorian Era or so) people simply did not
live with a member of the opposite sex without being married or related to them.
It simply was not done. And it was terribly frowned upon by society and even illegal
in many states.
Frank Lloyd Wright, the famous architect, lived with three women (one at a time) after leaving his wife. At one terrible point in his life, the town near his home wanted him literally run out of town and/or arrested for "indecency" and " indecent co-habitation" was illegal in Wisconsin, where he lived at the time. Shortly after this, his lover, her children and several work men were murdered on the property by an insane servant. People said Wright "got what he deserved for living in sin." This was in the late 19-teens.
When he and his third lover had a child together out of "wedlock" there were threats of having the baby taken away, and they were literally run out of the country to live peacefully in Europe, where such behavior was given much more tolerance in the 1930s or so.
"Living together" is a recent phenomenon among middle class people in our society. And by "recent" I mean only accepted by many in the last 20 years or so.
The original "milk for free" silliness was about women who "gave sex away." As if they didn't get anything out of it.
I do have to say that in the limited number of people I have known, both my generation and my children's most people DO live together before marriage and it hasn't had a poor impact on the percentage of people eventually getting married.