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Out at a restaurant I had a door dropped on me by a pre-teen kid. I always hold doors open, for family/friends and for strangers because my mom taught me it was polite. (I'm female in my late 20s) Am I strange? What about you?
I hold open doors if I see someone coming out while I am, behind me or something. I never just let a door fall on someone. If there's someone about to go through the door at the same time as me & I don't want to be in the position to hold it, I'll stay behind, let them go and then I'll go. No need to be rude and just let the door fall on someone.
I don't expect people to go out of their way to open doors for me though, but I think if you're going through at the same time, and you grabbed the door first, it's just natural, common courtesy to at least shove it open hard so the other person can get through too. Jumping to hold the door for someone isn't expected, but there's a difference in not having manners, and like your situation, it sounds like the person had a lack of those!
I've had someone accidentally let a door slam on me, but it was because they had their hands full, and in that case, I totally understand.
I have always been taught it was polite too. You aren't strange.
I was happy to see the votes on this. Most people voted that they hold doors for their loved ones/family and strangers too, but nobody voted that they only hold doors open for women only. That was nice to see. Not saying women shouldn't have doors opened for us, but I like that people are fair enough to open for all people, not women only.