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She does rectal as well? Odd I have NEVER had that done.
My doctor usually does a very quick anal exam. It's the only way to be thorough enough to be able to feel the back of the uterus
! It is very gentle and doesn't hurt at all. It IS necessary. I would doubt the thoroughness of a doctor who didn't do one at least every other year.
I have to also reiterate that OBGYN exams can be intimidating at first, but not painful at all.
I LOVE male doctors, I actually prefer them over female doctors. I'm a nurse and have worked with both and I find most female doctors VERY unsympathetic to most female issues. They had to be tough and ignore pain and discomfort to get through Med school and many of them have no patience for other women who they think "whine." Male doctors, from my experience are MUCH kinder, more empathetic and actually more gentle. (and I had to have a pelvic and a PAP and anal exam before my first female
doctor would ever even prescribe my prescription first birth control method at the age of 16!)
Deep breathing exercises help during early pelvic exams, the more tense you are the more it is uncomfortable. I find even now, more than 20 years after my first pelvic, that deep breathing helps me relax so the exam is over with without any discomfort.
IMO, have a yearly or every other year pelvic with tests, a PAP, and even making sure the uterus is examined from all angles is necessary. It's necessary for YOUR health! It amazes me that some people's doctors prescribed birth control pills for them without a pelvic first. In the places I have worked, it is a rule that PAPs and pelvics need to be done every year in order for the doctor to prescribe birth control which requires a prescription.
Relax and it will be OK. In our state it is a requirement that a nurse be in the room any time ANY doctor, man or woman, does a pelvic exam. Often the nurse will help the doctor, and if you need someone to hold your hand a good office will have a second nurse come in to hold your and and to comfort you, I know ours always does this if requested.