Have You Ever Found Out Something Surprising About a Family Member?

Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
I just did that poll on what you call/called your grandmother(s). It made me think of the following:

My dad's father had his tongue & part of his jaw removed due to cancer, but lived more than 20 years after that. He was difficult to understand when he talked, but while he was dying in the hospital, he couldn't talk at all. Now my father thought he knew everything about Grandpa, but all the sudden, on his deathbed, Grandpa started signing to everyone! Thank God a nurse understood, but you could have knocked my dad over with a feather. He never knew his dad knew how to sign, as Grandpa never once brought it up! He asked about it through the nurse and found out that, as a boy, Grandpa had a deaf friend, so he taught himself sign language. And more than 70 years later, without ever practicing it, or telling anyone he new it, he just starts when he's dying! Oh, and he was indignant nobody understood him, too!

Anybody in you family surprise you with something you found out about them?
06/27/2013
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Ansley Ansley
There are no "good" stories in my family so no, nothing worth mentioning. Lots and lots of skeletons, though.
06/28/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Ansley
There are no "good" stories in my family so no, nothing worth mentioning. Lots and lots of skeletons, though.
As long as they aren't literal skeletons in the closet...wait a minute, even a story about that would be interesting to some of us!

Really, there is no requirement that the story be "good", only that you feel comfortable sharing.
So, yeah, I can understand not wanting to go there.

But anybody else, please tell whatever surprised you when you learned about it!
06/28/2013
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
As long as they aren't literal skeletons in the closet...wait a minute, even a story about that would be interesting to some of us!

Really, there is no requirement that the story be "good", only that you feel comfortable ... More
I suppose that's a valid point. Hmmm...

I was surprised to learn my grandmother wanted to make amends on her deathbed for how she treated me. But, I refused to grant her the wish. Just because you're dying doesn't give you the right to be absolved from what you did when you had 21 years to stop acting that way and apologize.
06/28/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Ansley
I suppose that's a valid point. Hmmm...

I was surprised to learn my grandmother wanted to make amends on her deathbed for how she treated me. But, I refused to grant her the wish. Just because you're dying doesn't give you the ... More
I agree!!! But people say I hold a grudge, so... But, I don't think she was sincere and it's not your job to make her feel better just because she's dying. Yeah, 21 years of whatever crap she did, is a hard record to just blow off! I'm glad to have finally met someone who feels the same way as I do about that kind of stuff. I would also never forgive an abuser, either. Some things, in my opinion, are inexcusable! But, like I said, I am a hard ass about some things

As for being surprised by a family member, yep, your example sounds like it was damned surprising! And it's a second example of a deathbed revelation!
06/28/2013
Chelynn67 Chelynn67
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
I just did that poll on what you call/called your grandmother(s). It made me think of the following:

My dad's father had his tongue & part of his jaw removed due to cancer, but lived more than 20 years after that. He was difficult to ... More
Not in awhile but don't have many family members left.
06/29/2013
TJax TJax
It was interesting to find out that my graandfather was a hustler at poker and a womanizer.
06/30/2013
jackie.jfky jackie.jfky
I have, and quite recently.
It's pretty dark, I'm not sure if I should share...
07/10/2013
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
I agree!!! But people say I hold a grudge, so... But, I don't think she was sincere and it's not your job to make her feel better just because she's dying. Yeah, 21 years of whatever crap she did, is a hard record to just blow off! ... More
I'm just now seeing this...

Seems you and I have a ton of things in common like this.
07/10/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Ansley
I'm just now seeing this...

Seems you and I have a ton of things in common like this.
I remember a member saying great minds don't think alike, that's what makes them great. Well, since I can't go with that phrase, I'll go with... great minds understand each other! You know, I think it comes down to arriving at the same conclusions because they best suit each of our personalities. In this case it would be because we refuse to allow someone a free pass to hurt us again. Sounds like common sense to me. Someone hurts you repeatedly, such as granny and it's not forgotten. I don't forgive based on nothing but evidence of someone causing me grief! I guess this means you are a hard ass too
07/10/2013
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