How has using toys change your life?

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How has using toys change your life?

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Contributor: Obscura Obscura
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A few years ago you wouldn't catch me on EdenFantasys.com and the mere mention of a sex toy would make me blush and run the other way. Today, not only do I enjoy experimenting with my husband using toys, but I also work for EF

Using toys has freed me, both mentally and physically. While I don't toot the horn about using toys, I feel more confident and - now that I know what my body loves - I appreciate it a lot more.

I'd love to know how toys and being open about using them has changed you? Has it freed you or maybe closeted you instead? Has it been a good experience overall?
10/19/2015
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Contributor: BlackOrchid BlackOrchid
It's brought my bf and I closer, we definitely experiment more. Using toys also keeps me sexually satisfied, when you have two hard working people in today's busy society sometimes making love as often as you'd like just doesn't happen. So I'd probably have more sexual tension without taking care of myself.
10/19/2015
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
It's definitely improved the quality of my sexual sensations and brought me further in touch with some things and helped my partner too.
10/19/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Without a doubt they have helped Ow's sexual satisfaction. Same o same o for years. We mostly got excitement from watching adult movies . She was never into self gratification. Now with clit toys, she enjoys hours of stimulation. I get the satisfaction of knowing she is and has

Toys for men have not caught up to the quality of women's in my opinion. The ones that are promising are out of $ reach.

We recently go into couples toys. A new frontier for us.
10/19/2015
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
My libido returned w/ such a fury, seething, about 3 1/2 years ago after quite a few years of absence. The last orgasm I'd had was about 1 1/2 years prior to that time. Oh mama, I was awakened while sleeping, alone, w/ a spontaneous orgasm. There's nothing like those orgasms! Wish I had them more often! Any sexual pleasure or orgasms before that, I have no memory of, & w/ good reason - yeah, lots of 'stuff' behind that.

Sex w/ a guy wasn't an option at that time when my body came back alive sexually, so I turned to toys. Long story short, my previous toy experiences had been less than ok, to say the least. But despite that, I started internet searching about them, & w/i weeks, ordered a few toys so much way beyond better than my earlier toy experiences produced. And my exploration into toys this time gave me the sexual pleasure & satisfaction I needed & still do need since I don't have a lover.

I have used lots of different types of toys, not anal or BDSM, though. And I've progressed from simple toys to more advanced in function & style. I have learned so much about my body & the types of stimulation that offer varying levels of pleasure, or not. And ever since I found e-stim, OMGawd!!!!! EF doesn't carry e-stim toys, although, I have found one toy that was discontinued - bummer.

I have shared bits my toy exploration w/ just a few people. It's not something they feel comfortable talking about. So, I 'out' myself anonymously on the internet. I think my libido & tour of toys are ok whether considered 'normal' or not. Others judgements about my sexual needs are irrelevant. It's my body & my life. And I'm so, so, so very happy I've found these delightful cohorts.
10/19/2015
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Without a doubt they have helped Ow's sexual satisfaction. Same o same o for years. We mostly got excitement from watching adult movies . She was never into self gratification. Now with clit toys, she enjoys hours of stimulation. I get the ... more
hmmmmm, might that be cuz they've dominated the market till recent years?
10/19/2015
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Before coming to EF for the first time four years ago I had never achieved climax. At the age of 30, I thought something was wrong with me. I turned to toys and a journey of self exploration ensued. My life has completely changed because of toys. My body has awakened and I enjoy exploring different toys, textures, materials, shapes, sizes, and vibrations. I love seeing my body respond to the sensations it experiences.
10/19/2015
Contributor: Andykh Andykh
My wife and i love our toys. It took us a while to get into them but we use them a good bit now. Hopefully we may venture out into some new toys sooner or later
10/19/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Truly I have no idea where I would be today if I had not gotten involved with sex toys.

I suspect that they have impacted on nearly every aspect of my life. From my finances, to my love life.
10/20/2015
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
I enjoy using sex toys with my boyfriend. I don't mind using them alone, but I think it's a little more fun to use them with him.
10/20/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
Hmmm...well, to say it simply, I had the working/mommy blues for probably 2 years upon finding EF. I was stressed, running ragged, and very tired. Our quality of sex life suffered. I got to the point I didn't even want sex Once I decided we needed to bring life back to the bedroom (it's very hard after a while to get that mojo going) I landed here! I rediscovered myself and what I liked. My fire came back times 10 and I even developed new tastes and curiosities lol. We now have an actual treasure chest full of goodies to play with and I use them all (with and without him--to keep the passion buring). I'm also a lot more outspoken about sex in general now
10/20/2015
Contributor: Obscura Obscura
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
Before coming to EF for the first time four years ago I had never achieved climax. At the age of 30, I thought something was wrong with me. I turned to toys and a journey of self exploration ensued. My life has completely changed because of toys. My ... more
There are so many people out there that can relate to this, unfulfilled!

Listening to people's needs and helping them find the right toys to achieve orgasms has been my favourite part of the job by far.

Being someone who actually went through it, you'd be an amazing mentor!
10/21/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
Before coming to EF for the first time four years ago I had never achieved climax. At the age of 30, I thought something was wrong with me. I turned to toys and a journey of self exploration ensued. My life has completely changed because of toys. My ... more
@unfulfilled, does that mean you will have a name change soon ?

Hey just joking. You may poke the bear a few times

No, we all are happy to hear of success. We are still learning. Recently just tried one of the U shape toys during intercourse. Not as delightful for me, but great for her.
10/21/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Hmmm...well, to say it simply, I had the working/mommy blues for probably 2 years upon finding EF. I was stressed, running ragged, and very tired. Our quality of sex life suffered. I got to the point I didn't even want sex Once I decided we ... more
When I read this the song "Light my Fire " popped up. by the Doors I think it was.
10/21/2015
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by Vnessa
Hmmm...well, to say it simply, I had the working/mommy blues for probably 2 years upon finding EF. I was stressed, running ragged, and very tired. Our quality of sex life suffered. I got to the point I didn't even want sex Once I decided we ... more
I love how that sounds & the visual I have: "...treasure chest full of goodies to play with..."
10/21/2015
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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