What are the 3 things in your life that you would like to change?

Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
You can choose anything, even if it's not within your poser to really change.
06/03/2013
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KissTheSkyBaby KissTheSkyBaby
I'd go back to school.
06/03/2013
LoveX LoveX
I'd finish college (twice now), I'd wait until I was this age to start having kids, and I wouldn't have got married the first time.
06/03/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
You can choose anything, even if it's not within your poser to really change.
Hmmm... My weaknesses, for sure. My biggest weakness is speaking UP. I am so easy to give in anytime I start feeling like someone wants me to or if they want something out of me, I feel wrong not to give anybody whatever they want! It's crazy. I realized I have to get some control over this recently when I even jeapordized my own damn health just to please someone who wanted me to get a vaccine when I didn't want it at all and was sure I didn't. But hey, if it makes them happy! I don't know why I do this. I have a problem with confrontation. I tend to be weak when it comes to standing up to people, even family. I mean, people can flat out crap on me and do me very wrong and I often feel "wrong" to say something. I will complain and even sometimes loudly say how I feel in hopes they will hear it, but cannot come to their face and say "look you little M-fer, you are doing me wrong and not even respecting me or this house." Nope. Not me. Gotta be the good guy at all times. It has to stop and I am working on that, a little. Lol. I realized it a lot this past month between a certain couple of family members who have just walked all over me and not even cared to respect the house or what I ask of them. It's very out of control. Yet I still don't have the nerve to say something and I don't know why I don't. I want to know why, that way I can fix it, so I've been doing some "soul searching" trying to figure out why I do this. I don't know if it's a people pleaser thing or what. Maybe it's this thing I do -- wanting to make everybody around happy and want to be the good guy.

Anyways, that's the biggest thing I need to change. I need to just say "stop fucking putting your wads of hair in the toilet and stopping it up. I've asked you 10 times!" The closest I've finally came to saying something was tonight when it happened yet again and I said "Welp, the toilet wouldn't flush thanks to that damn wad of hair. Either someone has cut their hair and put it in the toilet again or the toilet's growing a wig." I couldn't just leave it at being uspet. Had to throw a light-hearted joke in so I didn't hurt feelings! I need to step up, really.

Something else I'd change about my life? Hmmm... Well, if I said it, it would be mean. Lol. I'll just say, I'd change the way the people around me treat certain people and I'm not even talking about how they treat me, this time. I'm talking about what they've done to other people, which in turn does cause me serious hardship because it puts me in a very stuck situation where I need to be two different people at the same time. But I would love to change how they do these certain people, that way these certain people could feel safe again when they're around. So they could have some kind of guidelines and respect. It's one of those just 3 people can't do it all type of situations.

The third thing... I'd change... I guess I'd change how I sometimes let time slip by when I really planned on using it to do something really important or special or even therapeutic. I sometimes just get sucked into doing something and then end up not getting to do something that I needed or could use. That's not a huge thing, but it's a third thing I can think of at the moment.
06/03/2013
ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
You can choose anything, even if it's not within your poser to really change.
I want a full-time job versus part-time.
I want a nicer place to live.
I'd like dental insurance.
06/03/2013
dancingduo dancingduo
I would like to live in a different location, have a better paying job, and be more fit. Perhaps a different career...
06/03/2013
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I want a job I can live with (or win the lottery), the obsessive drive to lose excess weight, and an all-around hefty dose of confidence.
06/03/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
- I would make it so we were buying our own house instead of renting.

- I would have the body I wish I could have (which wouldn't be entirely possible without plastic surgery..which I'll never have)

- I would make our family and the relationship with my husband as strong as possible. It's easy to feel secure and confident when you have a strong relationship.
06/03/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
You can choose anything, even if it's not within your poser to really change.
Shoot, I meant power not "poser"!
06/03/2013
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
My anxiety problems, my current living situation, and my unemployed status.
06/03/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by kendra30752
Hmmm... My weaknesses, for sure. My biggest weakness is speaking UP. I am so easy to give in anytime I start feeling like someone wants me to or if they want something out of me, I feel wrong not to give anybody whatever they want! It's crazy. I ... More
Kendra, those are really good examples! I hope you do get it together enough to stand up for yourself. I think a big part of the "why", is habit; you assume a certain role, or get assigned it & then it becomes habit over time. And while I think it is important to realize the root of your behavior, I also think changing it a soon as possible is more important. You can start out small, any change is a step forward! Good luck!
06/03/2013
tami tami
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
You can choose anything, even if it's not within your poser to really change.
I would have went to college a lot sooner than trying to do it now..at 38ish it is hard to return to school and work full time plus help out with grandbabies and have a life. So that is the biggest thing I would have changed.
06/03/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by tami
I would have went to college a lot sooner than trying to do it now..at 38ish it is hard to return to school and work full time plus help out with grandbabies and have a life. So that is the biggest thing I would have changed.
I give you a lot of credit for doing that!
06/03/2013
KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
1. Be healthy (no medical conditions that are beyond my control).

2. Have money. It would make so much better in my life. I could pay off my student loans, car, medical bills, and credit card debt. I would get my Master's degree. I would also pay off my family's debt. Last thing would be to purchase a house, so I could finally have a stable home.

3. To be truly happy. Although, I think the first two would solve a lot of that. Since I'm already with the man I love, money and health could probably make my life pretty damn perfect.
06/03/2013
Nezzie13 Nezzie13
I want a job.
I'd like to stop questioning myself.
I want to lose weight/tone up.
06/03/2013
LoveBug721 LoveBug721
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
You can choose anything, even if it's not within your poser to really change.
weight, happiness, and money
06/04/2013
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I'd make my depression/anxiety and chronic fatigue issues magically go away.

I'd finish my degree.

I'd like to live somewhere other than Ohio.
06/04/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Some of these answers are so heartbreaking with the insight they give me into someone's struggles. Thanks, everyone, for answering so candidly! I think I have been lucky in that I tend to get lots of good comments on my discussions and very few of the one unhelpful word ones, such as "nope" or "meh"
06/04/2013
sunflower sunflower
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
You can choose anything, even if it's not within your poser to really change.
1. I'd be physically healthy. And mentally I guess.
2. Have a cool social life
3. Move out of Michigan. Or move somewhere better than my town.

Alternatively, I would time travel back and prevent shit from happening.
That was kind of vague but yes.
06/05/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by sunflower
1. I'd be physically healthy. And mentally I guess.
2. Have a cool social life
3. Move out of Michigan. Or move somewhere better than my town.

Alternatively, I would time travel back and prevent shit from happening.
That was kind ... More
You guess you want to be mentally healthy? Not sure because mental health is so overrated? I'm teasing you !

Also, I don't blame you for your alternative choice, I think it's common, especially for anyone who's had a pivotal accident in their life.
06/06/2013
melissa1973 melissa1973
The 3 things I'd chage are:
1. Never would have married my X-husband.
2. Definately wouldn't have allowed myself to put on the weight that I have over the past 14 years.
3. I'm with bayosgirl, I would be out of Ohio as well. Just someplace I can get a job with my degrees.
06/06/2013
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