Would you tell someone they need to brush their teeth or floss?

.kaycat .kaycat
I had a best friend once, and at lunch we would get slushies. I always got blue he always got red, my teeth stayed white his teeth stained pink, like little fuzzy pink slippers around his teeth. It was gross how much plaque he had caked up on his gum line and between his teeth. And one day I found some courage to tell him, and he said he already knew, and didn't like brushing or flossing.
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05/25/2013
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kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by .kaycat
I had a best friend once, and at lunch we would get slushies. I always got blue he always got red, my teeth stayed white his teeth stained pink, like little fuzzy pink slippers around his teeth. It was gross how much plaque he had caked up on his gum ... More
LOL

You are a good friend. I can't help but stare just for a second when I notice someone has layers of... stuff... on their teeth.

Wow. They jsut didn't like flossing or brushing? LOL. Yikes. Well, at least they won't be getting fluoride poisioning for a good while. Ha Ha Ha. Hey, I don't like brushing either. It sucks. It's messy and it burns and I hate standing there for 4 minutes everday, but I can't stand the feeling in my mouth when I get up. I HATE it. It just feels dirty. It's like a weird cool feeling. I don't know how to explain it, but it bothers me so much that there's only 2 things I can do before heading straight to my trusty ol' toothbrush, baking soda & OraMD, and that is pee (which a lot of times, peeing even has to wait! or smoke.) Hey, why not get the smoke done before brushing?

Even if I did not care about the icky mouth feeling myself, that comes from not brushing, I think I'd at least wanna spare the poor fella who has to be close to me. LOL.

I'm bad though. I don't say anything! I know, it's horrible, but I soooo don't want to hurt feelings. So I just stay quiet. However, sometimes I'll be sneaky and bring up the problem (like, if it's their teeth with "fuzzy pink slippers" LOL) I'll just say something about it like "gosh, I hope I don't have crap on my teeth. That bugs the heck out of me. Do I have crap on my teeth?" And sometimes, sometimes it's like a super subtle way of bringing it to their attention without going there. Lol.

Now there was this girl in school with me. Oh dear Lord! Even to this day, people (such as myself) STILL remember! Hate to be rude, but the smell would literally take your breath away! We felt bad for her, being her friends, so we would all try to offer her gum and any kind of mint, but it did not work! So we figured she must seriously have a condition... halitosis? I mean I've never smelled breath that strong in my life. It honestly smelled like death. Almost like something was dead inside her throat. I definitely think she knew about it. She HAD to have known, plus, some of our friends did mention it to her. Also, people would cover their nose while talking to her, but she really never showed any signs of caring. She wouldn't try to hold back, she would breath in your face. So we finally just said what the hell, and quit trying. If she is okay with it, we shouldn't press it & so we just carried out the next several years keeping a slight distance or holding our breath.
05/25/2013
butts butts
I've had multiple friends who've had bad breath, I don't think there's anything wrong with telling them to brush their teeth I'd want to know if my breath stank!
05/25/2013
sunflower sunflower
I'd offer them a mint or piece of gum for sure. If someone has something in their teeth I will tell them because it bothers me.

I HATE it when I walk around with stuff in between my teeth or stuff on my face. If you are one of those people who are like "Well I didn't want to say anything because it would embarrass you" yeah, walking around all day looking like a hot mess and getting home and finding out nobody told you is much less embarrassing! I always try to nicely tell people that they have something on their face or whatever.
05/25/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I wouldn't say anything... I wouldn't want to embarrass the person.
05/25/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by .kaycat
I had a best friend once, and at lunch we would get slushies. I always got blue he always got red, my teeth stayed white his teeth stained pink, like little fuzzy pink slippers around his teeth. It was gross how much plaque he had caked up on his gum ... More
Didn't like brushing or flossing? YUK. However, should you tell someone? No...I think any adult already knows, and has made their choice, if they will do dental care or not.
05/25/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by sunflower
I'd offer them a mint or piece of gum for sure. If someone has something in their teeth I will tell them because it bothers me.

I HATE it when I walk around with stuff in between my teeth or stuff on my face. If you are one of those people ... More
You could also be subtle. Walk in with a plastic baggie with a toothbrush, floss, toothpaste and tiny mouthwash. Say "I was just at my dentist, and he gives these out at dental cleanings (they really do), then say "none of these are the brands I use, here, why don't you take them?".
05/25/2013
Zombirella Zombirella
Yes, if I know them well enough.
05/25/2013
married with children married with children
I would say something, but I would try to be nice about it. Some people just need to know they are not doing a good job at personal hygiene.
05/25/2013
.kaycat .kaycat
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Originally posted by kendra30752
LOL

You are a good friend. I can't help but stare just for a second when I notice someone has layers of... stuff... on their teeth.

Wow. They jsut didn't like flossing or brushing? LOL. Yikes. Well, at least they won't be ... More
Hahah "Almost like something was dead inside her throat." There was a girl at my school too like that. If she even whispered her stench would creep up and gut my nose. Luckily for me we weren't friends at all, we actually hated each other so I wasn't too concerned about hurting her feelings.
05/25/2013
.kaycat .kaycat
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Originally posted by Bignuf
You could also be subtle. Walk in with a plastic baggie with a toothbrush, floss, toothpaste and tiny mouthwash. Say "I was just at my dentist, and he gives these out at dental cleanings (they really do), then say "none of these are the ... More
Hahaha
05/25/2013
surreptitious surreptitious
Ugh, when I have a sore throat my breath gets so bad that it drives ME up a wall. I mean, my oral hygiene is good otherwise - I wear a retainer at nights, so since I have to brush it anyways, it's just as easy to brush my teeth at the same time. Thinking about how gross I feel when I have a sore throat, though, I would totally sit down a close friend if their breath was nasty. If it were an acquaintance, it would really depend on the person, but I'd probably try to come up with some sort of subtle hint.
05/25/2013
spiced spiced
I've told my wife more than once! Almost every time she eats spinach, she ends up with some between her teeth. And sometimes, her breath is really bad. Jeez, I hope she doesn't read this.
05/25/2013
KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
It depends on who it was. A friend or family member, absolutely. An office worker, sure. However, with someone I don't really know, I'd keep my mouth shut.
05/25/2013
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
If they were a really good friend I knew for a very long time. I would let them know.
05/25/2013
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
If they were a close friend of mine, yes, I'd let them know, but otherwise, no.
05/25/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Apparently people with bad breath, really bad breath, the kind that "creeps up & guts your nose", (thanks for that .k cat!, ), don't smell it themselves! They only know if other's point this out. Now, it shouldn't be strangers or someone trying to hurt their feelings, but as others have said, it can be done in a nice way. But, there are times when you have to hold your breath because you either can't say anything, or they won't take any hints!

Even my dentist was torn about a patient they could all smell through their masks & made them all sick during her visits. I told her that she was a health professional & needed to at least address it once in a professional manner, because this could be a symptom of a medical problem. If they were that repulsed by it, it's obviously not normal & she could be polite, but direct about it since she has the perfect excuse of caring for the patient's health.

After having a lab partner for chemistry in high school who had horrid breath, I understand the predicament. She was a nice girl, I liked her fine, but everybody else, including many teachers were NOT nice to her. I tried my best to help her, but she was resistant & eventually blew it off, not believing she had a problem! So, sometimes you can't help, even though you try.

We also had a girl with bad underarm odor, good lord, it was atrocious. The nurse had to have a talk with her. Before that she couldn't understand why people were leaving deodorant in her in box. She was just used to the smell & from a culture that didn't wear deodorant. My father had a run in with someone from the same culture & finally had to threaten to throw the physician out of the residency program because he would not wear any deodorant & no one could stand to be in the surgical suite with him! He refused to change because it didn't bother him & he thought they were being stuck up North American's. When he almost lost his spot in the program he finally complied.

So, my point is, maybe they don't care to live by anyone else's standards? But I would at least attempt an "intervention&quo t;, if I knew them well enough. Whether they take any sort of direction from it, is another matter!

EDIT: sorry for the novel
05/25/2013
Fluke Fluke
I would give anything to be able to go back in the time and smack myself on the head and say "take care of your teeth, idiot!"

Your body doesn't repair your teeth, once they are damaged, that's it. If you enjoy spending thousands of dollars and getting stabbed with needles and going through recovery (dentist procedures aren't painful but they can make you sick after) then by all means don't take care of your teeth.

Now I religiously brush and floss and am super hygene-man. I hope to one day get a cool super bleached white smile again. I wish I had someone to be brutally honest and tell me what is what. Definitely should tell people.
05/25/2013
wicked48 wicked48
Depends on how close of a friend they were.
05/25/2013
Allstars316 Allstars316
No I wouldn't do that.
05/25/2013
.kaycat .kaycat
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Apparently people with bad breath, really bad breath, the kind that "creeps up & guts your nose", (thanks for that .k cat!, ), don't smell it themselves! They only know if other's point this out. Now, it shouldn't be ... More
I've had dentists like that too! When I was a teenager my orthodontist sometimes wore a mask, but most of the time he didn't at all. He was a sprayer also, so just imagine your face sprinkled in stench juice... Haha it was so unbearable. Our family dentist, she had horrible breath, yeasty and sour smelling. It was awful, I handled myself well but my brother actually turned to the side and threw up on her intern/assistant.
05/25/2013
.kaycat .kaycat
Of course I wouldn't tell just anyone, people come and go. But if its people you see every single day and you know each passing day that they have marshmallow cheese teeth (fluffy covered in plaque) then it's something that has to be said. It was weird, my best friend wanted to share drinks with me, and I never share anything anyways, but you see where I'm going. I wouldn't have the courage to tell someone that wasn't close to me. It took me over a year to find the courage to tell my best friend.
05/25/2013
mdnght mdnght
No, not unless I knew them very well! And even then, I wouldn't want to make them feel bad...
05/25/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
If it was someone I was close with, I would probably say something. But it would depend on the relationship and situation.
05/25/2013
marshmallow marshmallow
probably not
05/25/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
depends who it is...
05/25/2013
Castielskitten Castielskitten
Yes I will. And I have. Especially if they are near me, and I happen to smell their breath, I ask them if they know what dental hygiene is.
05/25/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
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Originally posted by .kaycat
Hahah "Almost like something was dead inside her throat." There was a girl at my school too like that. If she even whispered her stench would creep up and gut my nose. Luckily for me we weren't friends at all, we actually hated each ... More
Lol. Hated to be so... blunt, but holy mother of death! hahahaha. Lol. That was the same with this girl -- even a whisper and your sinuses would definitely clear up right away. Lol. I guess there's just always that one (or more yikes!) person in everyone's lifetime who will always be remembered as the bad breath person. Same for body odor. People remember these things. lol.
05/26/2013
TJax TJax
Especially if I have to be in close proximity for a while, would I tell them they need to brush.
05/26/2013
RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by .kaycat
I had a best friend once, and at lunch we would get slushies. I always got blue he always got red, my teeth stayed white his teeth stained pink, like little fuzzy pink slippers around his teeth. It was gross how much plaque he had caked up on his gum ... More
In the Army, we considered it our obligation to look out for one another.
I had to tell a couple of soldiers to take better care of their dental hygiene, higher rank soldiers to boot... LOL
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