Your parents, your spouse, you, and alcohol

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Your parents, your spouse, you, and alcohol

Badass Badass
Wanted to see if their is any correlation.
Private voting.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I'm female and my father was an alcoholic
12
I'm male and my father was an alcoholic
I'm female and my mother was an alcoholic
3
I'm male and my mother was an alcoholic
1
I'm female and my parents never drank
13
I'm male and my parents never drank
9
My spouse is an alcoholic
4
My spouse does not drink
8
I'm female and drink sometimes
36
I'm male and drink sometimes
12
I am female and do not drink
8
I am male and do not drink
7
I'm female and an alcoholic
1
I'm male and an alcoholic
Total votes: 114 (62 voters)
Poll is closed
02/12/2012
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zwee75 zwee75
Badass, I'm seeing a trend in your posts!
02/12/2012
BobbiJay BobbiJay
Both of my parents were alcoholics. I am pretty sure this led to me not being one. They weren't abusive just irresponsible.
02/12/2012
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I drink on a social basis, and my parents rarely drink (my mom drinks more, wine usually). Neither are alcoholics, but I do have alcoholics in the family on my moms side. I barely know them though.
02/12/2012
FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
Can there be an in-between on the parents thing? My parents enjoy a good beer, but they're not alcoholics.
02/12/2012
Badass Badass
Quote:
Originally posted by zwee75
Badass, I'm seeing a trend in your posts!
Is that a bad thing?
02/12/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
You sure make a lot of alcohol related posts!!

My dad is an alcoholic. I used to drink every night, now I drink once every few months. My husband drinks, but is not to the point where I would consider him an alcoholic. There are periods he does not drink at all and some where he drinks a small amount daily. He is drunk only every few months.
02/12/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
My mom does not drink at all. My dad enjoys the occasional bottle of wine.. (it's not like that! we're Italian. It's in our blood ) I drink almost every night anywhere from a couple of glasses to a bottle depending on what I feel like. I have never been drunk nor do I feel the 'need' to consume alcohol. It's a 'want' thing.
02/12/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Wanted to see if their is any correlation.
Private voting.
There have been actual non-annecdotal research done on this topic. This type of questionnaire is as sensitive for adult children of alcoholics as rape questions are for rape victims.
Making the post annonymous is a great first step but there is quite a bit of shaming vocabulary (unintentional as it is) in your questions. Adult survivors of addictive behavior carry a lot of guilt and fear about their own alcohol consumption and the correlation between being raised by addicts and addictive behavior is well understood and documented.
I don't mean to be confrontational just raise awareness that this sort of forum hurts and raises "triggers" as other forms of trauma discussions do.
It was a shock to find that it triggered negative emotions in myself, and I am fully out about my childhood.

I, personally, am female and my father is a recovering violent alcoholic. My mother is a classic enabler from a long line of alcoholics and enablers. I drink but it doesn't ever interfer with my life and I am getting help for the other MUCH more important issues that alcoholism leaves behind. My spouse drinks as frequently as I do, which is to say not very! Arch doesn't drink because he is on meds that interact poorly with alcohol.
02/12/2012
Coralbell Coralbell
I drink occassionally, and so do my parents.
02/12/2012
LAndJ LAndJ
I drink sometimes, maybe once a week, same for my boyfriend. My mother hardly ever drank when I was growing up, and my father only drank when we were out or in the summer time at neighborhood parties.
02/12/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
My parents drink/drank but they're not alcoholics. There wasn't an option for that. I, myself, drink sometimes. Very rarely, really.
02/12/2012
Greenleaf Greenleaf
My parents didn't drink at all until my brother and I were out of the house. Now they occasionally have wine or beer. My brother doesn't drink at all, and I drink very rarely.
02/12/2012
Lisa72 Lisa72
Hey, its legal. I'm allowed to get drunk... often.
02/12/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Wanted to see if their is any correlation.
Private voting.
I am a male. I don't drink. No one in my immediate family drink.
02/12/2012
Taylor Taylor
none of us drink more than the occasional drink. Maybe 2-3 times a year each of us will have a mixed drink or glass of wine.
02/12/2012
eeep eeep
I am female and I drink very rarely, but definitely abused alcohol as a teen to self-medicate. My parents both drink, but neither are alcoholics.
02/12/2012
spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
I do not drink.
02/12/2012
SecretToyLover2 SecretToyLover2
Well you forgot a few poll options that would have been nice.

Ex:

I'm a female and my parents drank, but were NOT alcoholics/drank sometimes.

My spouse drinks sometimes.


The only alcoholics in my family were uncles and aunts.
02/13/2012
MissCandyland MissCandyland
I've been fortunate that none of my loved ones are alcoholics.
02/13/2012
Teacookie Teacookie
the corlation you seem to be looking for is the gene in charged of addictions. it can be passed down geneticly =/
02/13/2012
Eliza Eliza
Quote:
Originally posted by FemmeFlo
Can there be an in-between on the parents thing? My parents enjoy a good beer, but they're not alcoholics.
I was thinking the same thing.
02/13/2012
Jul!a Jul!a
My father is an alcoholic, my mother drinks sometimes. I drink socially with friends, and my husband just doesn't really drink much.
02/13/2012
married with children married with children
my grandpa was an alcoholic, my dad never drank in his life. but his brother does nothing but drinks. I drink sometimes, but I never get drunk. I just have a beer or 2.
02/13/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
Because of all the negativity that has occured in my lifetime with my mom and my brother (and several other family members that were alcoholics) I am not a big drinker myself. I am one of the ones that "knew better" to get into it and stopped myself before it got to that point. I was big into drinking when I was younger and dumber, but since my kids and marriage, I only drink a few times a year.
02/13/2012
GONE! GONE!
My parents never drank and honestly it only made me more curious about it.
02/14/2012
Illusional Illusional
My mother used to drink a little brandy but never got wasted.
I, on the other hand love to be wasted.
02/14/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Wanted to see if their is any correlation.
Private voting.
My parents went out a few times when I was younger and they were together but NOTHING like I see young parents these days doing. Neither are alcoholics or really drink anymore, especially my mom. I drink rarely and when I do it isn't enough to get remotely drunk. My fiance does every now and then if we go out or he will have a drink for dinner but it's not a problem. I made it clear when we got together where I stood on certain issues, alcohol and drugs being a major one. I had a problem in the past with an ex that was abusive and when I finally got out I swore I'd never date a drinker or someone that smokes weed (which I was oblivious and didn't know for years)
02/14/2012
ijako9 ijako9
My parents never drank my wife a little back before she met me but not really and I never have no desire to wake up face down in my own vomit
02/14/2012
snuggly snuggly
My parents never drank, but I do on occasion.
02/14/2012
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